Liz wrote:Grampa75 is a new poster. From how you addressed him, it appeared that it was completely inappropriate for him to respond the way he did, and even intimated that it was not allowed.
I still think there is misunderstanding here. In the scheme of things in life this is not important. However if I’m going to take what I write on a message board seriously, and not treat it like one big joke, if I’m going to treat other posters with respect and assume they post with serious intent to communicate, and if something said angered me then to some extent it’s important to me. Relative to my life it’s not important, relative to participation on this board it is. by the way Grampa75’s post did not anger me.
Please keep in mind Liz I fully appreciate your moderation efforts are work, it’s not fun, it’s not something I’d ever want to do, it’s time consuming. You volunteer, so there is no need to take s*** from anyone. You have better things to do with your time and don't deserve that.
I wrote: “It's not just a matter of this thread Shades, if someone posts a reply to someone else..and in that reply they don't address the content of what they are replying to, it is should be within anyone's right to comment in response that the post didn't address content and to please next time do so. It simply is not acceptable for a moderator under those circumstances to counter that request and say it's a free speech zone..anything goes.” But from your response, you are still not appreciating the concepts I'm trying to get across.
I'm going to comment on your response, Liz:
Grampa75 is a new poster. From how you addressed him, it appeared that it was completely inappropriate for him to respond the way he did, and even intimated that it was not allowed.
The intimation is your perception. I didn’t intimate anything of the sort that he wasn’t
allowed to post his testimony on the board. Grampa75 made one post in the thread, he quoted my post.
Look at what I say to him: please do not respond with your testimony of your faith, please stick with the issues presented and address contents of post to which you are replying using your "reasoning".
It’s a request, it’s not a demand. Grampa 75 did absolutely nothing wrong. And I didn’t say he did. Your focus is on the word “testimony” that he should be able to give his testimony. Grampa75 could just as easily have posted a song, a poem, a quote from somewhere, or utter nonsense and I likely would have said the same thing if his response to me had nothing to do with my post. I’m treating Gramp75 with respect. I’m responding to him, not ignoring him, and I’m letting him know what I expect if I’m going to communicate with him. And if he wants to communicate with me.
Now, I admit...if Mak or Gaz had posted the same thing, I probably wouldn't have said anything...because they would have countered the way they saw fit. And, frankly, their counter to you, right or wrong, may have been that their testimony was their proof, and they stand by it.
The issue is not that Grampa75’s post was a “testimony.” It only happened to be one in this case. It’s that the testimony in my view had little bearing on anything
I said . I appreciate threads don’t stay on topic, they veer off. But if Grampa75 wants me to respond, I need to let him know what it is I will respond to. If Mak or Gaz had done what you suggest, they would be ignoring my request to post in response to my words using reasoning. And they would also be treating me with disrespect. Not everyone is respectful of others that’s not something one can control. But there are ways one can choose to react to disrespect. If an individual makes a reasonable justifiable request of another individual and that request is ignored…a response might be to treat the individual with disrespect in return or simply ignore them.
You can't control how others respond to you. You can, however, set limits of the types of responses you would like to see happen in a thread that you start. And for that, I admit, I crossed the line.
Liz I did not make any demand. And I wasn’t demanding that limits be set. I was making a request to an individual. Where moderation is required is when someone attempts to disrupt a thread and it’s blatantly obvious. If I had made that request and then Grampa75 started posting many posts which were off topic testimony bearing and it was obvious he was just being disruptive…it would be a good time to moderate, and remove those deliberately made disruptive posts out. But it’s got to be blatant attempts at disruption. I haven’t been reading Jason’s posts. What I have read appear to me to be intentionally disrespectful and disruptive. I’ve chosen to ignore him. In my view he's immature, and not worth putting in any effort communicating with him. Good moderation would get rid of his disruptive type posts. But I’m not demanding that. This thread isn’t that important to me, if it was then I’d make that demand. But for this thread…I’ll let his words be a reflection of the person he is. His words are not a relection of me, so it doesn't concern me what he says.
As I stated earlier, my intent was not to hurt you or disrespect you. My intent was to protect a new poster. I apologize for the misunderstanding.
Well there is still misunderstanding, but there is no need to apologize. I know you had no malice intent. I appreciate more than you are aware of why you responded as you did. However, I hope you don’t mind my being open with my thoughts on this matter. The best one can hope for is that people treat others with the respect they deserve. We don’t always do so, whether intentional or not and sometimes it’s a result of misunderstandings.