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Blixa wrote:Even as a small child I was surprised that for many LDS people, especially the leaders, "morality," rather than indicating a broad range of ethical positions was instead equated only with a narrow and repressive set of sexual restrictions.


I've always found it rather starnge, as well. I'm pretty sure some LDS youth don't realize that the word "immoral" can refer to things unrelated to sex. I've met people like that.

The EVs make a really good point when they say that LDS speak their own language.
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Anyone who is "headed toward" the Church of the Lamb, even though they may be in other earthly organizaitons.


This sentence makes no sense, so please complete it. If they are "headed toward" something, they are not in it. Therefore, they are in the church of the devil until they convert and accept what you consider the fullness of the ordinances (basically, become LDS; nitpicking and juggling semantics and talking about meetinghouses isn't going to help you).

There isn't anyone who is a member of the Church of the Lamb in this life. Not LDS, not anyone. It is a heavenly organization. So the best any of us can do is to be headed toward it. There are many people who are trying to live to the best of their knowledge. Got it now?

If I get one more "no, that isn't what you really thnk" type of comments, I will have a pretty good clue as to what is motivating your thought processes.


"Taking people down with him" is people who try to destroy the faith of others. It doesn't have to be door to door. There are DVD's. Did you hear what happend with the "Jesus vs Joseph" DVD? The distributors were given specific isntructions to go to LDS homes while they were not there, hang a little baggie containing the DVD and rushing back to their vans so they wouldn't encounter any LDS. Polygamy Porter has declared his intention. Sethbag, pretty much, too.


Well, aren't missionaries trying to destroy the faith of others in whatever church they may currently be attending? I've never heard of the "Jesus vs. Joseph" DVD, but it sounds to me from the name of it that they were not fighting against Jesus, but against Joseph who they think fought against Jesus. Am I wrong? They are doing the same thing the missionaries are doing.

You are wrong. Our missionaries do not go out armed with lessons against Jehovah's Witnesses or Seventh Day Adventists or Catholics. Our missionaries teach what we believe. We have no quarrel with any church teaching what they believe. We have quarrell with anyone who teaches AGAINST any other belief system. And that is putting our belief, as stated above, that there are many good people living good lives, into practice.


I will leave your accusations against the prophets alone sinceit is obviously a blend of presentism, a Biblical double standard and a porjection of your own repressed sexual desires on others.


Gotta love how you figured out my repressed sexual desires so quickly, Ms. Freud. Gotta love how you are so quick to judge people despite your advanced Psych degree which you like to rub in people's faces even though I doubt you are truly able to distance yourself from your biases for true science. What are you, my therapist?

That is basic Freud. They teach that in high school. You don't need an advanced degree for that.

Suddenly repressed sexual desires are bad when you want to fling some crap in the direction of a person who disagrees with you. But it's a must when you are gay or want to masturbate.

Repression is only a negative defense mechanism when it warps thinking.

If you want to think that Joseph, Brigham, and the next few prophets after them did not have sex with multiple women, feel free to deny the obvious. I guess they had no sexual desires to repress because they've acted them all out. Whereas I, who has only had sex with one person, must have a buttload of things to repress.

Andyou make all kinds of libidinous projections from that. I guess you didn't ever read where Mark Twain said he would personally give the husbands of plural wives a medal. He went to Utah and say them. They weren't exactly Cleopatras.

My opinion of your intelligence will really sink if I believe you think homosexuals are being affectionate in a non-sexual way! This is the perfect place for a ROFL smiley if this board had smilies.


Are you suggesting that they are not capable of being affectionate in a non-sexual way? I would insert a ROFL smiley here. What about kissing, hugging, complimenting each other, etc. - none of which the Church wants them to do; it wants them to downplay their sexuality and basically keep it a secret, as well as sever any ties to people who openly identify themselves as gay.

I suggest you try a little test of your idea here. Find a nice, attractive young woman, start hugging her, kissing her, complimenting her. Then tell your wife it was all non-sexual.


Also, tell me whether or not you think that Church leaders would approve of his behavior. I'm pretty sure they wouldn't. I think this documentary is a little hopeful in their regard, but it was made before the new gay pamphlet was released and DHO made his bigotry publicly known.

No, I don't think the Church would approve of that behavior. And for your information, it isn't bigotry to disapprove of a behavior.


Yeah, just laugh it off instead of addressing the crux of the issue - why doesn't the Church mind its own business and avoid meddling with other people's choices?

God isn't just God of people who happen to believe in Him. And when some of His laws are violated to the extent that this is, then it is the responsibility of the Church to try to prevent it.


