Jersey Girl wrote:Why? Why do they have only themselves to blame for feeling duped?
Atticus wrote:because Simon can;t bear blaming the false prophet mhe worships for all his lies
Jersey Girl wrote:Was I talking to you?
Simon the Prior Dumbass wrote:Gotta love that feisty New Jersey-ness.
Yeah, it's part of my charm. Let's talk and I'll put on my professional hat while we do it.
Simon the Prior Dumbass wrote:We have ourselves to blame for all of the choices we make in life, Jersey Girl. I've made some whopping mistakes, and I would venture a guess that you have too. It's part of life, and we are responsible for ourselves. It is too easy to blame our parents or our church for our own mistakes.
Not that the Church is a mistake, mind you.
With all due respect, you aren't thinking clearly about what has been stated. You stated that we are all to blame for "feeling duped".
We're not talking about choices, Simon, we're talking about the feelings associated with those choices. The type of feelings that some ex-Mo's have when they discover things were not all they were led to believe about Joseph Smith and his practices.
As I see it, people become members of the LDS church in one of two ways. They were either born into it as part of their cultural underpinnings or they came into it as converts.
When a child who is BIC leaves their mother's womb and is brought up in a specific culture, in this case, one that is tied directly to a set series religious doctrines and beliefs, they have NO choice over what they are groomed to believe as a child.
None.
They adopt the religious culture of their parents on whom they are dependent in a variety of ways. A child knows only what they are taught by the authority figures, parents, to whom they are bonded and dependent on.
Due to the stages of their cognitive development, a child is incapable of thinking/choosing based on higher order reasoning and will remain incapable of it until they are, at least, in their teens when formal operations cognition (look it up) begins to allow it.
At that point they are still dependent on their parents for a variety of things among which are food, shelter, schooling, health care, and finances. They have already become conditioned to be dependent on the church as the social system of which they are a part.
The teen, even if they were aware of the discrepancies between the milk vs meat or between what has been taught and what is yet to be discovered, is in no position to rebel against the parents religious ideologies.
In my observation, the first point of departure in religious thought and belief takes place during the period of the mission. What was anticipated as a journey of inspiration becomes something else.
Points of departure from religious thought and belief also take place at other predicatable points.
In the college years when the child's access to information and peers who hold opposing viewpoints or information not previously learned.
When an LDS navigates the years from childhood to college, to marriage, they become caught up in the religious system that takes much of their daily schedule. Add to that the arrival of babies in need of attention, and you have a busy young couple struggling to keep afloat, religiously, financially, academically, professionally and socially.
When that same person reaches perhaps their 30's which is where I see the highest prevalance of "apostacy", discovers that what they have been taught isn't the whole story, a grief process begins.
They grieve for their relationships, their sense of self confidence, the time they spent involved in something that wasn't presented in it's entirety and they are often told that the information was available the entire time, that it was their responsibility for researching the very church that presumed to be a source of authority in their lives.
In short, they are sad, depressed and later, pissed as hell.
When someone like you coldly and cavalierly blathers about choices without any indication of human compassion or perspective taking regarding your former church brothers and sisters in front of my eyes and on my screen, I have to wonder where the Christianity really is in your church.
And in you.
I have been present on LDS related boards for nearly 11 years. If I were of a mind to, I could rattle off a long list of posters who at the time, were questioning, doubting, grieving, and confused, who corresponded with me regarding their upheaval. They were worried about the future of their families, their marriages, their social ties and ability to conduct business under the stigma of apostacy.
I like to think that they sought me out, a never mo, because I was a "safe" sounding board for their thoughts and ideas. Never once, did I preach to them about God or ever try to convert them to my own religion. I met them where they were at and partnered with them as a sounding board. Some of them are on this board.
In short, that is what you should be doing, Simon, instead of giving superficial lip service in the form of criticism to their conflicts. They are real people with real lives, loves and concerns.
I'm not seeing a heartbeat in you, Simon.