Who Knows wrote:Tori wrote:I've talked with my ex-husband about this and he told me how humiliating it was for him. I feel terrible about that, now.
I'm actually not bothered by it (not being able to do the baptism). I see it as a great 'exmo' missionary opportunity. The only thing I'm bothered about is how my family pities me.
It never bothered my EX that he couldn't bless the kids or perform other Priesthood duties since he never did the mission thing nor was he ever active. What bothered him was how the attention was drawn to him and the fact that he wasn't allowed in the 'circle'.
Picture this. We are all in the Cultural hall of an LDS Chapel. There were about 65 or so family members. Before we started to eat, we called all that wanted to be in the circle (worthy men) to come up. The Bishopric's representative from my ward, the 1st Counselor, then asked my husband to stand up there with him to the side of the worthy 'circle', facing all of the women that were sitting at the tables, while our baby was being blessed. Most of the men in that circle were distant relatives who I haven't seen since (almost 18 years).
I think back on the moment and I can't believe that I allowed that to happen. I truly believe the 1st counselor thought he was doing the right thing having him stand there because I had asked if he could hold our daughter in the middle of the circle as he had done for our oldest daughter.
So many strange rituals the Mormon Church has and I was completely oblivious to how strange they truly are. I
went along because, well, you just
went along with those kinds of things.
Now, I have a 13 year. old son that has not been ordained a Deacon yet. He probably never will be either even though his best friends are all very active. I almost just
went along again a year and a half ago and had the deed done, but somehow couldn't, believing the way I do now. If he chooses to be ordained when he's 18.....he can.
And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who cold not hear the music. ----Nietzche