How can you be in the church of the devil "to an extent"? You either are or are not. This makes it pretty clear how "tolerant" you really are of differing viewpoints. Anyone who disagrees with you on issues slightly more serious than which potato salad recipe is the best is in the church of the devil, it seems.

Hyperbole doesn't help your argument.

Oh, pu-leeze. Abstinence is required of many people. Chastity is one of the most important virtues. I thought you would have understood that. You should go to the LDS.org and read Elder Holland's talk on same sex attraction. You would learn something.


Oh, pu-leeze. How convenient for you to assume my ignorance on these matters. I've read all those talks, pamphlets, etc. I'm well-informed, thank you, and I suggest that you part with this idea of yours that I "don't understand". Now that the Church has admitted that there is no hope for some people of ever becoming straight (it only took them a few decades to figure it out after most of the rest of the population did), they are basically saying that there is no hope for people who are fully functional mentally, attractive and otherwise would make a desirable partner for someone of ever having sex. this is different. Single straight people always may have that hope. Two of the current apostles have married old maids, after all. And don't give me the tired comparison to mentally differently abled people. Not to mention the fact that the attitudes are changing and some people with Down syndrome are getting married to each other, which I think is great.
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You just can't get out of the juvenile mode of insulting people, can you? Old maids. What a way to degrade a person. And you think only attractive people deserve mates? This is really a laugh.

So, you are basically saying that if the only way you can gratify some desire is by breaking a commandment it is okay to do that? Does your spouse know that? You would fit really well with the crowd that believes that adults who can only be gratified sexually with children should have that right. It is called NAMBLA.


You are dodging the point. Again. Where did you get your degrees? I'll venture to assume at least one of them was not BYU. Did the school(s) or did they not kick people out for having gay sex? If not, congratulations! You are in the church of the devil by your own standards. At least you were when you were attending. But since you have used what you gained through your participation in those Satanic institution for advancing your career, it could be argued that you still are.

My master's degree was from Portland State University. Gay people there? Sure. And since my tuition didn't even pay the cost of my own education, and was subsidized by taxes of Oregon citizens, how did my attendance there advance the gay cause? I really want to hear you wiggle your way out of this one.

And the light of Christ being identified as being the conscience isn't only based on Mormon Doctrine. But I really don't want to take time to search out references for you, when you don't have an open mind and won't accept it anyway. I get tired Old Testament his kind of thing.


I suppose it depends on how lax you are willing to allow the definition of "moral code" to become. If you don't think abortion is a crime, then it isn't immoral to engage in it. If single people having sex isn't immoral in your view, then a moral prohibition and the obligation to live it doesn't even come up on your radar screen. Add in pornorgraphy, etc. Marital fidelity is corrleated with strength of religious belief. Abortion is also found in much higher incidence in non-religious or non-practicing religious populations.


So what you mean by "moral code" is the current LDS moral code. I see. Your arrogance is apparent. Again. You have only included the points that seem important to you. What about opposition to capital punishment, supporting the right to choose what happens to your body, equal rights for all people, pacifism, erasing artificially created geographical borders? I think all those are pretty important, but most LDS hold different opinions on these matters, judging from what I've seen.

Go out and study Kohlberg's and Gilligan's work on moral development, and then come back and see if you think "moral code" has to belong to any one group.


I think that LDS attitudes and lobbies concerning gay people, women's rights and their lack of denunciationand and even expressed support of violent and/or anti-UN global conflicts are doing way more harm to society than single people having sex, watching pornography in which only consenting parties are involved, or even having abortions.

The Church has denounced war wherever it occurs. What do you want?

(I don't think abortions are a good idea, but I suspect that if there was less social stigma rooted in religious beliefs, less women would be having abortions).

What? This explanation has got to be good. Bring it on!
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harmony wrote:
charity wrote:Nice history on the publicaiton of the book. But it just shows, you don't understand the meaning of the different revisions. And the way in which LDS view the statements of men, even General Authorities, which are not scripture. You are more educated that most former Mormons. But you don't seem to understand this.


A couple of thoughts:

1. Kevin holds his status very close. No one knows if he's still a member, or if he's a former member. For you to assert anything about him, let alone the status of his membership, is out of line to the max.

2. For you to assert that Kevin (or any of us) doesn't understand anything about the LDS church, including the revisions to Mormon Doctrine, is the height of hubris. He understands it at least as well as you do, and likely moreso, judging by your comments here. Many of us have spent many many years in the church. Some of us are no longer in, but some of us still are. Your assumptions are ill-founded here.


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck it is usually a duck. I don't know if Kevin has resigned, been excommunicated or what. But from his posts here, and on other boards, he is not simply inactive. He presents himself like an apostate. He gives his history as LDS, then presents arguments directly opposing Church doctrine and leaders. That is what apostates do. If his name is still on the books, it is a technicality. Ask Kevin if you don't believe me.

