Bishop Interviews with 8-11 Children

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Re: Bishop Interviews with 8-11 Children

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I Have Questions wrote:
Wed Nov 01, 2023 7:58 am
Res Ipsa wrote:
Tue Oct 31, 2023 5:01 pm
Ad hominem attack noted.

I expressed disagreement with your statement. Then I answered the yes or no question you asked me with "no." I haven't "refused" to do anything. I simply waited for an indication that someone is interested in what I have to say on the topic before saying more.
But it had to be the right kind of indication by your arbitrary measure, right? If someone asks a yes/no type of question I’m anticipating you’ll now only post yes or no in response? Or will you bend a little when it’s not me doing the asking?
When I post in the black, I am obligated to follow the rules, as is any other poster. I am not obligated to conform my posts to your expectations.
Nor me to yours.
No.

I have no idea what you are anticipating.

There is nothing to "bend."
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Re: Bishop Interviews with 8-11 Children

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Res Ipsa wrote:
Mon Oct 30, 2023 2:52 pm
I Have Questions wrote:
Mon Oct 30, 2023 10:32 am
From the current handbook:
before interviewing a young man for priesthood ordination, the bishop obtains verbal permission from the parents or guardians. Permission is not required from a parent or guardian who has no legal basis for opposing the action.

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/stu ... e_number63

So the Bishop is authorised to interview a minor regardless of a parents' objection.
No.
Res Ipsa, your no response is clear and reasonable but I think the quote about permission is quite odd. It makes an exception to requiring permission but it appears quite unclear when such an exception might exist. I do not know what sort of legal basis might exist beyond perhaps a parent always has a right to deny the interview. In that case I would expect a church position to be that the child's church and priesthood participation is voluntary and depends upon finishing the interview. If you choose no interview the child's participation would be limited. I imagine that would be a safe legal position for the church to take.
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Re: Bishop Interviews with 8-11 Children

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huckelberry wrote:
Wed Nov 01, 2023 10:05 pm
Res Ipsa wrote:
Mon Oct 30, 2023 2:52 pm
No.
Res Ipsa, your no response is clear and reasonable but I think the quote about permission is quite odd. It makes an exception to requiring permission but it appears quite unclear when such an exception might exist. I do not know what sort of legal basis might exist beyond perhaps a parent always has a right to deny the interview. In that case I would expect a church position to be that the child's church and priesthood participation is voluntary and depends upon finishing the interview. If you choose no interview the child's participation would be limited. I imagine that would be a safe legal position for the church to take.
I think the issue is the distinction between being a biological parent and having what we call parental rights. Some biological parents voluntarily or involuntarily lose all parental rights. In the example of a bio parent who has been stripped of parental rights because they abused the child, that bio parent has no legal right to determine anything with respect to the child. In that case, that parent would have "no legal basis" as the exception states.

With respect to "guardian," the word does have a popular usage that doesn't necessarily mean legal guardianship. If I say that I'm my nephew's guardian because he was sent by his parents to live with me for whatever reason, I might describe myself as a "guardian." But if I haven't been appointed as a legal guardian, I would fall within the exception because I have no legal basis to make decisions about my nephew's religious upbringing.

Beyond that, the modern trend in divorce law is away from all or nothing "custody." Here in Washington, certain areas of decision making, including religious upbringing, are designated as joint or are assigned to one parent or the other. If I divorced and, whether voluntarily or not, the decree gave decision making over religious upbringing to the children's mother, I would fall into the exception because I would have no legal basis for having any say in the children's religious upbringing.

The same can be true of a guardianship. Suppose I were a sole parent and had a long-term illness that left me unable to provide day to day care of my children. If she agreed, I could appoint my sister as guardian of my children, but I could reserve decision making over the children's religious upbringing to myself. If I did not include that area of decision making in the guardianship, then my sister would fall within the exception even though she qualifies as the children's legal guardian.

