Physics Guy wrote: ↑Sat Mar 13, 2021 10:45 am
Meadowchik wrote: ↑Fri Mar 12, 2021 5:51 pm
Sure I did read what I quoted and responded to, which is why I gave explicit examples of how a person can deal with crisis without God-belief. The psychological mechanism of valuing and respecting a human being, including oneself, is powerful.
You seemed to be responding to "No atheists in foxholes" as if I had asserted it, when I was only discussing it and had even explicitly denied that it was literally true.
There are certainly other ways, besides trusting in God, to strengthen one's own courage in crisis. It seems to me, though, that all those other ways are also available to believers. So trust in God is an additional psychological asset. It may not be needed; it may not be enough. Some people may need it more than others; perhaps with some people it doesn't actually help. On the whole, though, it seems most likely to me that it has to help somewhat.
Of course this judgement of mine is based on my own experience. One night a few years ago my wife had an onset of what turned out to be gas pains, or at any rate something harmless, but at the time we thought she was quite likely having a heart attack. We had family members there who knew that when in doubt about that you don't stand around wondering, you react as if it is a heart attack. They got some aspirin into my wife right away and we jumped in the car and took off for the hospital.
We were staying in a cottage half-an-hour away from the rural hospital, and the first ten minutes of the drive were on a twisty and bumpy dirt road through the woods, in the dark.
As we started I prayed something to the effect of, "God I'm going to concentrate entirely on driving now, to go as fast as I can without hitting a tree, but please do what you can." Then I forgot about everything except not hitting trees. That brief prayer helped me do that, I think. It calmed me by letting me think that I had done what I could in one direction (prayer), and this made it easier to believe in myself as someone who would be able to do the other thing that I could do (driving).
None of us ever thought that God had miraculously turned a heart attack into gas pains or anything like that. It was all a false alarm, scary at the time, but reassuring, after it had all turned out fine, because in a crisis we all did the right things. Among those right things, for me, was a prayer.
I might well have driven well enough without the prayer; somebody with more talent than me for reacting in crisis might never have needed a prayer at all; perhaps if it had actually been a heart attack my driving wouldn't have been fast enough with or without the prayer. It still seems to me that that short prayer was something that cost me nothing, yet raised my chances of not crashing the car and being fast enough by some percentage, by calming me down and helping me focus. And it was a card that I would not have been able to play if I had no faith in God.
(As a reflection on how memory I works I have to say that I'm not entirely sure it was really dark. My memory is of driving through dark woods, but was I really only seeing with headlights or was it actually dusk? Conceivably it was broad daylight and it was only the shade of the trees that made me feel that the light was dangerously insufficient under the circumstances. I'd give it about 30%/60%/10% for being night, twilight, or day.)
I am glad that you engaged with this a bit more, despite my frankness.
Doubtless, religion is useful. You believe your belief helped you in a moment of crisis and I believe you.
However, here's something to think about: whenever I use a tool, it requires something from me to function. Using a paper map requires the user to read it. Riding a horse requires a person to sit on it. Second, the user requirements of using tools often preclude using other tools. For example, you cannot read a paper map and drive a car, or ride a horse and drive a car at the same time.
So you have two kinds of costs already, the cost of the user requirements ands the cost of what you cannot do when you use the tool. Add to that the lost of benefit of other tools you could be using if you were not using the present tool.
Back when I was at BYU, members of our student ward were driving in town when the engine died. The car stopped in the middle of the road. As I remember their telling of it (since together they all recounted it in testimony meeting at church), the first thing these students did was pray. But when they said Amen, they were rear-ended by another car. I don't know if they could have changed that outcome by doing anything different, but I think we can say that by praying like that, they precluded they possibility of attempting something else at the same time.
Another problematic example that is pretty specific and commonly demonstrated in exmormon experience, is mourning. And it is not uncommon to hear from people of many religious types, including believers, who fear disbelief because they have lost someone and they do not know how they could manage that sorrow without their belief. Sometimes when an exmormon leaves the church and becomes agnostic or atheist, they feel like they experience the grief process anew, because the tools they used before no longer work. They cannot hold onto a belief that their loved one is with God and they'll see them again.
One thing many learn is that they actually did not properly grieve the loss the first time, because the belief that they will see them again is a forestallment of grief. It is made worse, too by the common social pressure to rejoice and prove essentially their faithfulness by being positive and happy. Furthermore, because this forestallment is the prevailing grief management tool, they have not spent their formative years and beyond developing tools to manage grief. Remember those questions kids ask, "Dad, do dogs go to Heaven?" If the parent answers affirmatively, the child will be holding onto that tool instead of building their own.
The way to manage grief is to let it happen, not paint over it with a belief that there is no real death. And there are ways to minimize grief, too, by acting in the moment in life to improve relationships and take care of each other. We cannot always avoid untimely or extremely tragic death, or being on bad terms with a loved one, but that hope for Heaven can and frequently does interfere with the effort to improve relationships now, and improve health outcomes now.