Wintersfootsteps wrote: Edited to add: If you asked your friends *not* to light a candle for you, they would probably respect your wishes because that is what good friends do.
I have Catholic friends who believe as soon as I die my soul goes to a terrible place. The only way I can be released from that place is by acts of devotion performed by them on my behalf. If they don't light candles for me, and peform other acts, I won't ever get out. They think I just don't understand the seriousness of the situation. So what is a friend to do? Let me suffer because of a lack of understanding?
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But if they baptized one of your children?
If my child was dead, what would it matter? If the baptism were of any use, well and good. If it is just a useless exercise, what does it matter? I can't get any one to answer that question.
Wintersfootsteps wrote: Edited to add: If you asked your friends *not* to light a candle for you, they would probably respect your wishes because that is what good friends do.
I have Catholic friends who believe as soon as I die my soul goes to a terrible place. The only way I can be released from that place is by acts of devotion performed by them on my behalf. If they don't light candles for me, and peform other acts, I won't ever get out. They think I just don't understand the seriousness of the situation. So what is a friend to do? Let me suffer because of a lack of understanding?
charity wrote:
road to hana wrote: But if they baptized one of your children?
If my child was dead, what would it matter? If the baptism were of any use, well and good. If it is just a useless exercise, what does it matter? I can't get any one to answer that question.
What if your child were alive?
The road is beautiful, treacherous, and full of twists and turns.
charity wrote: I have Catholic friends who believe as soon as I die my soul goes to a terrible place. The only way I can be released from that place is by acts of devotion performed by them on my behalf. If they don't light candles for me, and peform other acts, I won't ever get out. They think I just don't understand the seriousness of the situation. So what is a friend to do? Let me suffer because of a lack of understanding?
If those are your wishes, yes! You don't get that?
Believe nothing, no matter where you read it or who has said it, not even if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense. -Buddha
charity wrote:I have Catholic friends who believe as soon as I die my soul goes to a terrible place.
Toledo?
LOL!!!
Believe nothing, no matter where you read it or who has said it, not even if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense. -Buddha