I am sorry, but you are more than a little confused, Scottie. Those things that I listed (i.e. becoming like Christ and growing to a fulness of joy and love) aren't part of the means to salvation, but rather the epitomy of salvation and exaltation. The ordinances and rituals and commandments and even the WoW are all intended to enable our development towards those ends.
It's a game of Mother-May-I - which is appropriate, because the Mormon God is inordinately fond of Mother-May-I as well. If you don't phrase things in the certain way that God - or wade -deems appropriate, then you're out.
Talk about nit-picking. Does or does not drinking coffee keep one out of the Celestial Kingdom? Yes, it does. Now, one can talk about WHY that is - perhaps refusing to follow all God's commandments, even the ones that don't make sense - indicates the lack of the type of personality and faith required for the Celestial Kingdom - but Scottie's point remains. Drinking coffee will keep one out of the Celestial Kingdom.
That's just it, Scottie. You are asking the wrong question--a question that nit-picks in a way that misses my point, thus confirming it. The question that those who have an accurate grasp of the intents and purpose of the gospel may well ask is: "Will living the WoW help enable me to become the very best person possible (like Christ) and increase my chances for attaining a fulness of joy and love one with another?".
Those who fail to get this, are vulnerable to loss of faith (as repeatedly confirmed by many of the former believers on this board), while those who do get it, are positioned for spiritual success. The choice is yours.
Yes, Scottie, the choice is yours. You should be able to 'choose' to believe that, for example, God taught Joseph Smith how to find the gold plates and translate them by having him use a peep stone to dig for slippery buried treasure as a youth. You can 'choose' to believe that God wanted Joseph Smith to practice polgyamy sooooo very badly that he sent an angel with a sword to ensure it. You can 'choose' to believe that it makes sense that God allows the prophet to intermix his own opinion with the mind of the LORD while addressing the body of the church, in the name of Jesus Christ, while functioning in his role as prophet, while expecting members to be able to use the same spirit of discernment that failed the prophet in the first place. You can 'choose' to believe that God thought prompting Brigham Young to NOT teach Adam/God would constitute God being "over-protective" and "holding our hands". You can 'choose' to believe that the Holy Ghost refused to prompt past prophets to NOT teach racist, obnoxious things about African-Americans because to do so would be to be "over-protective" and "holding our hands"... but you have to 'choose' to believe that this same God who abhors being over-protective and holding our hands still inspired the prophet to tell members how many earrings to wear.
It's easy, Scottie. You can choose to believe. Just close your eyes tight and repeat "I DO believe in spooks, I do, I do, I do, I DO believe in spooks"... whoops, substitute LDS church for spooks, and you'll have it. And don't forget to ignore the man behind the curtain. It will also help to turn off the rational part of your mind while contemplating these things.
In case you have any doubt this will work, just ask Wayne Bent's followers, who also 'choose' to believe that God ordered Wayne to 'marry' his son's, and another man's wife, and God ordered Wayne to lay naked with underage girls.