Lemmie wrote:This I think is a key point. You keeps emphasizing that you are not directly harming the SP in the OP with your words here, so why doesn't it work both ways? How would it "neuter" your "own identity" if the person in the OP "[felt] good about himself," Water Dog???
How can you feel so threatened simply by the idea of--not the acquaintanceship with, not any interaction with, not even any day to day knowledge of, but just the IDEA of---another person feeling at ease with a different situation that you feel "neutered" by it??
Water Dog wrote:I'd love for him to feel good about himself.
Water Dog, yesterday, wrote: A transperson will never be a totally normal member of society no matter how badly they want it. I don't care if this ugly man wants to be a woman, he's not and never will be. I don't care how much surgery he gets. His appearance will always creep people out.
Yes, I can see you would love for her to feel good about herself.
Water Dog wrote:Why does that demand action on my part?
What action is being demanded of you that makes you feel neutered?
WD wrote:
What I reject is the notion that I am responsible for his feelings in any way.
Who is telling you that you are responsible for her feelings? Is that what is making you feel neutered?
WD wrote: The hard cold reality is that people are going to react to his behavior in ways that make him personally feel uncomfortable.
Sadly, yes. Bigots exist.
Water Dog wrote:And there is nothing wrong with this. I am not a bigot or an asshole or any other nasty names because I have a completely natural and reasonable human reaction to this man.
The definition of bigotry, prejudice and intolerance.
WD wrote: However, instead of accepting that responsibility for his own behavior and situation, and coming to terms with it, he goes around crying and demanding that the whole world be changed into a massive safe space on his behalf.
I must have missed that. Could you post where she is "demanding that the whole world be changed"? Is that what is making you feel neutered?
Water Dog wrote:I am making no demands of this man whatsoever. He, and you, however, are making demands of me.
What demands is she making of you? What demands am I making of you? Is your misperception of demands what is making you feel neutered?