Is it healthy for a TBM spouse to "drop it" or "let it go?"

[_Polygamy-Porter]

Zeezrom,

First let me say that I hope you find a way to repair your faith and return to the church. I hope you have retained a fiath in God and have not stopped praying.

Spoken like a true Mormon!

Rather than offer hope that his marriage will heal you go right past the heart and into the back pocket for the goddamned wallet.

There is a talk given by Matthew Cowley where he addresses this very topic. His advice to the faithful wife was to carry on with her church activity and to remain faithful.

Really? that's great. I'd suggest Z get a non Mormon counselor.

Part of the Abrahamic Covenant is that he will always make the church covenants and their blessings available to those withen the covenant. As she remains faithful the Lord will do his part to repair your faith in him. Make yourself available to the whisperings of the spirit.

Yeah and don't forget to put your kids teeth under their pillows so they get a dirty quarter in the morning from a dirty rodent who smells like a dryer sheet.

Prove to me this curelom dung called Abrahamic covenant. Prove to me it provides real results instead of self induced emotional epiphanies to confirm a bias.

[_Polygamy-Porter]

Battle each other to the death.

Lotion will help with your chafing Nehwhore.

[_Willy Law]

Zeezrom,

First let me say that I hope you find a way to repair your faith and return to the church. I hope you have retained a fiath in God and have not stopped praying.

There is a talk given by Matthew Cowley where he addresses this very topic. His advice to the faithful wife was to carry on with her church activity and to remain faithful.

Part of the Abrahamic Covenant is that he will always make the church covenants and their blessings available to those withen the covenant. As she remains faithful the Lord will do his part to repair your faith in him. Make yourself available to the whisperings of the spirit.

All the best
Mike

Seriously Mike, is this an act? You can't be for real.

[_bcspace]

Might my wife's decision to "drop it" or "let it go" actually be a maneuver to control the situation? By avoiding the issue, they have become silent on the subject which means the DH might be required to continue forward with the actions they've been used to, such as going to the temple, paying tithing, etc. If he were to contest any of those things, he would breach into the bubble my wife created by trying to let it all go.

Sounds like a good strategy, but in case of paranoia, there are no strategies listed for just such an occaision. While for the DH, removing his name from the role and possibly divorce is the appropriate option, my wife might correctly feel that she can continue to positively influence the children against DH's apostasy by sticking it out with DH at least until the kids leave the home. Have I increased your self-doubt and fear zeez?

[_moksha]

I think a house divided against itself would be drafty in the winter.

[_Aristotle Smith]

z,

Find someone else to talk to. Problem solved.

[_why me]

Ttribe,
I was curious what people thought about this issue for I recently heard someone talking about it. Why would I come to MD for such a question? Hmmm. Do you think there might be a few people here that have dealt with belief inequality in a marriage?

Now zee you need to be honest with us. This is your situation. But here is my take on it: most likely, you have been hounding her to death over every tidbit you read on the internet. I wouldn't be surprised if you have giving her a headache and most likely she dreads coming home to hear what you have recently discovered on the Internet. You seem to be obsessed with negative internet literature and your wife as become your psychologist or sounding board. Thus, she wants to drop it and I don't blame her. Time to move on with your fetish and go bowling together.

And I would assume Zee, that you have been trying to convert her to the cause: apostacy. Time to regroup and save her sanity and Listen to Kenny Rodgers and know when to fold them and know when to hold them. Or game over.

[_Dr. Shades]

zeezrom:

My answer to your question is "yes." Yes, it is healthy for a TBM spouse to "drop it" or "let it go."

In the scenario you describe, my strong inclination is that the wife is being sincere. I really don't think there's anything ulterior to be read into it. She's just tired of discussing it and wants to change the subject. That's it.

I say the husband should comply without worrying too much. They should just quit talking about it for a while and do some fun things together. See a movie. Go miniature golfing. Bring her flowers. Buy her chocolate. Stuff like that.

[_why me]

zeezrom:

My answer to your question is "yes." Yes, it is healthy for a TBM spouse to "drop it" or "let it go."

In the scenario you describe, my strong inclination is that the wife is being sincere. I really don't think there's anything ulterior to be read into it. She's just tired of discussing it and wants to change the subject. That's it.

I say the husband should comply without worrying too much. They should just quit talking about it for a while and do some fun things together. See a movie. Go miniature golfing. Bring her flowers. Buy her chocolate. Stuff like that.

You said it much more better than I did. And yes, he should make up with her by giving her something special and then, not bringing up the negatives about the LDS church that he sees. Time to move on and discuss more pleasant topics.

[_Ray A]

And yes, he should make up with her by giving her something special and then, not bringing up the negatives about the LDS church that he sees. Time to move on and discuss more pleasant topics.

Negatives about the Catholic Church are, of course, a-okay.

You know, Democrat "great and abominables".