Knowing and understanding are two different things. Once a person loses the spirit, or has never had the spirit, or refuses to be tutored by the spirit, they lose their ability to understand spiritual things.
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charity wrote:There isn't anyone who is a member of the Church of the Lamb in this life. Not LDS, not anyone. It is a heavenly organization.


I would really expect better knowledge of the Book of Mormon from you, given all the time you've had to study it. What about this:

I beheld that the church of the Lamb, who were the saints of God, were also upon all the face of the earth (1 Nephi 14:12)?

So the best any of us can do is to be headed toward it. There are many people who are trying to live to the best of their knowledge. Got it now?


I think you are the one who doesn't get it given the scripture I cited above, but feel free to contradict your own religious texts.

If I get one more "no, that isn't what you really thnk" type of comments, I will have a pretty good clue as to what is motivating your thought processes.


I've never doubted your sincerity. I have expressed amazement that you think what you say you think because it is so far out there compared to what the Book of Mormon actually says.

You are wrong. Our missionaries do not go out armed with lessons against Jehovah's Witnesses or Seventh Day Adventists or Catholics. Our missionaries teach what we believe.


Well, until fairly recently it was believed that non-LDS clergy were employed by Satan, which I'm sure you've had the opportunity to see many times, although it probably wasn't taught directly to investigators - yet another bit of hypocrisy.

We have no quarrel with any church teaching what they believe. We have quarrell with anyone who teaches AGAINST any other belief system.


You are teaching against the Episcopalian belief system and against most Friends' belief system when you lobby anti-gay legislation. And in many other matters, too.

I will leave your accusations against the prophets alone sinceit is obviously a blend of presentism, a Biblical double standard and a porjection of your own repressed sexual desires on others.


That is basic Freud. They teach that in high school. You don't need an advanced degree for that.


Oh, so I suppose that it's okay to make my assessment of your repressed sexuality publicly available, as well? Okay, here we go: I think that cheerleading for polygamy is easy for you because you are probably frigid. Happy now?

Repression is only a negative defense mechanism when it warps thinking.


Continuing with the paragraph above, I will return the favor and make an observation that I think that out of the two of us, your thinking needs to be unwarped, so to speak, much more than mine does.

Andyou make all kinds of libidinous projections from that. I guess you didn't ever read where Mark Twain said he would personally give the husbands of plural wives a medal. He went to Utah and say them. They weren't exactly Cleopatras.


I think a lot of them were pretty attractive. Take Ann Eliza Webb, for instance. Generalizing like that is just silly and not very nice, either. I know there were some wives that Brigham probably stopped having sex with once they were past their prime; with others he probably never had sex, marrying them to have free labor force and a guarantee of larger eternal increase instead. But to think that the GAs didn't enjoy their sex lives with multiple women is rather naïve.

I suggest you try a little test of your idea here. Find a nice, attractive young woman, start hugging her, kissing her, complimenting her. Then tell your wife it was all non-sexual.


You see, it would really be impossible to perform the test you suggest because I don't have a wife. I have a husband. And I do hug, kiss and compliment nice, attractive young women. My sisters and friends. In a completely non-sexual way. Hugging and kissing is more acceptable for women in this culture than for men, which I think is sad. It's tougher for gay guys out there in this respect, no doubt.

The Church doesn't have anything against young single people who are attracted to each other hugging, kissing, and complimenting each other, as long as that's all they are doing, does it now? As long as they are straight, of course.

For the record, I wonder why you decided I was a man. Yet more evidence of your making conclusions without any basis.

No, I don't think the Church would approve of that behavior. And for your information, it isn't bigotry to disapprove of a behavior.


Holding on to unfounded prejudices is, though. And the Church has done that repeatedly over the years. If you think it hasn't, you are really in denial.

God isn't just God of people who happen to believe in Him. And when some of His laws are violated to the extent that this is, then it is the responsibility of the Church to try to prevent it.


So much for letting people have their own beliefs and respecting free agency,huh.

You just can't get out of the juvenile mode of insulting people, can you? Old maids. What a way to degrade a person. And you think only attractive people deserve mates? This is really a laugh.


What really is a laugh is how my words become so twisted in your mind you get a completely different message than the one I intended. What was I supposed to say? Single women over 50 who have never been married? That's what an old maid means, doesn't it? I would equally apply the term "old bachelor", as well. That was not meant to be degrading. I'm not really into PC. Which part is offensive - the "old" or the "maid"? Is the mention of a woman's age offensive, according to outdated manners, or the fact that she's never had a sexual partner? I thought it was something to be proud of. I'm all for mature people getting married, and I don't think it's ever to late to find a partner. If you thought my position was different, you're in for a disappointment.