The exception is needed to make sure the church gets permission only from people who have the legal right to give it.
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Res Ipsa, you provided a good clear legal clarification. Those consideration certainly fit the quoted observation. I was unaware of how the church handled parental permission, I was unaware of any such permission requested before my youthful interviews. Perhaps my parents did not think to mention it.However I might wonder if requesting permission instead of assuming it is a more recent development.
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huckelberry wrote:
Wed Nov 01, 2023 11:11 pm
Res Ipsa, you provided a good clear legal clarification. Those consideration certainly fit the quoted observation. I was unaware of how the church handled parental permission, I was unaware of any such permission requested before my youthful interviews. Perhaps my parents did not think to mention it.However I might wonder if requesting permission instead of assuming it is a more recent development.
I also don’t recall anything about parental permission before interviews with my bishop. On the other hand, I probably wouldn’t have been told about unless my parents did not give permission for something (which I also don’t recall happening).

I never hung around long enough to learn about the rules regarding permission.
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When a youth meets with a Church leader, a parent or another adult must be present. The youth may invite the adult to join the meeting or wait outside the room.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/stu ... e_number10

If the parent or other adult is outside of the room, then they aren't "present".
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Res Ipsa wrote:
Wed Nov 01, 2023 1:44 pm
I Have Questions wrote:
Wed Nov 01, 2023 7:58 am
But it had to be the right kind of indication by your arbitrary measure, right? If someone asks a yes/no type of question I’m anticipating you’ll now only post yes or no in response? Or will you bend a little when it’s not me doing the asking?

Nor me to yours.
No.

I have no idea what you are anticipating.

There is nothing to "bend."
No idea. :roll:
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Re: Bishop Interviews with 8-11 Children

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I Have Questions wrote:
Fri Nov 03, 2023 8:34 am
When a youth meets with a Church leader, a parent or another adult must be present. The youth may invite the adult to join the meeting or wait outside the room.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/stu ... e_number10

If the parent or other adult is outside of the room, then they aren't "present".
I have a question, I am confused by your post. My memory says that at no time when I was having one of those interviews with the bishop was anybody else there. It was the two of us . Your quote does not fit any actual experience of mine. Puzzled I followed your link and found explanation about who does interviews for what reasons. I saw absolutely nothing about a parent being present. What have you quoted? I have heard some people say that would be a good idea. Are you saying that what should be done is not being done?
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huckelberry wrote:
Fri Nov 03, 2023 5:11 pm
I Have Questions wrote:
Fri Nov 03, 2023 8:34 am
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/stu ... e_number10

If the parent or other adult is outside of the room, then they aren't "present".
I have a question, I am confused by your post. My memory says that at no time when I was having one of those interviews with the bishop was anybody else there. It was the two of us . Your quote does not fit any actual experience of mine. Puzzled I followed your link and found explanation about who does interviews for what reasons. I saw absolutely nothing about a parent being present. What have you quoted? I have heard some people say that would be a good idea. Are you saying that what should be done is not being done?
IHQ is quoting from the current handbook, which was issued within the last few years. I think you and I were out long before there were any such guidelines.
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Re: Bishop Interviews with 8-11 Children

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Res Ipsa wrote:
Fri Nov 03, 2023 5:26 pm
huckelberry wrote:
Fri Nov 03, 2023 5:11 pm
I have a question, I am confused by your post. My memory says that at no time when I was having one of those interviews with the bishop was anybody else there. It was the two of us . Your quote does not fit any actual experience of mine. Puzzled I followed your link and found explanation about who does interviews for what reasons. I saw absolutely nothing about a parent being present. What have you quoted? I have heard some people say that would be a good idea. Are you saying that what should be done is not being done?
IHQ is quoting from the current handbook, which was issued within the last few years. I think you and I were out long before there were any such guidelines.
Res Ipsa, I first followed the link and read down finding nothing like the quote, hence my puzzle. Because of your observation I tried again only scrolled up a ways to find the quote and subject. It was there. Ok.
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