Mormon weddings are based on lust

[_Dr. Shades]

There was a study done, though, that men's judgement is severely impaired when they're horny.

Is that study online somewhere? I'll need to read it myself before I can accept such a radical assertion.

[_cinepro]

Whereas, you have two "sinful" people who are having sex a month or two or three into the relationship, and they're not going to be basing their decision to marry on lust. It's going to be based on love and compatibility.

Discuss.

Considering the amount of pre-marital (or non-marital) sex that's been going on in the last few decades, the data is probably out there to test that theory.

On a related note are the observations of "sexual economy", where researchers have noted that....

...despite the fact that women are holding the sexual purse strings, they aren't asking for much in return these days—the market "price" of sex is currently very low. There are several likely reasons for this. One is the spread of pornography: Since high-speed digital porn gives men additional sexual options—more supply for his elevated demand—it takes some measure of price control away from women. The Pill lowered the cost as well. There are also, quite simply, fewer social constraints on sexual relationships than there once were. As a result, the sexual decisions of young women look more like those of men than they once did, at least when women are in their twenties. The price of sex is low, in other words, in part because its costs to women are lower than they used to be.

I don't think that having unmarried Mormon women (and men) increase the supply of non-marital sex would have any positive long-term benefits for them or the Mormon society as a whole.

[_cinepro]

There was a study done, though, that men's judgement is severely impaired when they're horny.

Is that study online somewhere? I'll need to read it myself before I can accept such a radical assertion.

Hahaha.

The study I've heard about wasn't that men's judgement was impaired from a general lack of sex and state of horniness. What they did was they had some male college students fill out a questionnaire about what they would and wouldn't do sexually, and then they had them masturbate for a while until they were really worked up, and then stop and re-do the questionnaire.

The study showed that when the guys were worked up, they would do almost anything with anybody or anything (including many things, like gay sex, that they insisted they would never do on the original questionnaire).

But any girl who has had a steamy date with a guy in the back seat of a car already knew this.

[Guest]

Although the whole celestial masonry thing right beforehand kind of spoils the mood.

Yes, Yes, Yes!

OK, here's a story. I've embedded this in Buffalo's thread because I'm too shy to share it on my own, dedicated thread.

Right after we got married in the temple, we were at my in-laws house in an upstairs bedroom in our nice clothes. It was time to change into different clothes before the reception. Mother-In-Law was itching to get us downstairs for pictures and lunch. She told us we had 5 minutes, max. The bedroom we were in did not have a lock on the door. We stood facing each other and lusted. For me, it was the first time I truly lusted after her. I knew someone might knock on the door at any moment. There was a sense of mischief in the air. MIL knew we were fully capable of being naughty and made sure we understood the time frame. Well, we started making for a very nice romantic movie and as the clock continued to tick with risk of MIL knocking steadily increasing, the excitement grew!

For the first time I knew we could go all the way but shouldn't.

Before marriage, we never felt we "could" go all the way so we didn't really think about it much.

[_bcspace]

Mormon weddings are based on lust

Virtually all marriages have an element of lust, even a large one, and that's appropriate. Just be sure to have the other necessary elements as well.

[_Drifting]

Mormon weddings are based on lust

Virtually all marriages have an element of lust, even a large one, and that's appropriate. Just be sure to have the other necessary elements as well.

bcspace, what do you think these 'other elements' are (what does the Church officially say they are?) and can they be achieved in the relatively tight timescale that the Church expects between returning from a mission and sprinting down the aisle?

[_Dr. Shades]

Well, we started making for a very nice romantic movie and as the clock continued to tick with risk of MIL knocking steadily increasing, the excitement grew!

For the first time I knew we could go all the way but shouldn't.

"Shouldn't" =/= "didn't."

So, did you or didn't you?

[_Jason Bourne]

Mormon weddings are based on lust

Virtually all marriages have an element of lust, even a large one, and that's appropriate. Just be sure to have the other necessary elements as well.

Interestingly with all the criticism about how Mormon's rush into marriage so they can have sex and not violate the law of chastity and amazing number of temple marriages survive long term.

Now how happy those marriages are I do not know.

[_Buffalo]

Mormon weddings are based on lust

Virtually all marriages have an element of lust, even a large one, and that's appropriate. Just be sure to have the other necessary elements as well.

The difference is in LDS dating situations that the lust builds up to a point where weddings are rushed inappropriately, before the couple can determine if they're really compatible.

[_Buffalo]

There was a study done, though, that men's judgement is severely impaired when they're horny.

Is that study online somewhere? I'll need to read it myself before I can accept such a radical assertion.

LOL!

I forget where I read it. Basically they aroused some men via pics of hot women, and then tested their judgement. They started making bad decisions when they were horny.