But who am I? I am nobody, a girl from the wrong side of the tracks.
Me too. And I'm here to tell you that you can meet the goals that you expressed, sailgirl7. When would you like to begin?
Back to the body, does it not strike you as odd that your husband expects your body to do what a woman's body does...but doesn't expect it to look like it?
Think about that for a bit....
Failure is not falling down but refusing to get up.
Chinese Proverb
Hey Liz or Bond: would it be possible to move all of my off-topic posting to a different thread? I don't want to continue hi-jacking this one from KimberlyAnn.
That's a very positive way to look at it. Thank you for pointing that out to me. I want to believe that's what my husband meant. It's just confusing because when I did religiously wear my garments- he told me he wished I would take them off and wear lingerie more. He made fun of my "frumpy" clothes and always wanted me to dress sexier. But I was all about hiding in my garments. I guess this just brings up another sore issue I have- my body image is warped. I've struggled with that for many years. I am 5' 3" and weigh 122 pounds- but I honestly feel so huge.I might as well be a hippo. My husband tells me I need to be size 2 again( he mentions that about once a week)- but dang it- I've had 3 kids and it's hard to get there! I want to please my husband and be attractive- but at what cost to myself? So yes, I'm sure he meant well and I need to be more open-minded, it's just that within the context of everything it didn't seem like a compliment. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. The problem lies in me.
sailgirl -
My exhusband used to threaten to leave me if I didn't lose weight - and I weighed around 119 pounds at 5'5".
It took me a while (and self education) to understand it wasn't really about my weight - it was about him "keeping me in my place", finding a way to remind me that I was inferior, a way to make me feel insecure and unlovable. It was about control, and emotional abuse.
I don't know enough about your situation to know if it's similar, and you don't have to continue talking about it if you don't want to, but if any of this rings a bell you may want to get the book "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" by Patricia Evans. It opened my eyes and (maybe literally) saved my life.
We hate to seem like we don’t trust every nut with a story, but there’s evidence we can point to, and dance while shouting taunting phrases.
sailgirl7 wrote:Hey Liz or Bond: would it be possible to move all of my off-topic posting to a different thread? I don't want to continue hi-jacking this one from KimberlyAnn.
My apologizes to KimberlyAnn and everyone.
I'll move it after the game....unless someone comes by and does it first.
"Whatever appears to be against the Book of Mormon is going to be overturned at some time in the future. So we can be pretty open minded."-charity 3/7/07
beastie wrote:My exhusband used to threaten to leave me if I didn't lose weight - and I weighed around 119 pounds at 5'5".
Alright if saying a 5-3 122 lb woman needs to lose wait is idiotic, telling a 5-5 119 lb woman to lose wait is absolutely damned moronic.
PS: Wow I really gutted KA's thread didn't I?
"Whatever appears to be against the Book of Mormon is going to be overturned at some time in the future. So we can be pretty open minded."-charity 3/7/07
I think that you need to see the comments of husband and relative as something positive. Perhaps your husband is concerned for your physical well-being and honestly believes that garments will protect you. This is a sign of love if true. And your relative views LDS baptism as a catholic would view a first holy communion at the age of seven. Both are important in the life of the child and in the life of the relatives. In this case, the baptism and in the other case, the holy communion. I would not think that it is something negative but a positive. Thanks for your post...but I would see your experiences as related by you in a much more positive slant. But of course, you know better since you were there. Thanks for your post....
Who left the goddamned door open?
Look at the fuckchop that just wandered in.
Hey Mormon hypo-fucking-crite, her husband is being a peter peckerhead priesthood pious pontificating pompous ass. He still feels that he has more authority than his lowly female wife and feels justified in telling her to wrap her ass back in the Jesus jammies.
Unless you are 100% Mormon, please shut the “F” up.
Thanks for moving all this- I'm so embarrassed about hijacking the thread like that! I don't want to get a reputation of being a thread hi-jacker! That would be bad! :)
Thanks for moving all this- I'm so embarrassed about hijacking the thread like that! I don't want to get a reputation of being a thread hi-jacker! That would be bad! :)
Sailgirl7
Trust me.....I'm the King of Thread Hijacking. Most people don't care. Most threads derail. Don't feel bad. Own your ability to hijack threads proudly!!!
"Whatever appears to be against the Book of Mormon is going to be overturned at some time in the future. So we can be pretty open minded."-charity 3/7/07
Thanks for moving all this- I'm so embarrassed about hijacking the thread like that! I don't want to get a reputation of being a thread hi-jacker! That would be bad! :)
Sailgirl7
Trust me.....I'm the King of Thread Hijacking. Most people don't care. Most threads derail. Don't feel bad. Own your ability to hijack threads proudly!!!