Inconceivable wrote: As Zee was saying, I think my wife was figuring I was looking at porn too. I didn't share my concerns with her in the beginning because I really wasn't sure what I was getting into or what conclusion I would draw in the end.
In hindsight, I would have wanted her to be with me from the beginning. What is difficult is when you have drawn a conclusion and your spouse isn't even at square one.
I think it is a good idea, but I know we sometimes like to figure things out first before telling the wife. My advice would be to go slow and try to share some of the things one has learned in non-threatening ways to test the water on how a spouse may think or feel about it. Many of them would go the same route as their spouses if they have the proper time to adjust. To much to soon can be disastrous to a marriage.
One thing is for sure, it's gonna hurt regardless. For those of us that were TBM, the epiphany is devastating. Your spouse gets a double wammie, first discovering that you no longer believe, and second, that the religeon is really full of Schryver.
Thanks for all the good advice. I checked out the NOM and there was some good advice there too. I plan on questioning things heard in Gospel Doctrine both publicly and privately with my wife, and moving on from there.
Do women think that Porn leads to apostasy? Is the push by church leaders to totally demonize porn used to justify or characterize the type of people who lead themselves out of the church?
Called2Swerve wrote:Do women think that Porn leads to apostasy? Is the push by church leaders to totally demonize porn used to justify or characterize the type of people who lead themselves out of the church?
How can anyone think anything else, since the Brethren have referred to girls as walking porn? Girls = women = porn = once again, it's all women's fault.
(Nevo, Jan 23) And the Melchizedek Priesthood may not have been restored until the summer of 1830, several months after the organization of the Church.