When 16-year-old Gabi Finlayson went to Paris with her mother and brother in December, she only bought one thing: a light pink dress with lace overlay that fell just below the knee. She planned to wear it to an upcoming high school dance. “I loved it,” she tells Yahoo Parenting. “It reminded me of Audrey Hepburn. It seemed like a classic dress I could wear forever.”
So on Saturday night, the Utah high school junior couldn’t wait to show up at the dance. “Being a 16-year-old girl, it’s hard to find something that makes you feel pretty and when you do, you want to share it,” she says. But instead of feeling like the belle of the ball, Finlayson ended up feeling shamed and embarrassed, she says, when she was asked to cover up her bare shoulders.
Warning: Bare Shoulder Picture
Finlayson says the dress code puts the onus on girls to make sure boys don’t have “unclean” thoughts, and calls this treatment a subtler version of victim blaming. “Telling a girl she can’t wear something that makes her feel good because it might make a boy think inappropriate thoughts is so damaging,” she says.
“Any conversation about dressing modestly or inappropriately is inherently sexist. No one has that conversation with boys,” Kimball says. While she doesn’t have high hopes for abolishing dress codes in Utah, the mom of three is hoping this story will spark a larger discussion about objectification. “We need to teach boys, and schools, that bodies aren’t objects. If someone gets aroused because they see my daughter’s human shoulders, that’s an issue that should be addressed with that boy. Don’t shame and blame my daughter.”
Yeah, but come on. Just look at that picture!. She is just standing there with bare naked shoulders for the whole world to see. What's next? Satan is laughing in hell I can tell you...
I do not feel obliged to believe that the same God who has endowed us with sense, reason, and intellect has intended us to forgo their use. - Galileo
Yeah, well, that's just, like, your opinion, man. - The Dude
Don't you know there ain't no devil, there's just god when he's drunk - Tom Waits
Audrey is my style icon! I love that dress. I want. I love dresses and wish I had more opportunities to wear them dammit.
Gabi is adorable, by the way. I hope she doesn't let the haters get her down.
~Those who benefit from the status quo always attribute inequities to the choices of the underdog.~Ann Crittenden ~The Goddess is not separate from the world-She is the world and all things in it.~
Audrey, the hussy, trying to ensnare unsuspecting men with her shoulder skin!
Porn. I think dear, sweet Thomas S! Monson will agree that Audrey Hepburn is a terrible, awful example to the Daughters of Eve.
~Those who benefit from the status quo always attribute inequities to the choices of the underdog.~Ann Crittenden ~The Goddess is not separate from the world-She is the world and all things in it.~
You happy ones... those who have the privilege to show pictures!
- Whenever a poet or preacher, chief or wizard spouts gibberish, the human race spends centuries deciphering the message. - Umberto Eco - To assert that the earth revolves around the sun is as erroneous as to claim that Jesus was not born of a virgin. - Cardinal Bellarmine at the trial of Galilei
moksha wrote:Gadzooks! In a Church that stays mum on the usage of torture, what a Quixotic thing to plant our moral stand against bare shoulders.
Torture only affects certain members of the population who probably deserve to have intense pain inflicted upon them. But bare shoulders torture every male member of the church... (Well all of the males that haven't been castrated by their Stake President).
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With that much shoulder exposed and titillating others, it is only a matter of time until this young person graduates to strip dancing, chugging liter gin bottles and swallowing 'ludes like candy.
Anyone can see the future train wreck with this one.
Tchild wrote:With that much shoulder exposed and titillating others, it is only a matter of time until this young person graduates to strip dancing, chugging liter gin bottles and swallowing 'ludes like candy.
Anyone can see the future train wreck with this one.
Showing my ignorance, who came up with the bare shoulder ban? Whoever was titillated enough by bare shoulders must have had a shoulder fetish (evil in the eye of the beholder).
Ankles next?
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Tchild wrote:With that much shoulder exposed and titillating others, it is only a matter of time until this young person graduates to strip dancing, chugging liter gin bottles and swallowing 'ludes like candy.
Anyone can see the future train wreck with this one.
Showing my ignorance, who came up with the bare shoulder ban? Whoever was titillated enough by bare shoulders must have had a shoulder fetish (evil in the eye of the beholder).
