beastie wrote:I have known several exmormon women who inadvertently married gay men. I know a still active Mormon man who inadvertently married a lesbian. These marriages ended in divorce, after children had already been brought into a hopeless marriage. But far overwhelming those numbers are LDS who are in practically sexless marriages, due to the fact that one of the partners (usually the female) actually has zero sexual desire. None of these people had a clue beforehand what they were getting into, because of the fact that the LDS church normalizes complete lack of sexual contact of any kind prior to marriage. There was no way to differentiate between lack of desire and the determination to control desire. Sexual compatibility, while not the sole factor in a successful relationship, is an extremely important factor. And no, it's not possible for sexual compatibility to be forced, no matter how sincere and determined the individuals are. This is one of the myths perpetuated within Mormonism, in my opinion. "Any two people who love the Lord...etc" It's just not true. Not any two people can make a good, truly fulfilling marriage. Sure, they may be able to make a social contract and raise children, but that is not the same thing as a fulfilling, truly happy marriage.
The problem here is not 'sexual incompatibility', the problem is a conditioning which has provided unrealistic expectations regarding sexual relationships. Getting these poor 'don't have a clue' Mormons to get in the sack and give it a go before being married wouldn't have solved anything - they would have just experienced misery a little earlier. The problem with telling them to just go at it before being married is that it doesn't actually address the real issue.
Perhaps that kind of God really exists - the kind who wants young people to be told they are damaged goods if they have premarital sex, the kind who thinks sexual relationships between consenting, loving adults is a horrific sin.
I'm not sure how helpful parody is at this point.
I have no idea if that kind of God exists. But I do know that even if he/she/it does exist, I could never worship he/she/it.
Some people could never worship a god who doesn't want us to kill each other. Takes all kinds.