Also, please tell me why you've decided that I think only attractive people deserve mates. What, stating the obvious facts that attractive people have an advantage when it comes to finding mates is offensive now, too?

So, you are basically saying that if the only way you can gratify some desire is by breaking a commandment it is okay to do that? Does your spouse know that? You would fit really well with the crowd that believes that adults who can only be gratified sexually with children should have that right. It is called NAMBLA.


Oh yeah, cuz I don't give a crap about this little thing called "consent". I think some desires shouldn't be gratified, but there is an obvious double standard for gay and straight people in the Church, and I'm sorry your vision is too clouded for you to be able to see that.

My master's degree was from Portland State University. Gay people there? Sure. And since my tuition didn't even pay the cost of my own education, and was subsidized by taxes of Oregon citizens, how did my attendance there advance the gay cause? I really want to hear you wiggle your way out of this one.


I don't think I have to wiggle my way out of anything. You paid tuition to them, so you contributed to their funds. As do people who donate to PFLAG. Are you now saying that there is a break-off point in the amount of money that has to be paid to an organization in order to qualify for fighting against Christ? What is it, pray tell? I fail to see how one member paying dues to the NEA (if there are any) would advance the gay cause, but you wouldn't hesitate to assert they are fighting against Christ, would you?

And the light of Christ being identified as being the conscience isn't only based on Mormon Doctrine. But I really don't want to take time to search out references for you, when you don't have an open mind and won't accept it anyway. I get tired Old Testament his kind of thing.


I don't have a problem with accepting it, and I've already made it clear that I allow for that possibility, which you have obviously missed. However, I don't see how it helps you unless you and I have different definition of conscience. In fact, I think it hurts your position because there are few anti-social people and I think it's too far out to consider them fully responsible for having this disorder.

Go out and study Kohlberg's and Gilligan's work on moral development, and then come back and see if you think "moral code" has to belong to any one group.


What makes you think I haven't studied their work? Stop assuming I'm some backwoods ignoramus already, please.

It seems that many religious believers are stuck in the pre-conventional stage as defined by Kohlberg because they think that external motivation is necessary in order to not rape and pillage left and right.

I should probably note that I think there are significant problems with both Kohlberg's and Gilligan's theories because of overreliance on assuming humans to be rational and reinforcing gender stereotypes. I might be using the word ironic incorrectly here, for those concerned, but I find it rather ironic that Gilligan, being a woman, decided to put women in a forced category instead of suggesting approaching different people's morals and their circumstances individually, which is precisely what she argued women do when it comes to moral reasoning.

Also, you are the one who suggested that absolute libertines have no idea how to live by a moral code, so I'm not the one here who thinks that there are groups of people who are not in possession of any moral code. Do you even remember what you yourself have said?

The Church has denounced war wherever it occurs.


Really? And what's this: "It is clear from these and other writings that there are times and circumstances when nations are justified, in fact have an obligation, to fight for family, for liberty, and against tyranny, threat, and oppression." - GBH talking about the Iraq war here

(I don't think abortions are a good idea, but I suspect that if there was less social stigma rooted in religious beliefs, less women would be having abortions).

What? This explanation has got to be good. Bring it on!


I've already made it clear that it's just a hunch which may or may not be true, but I'll share it with you if you so insist. I think that the reason for having an abortion might often be the stigma attached to being an unwed mother or giving your child up for adoption. For the record, I think it's commendable that the Church has adoption services. But I think it's sad that they lament the fact that unwed mothers are now less socially stigmatized than in the past. I'm sure I've seen some GA quotes on this, but LDS.org is down right now. I'll look later, if you want me to. When you have an abortion, no one has to know about it, thus no gossip and loss of reputation for either getting knocked up or being an irresponsible mother.

Of course, I think abortion is a pretty crappy form of birth control and that other, non-invasive forms are much more preferrable. I don't think I could ever have an abortion even though I don't want children at the moment, at least. But that's just me. I respect other people's attitudes about that. After all, a fetus cannot be an independent entity in the initial stage of pregnancy, so it is a part of the mother's body which she is sovereign of, isn't she? I suppose they'll be able to solve this problem once we develop an artificial womb.

On a sidenote, I'll point out an inconsistency to you in the Church's stance on abortion. They are not against in vitro, for which multiple embryos are created but not all used. The discarded embryos are sold to pretty much anyone who wants them and used to test hair spray and such. Yet the Church has not spoken out against it. I wonder why. How is this different from having an abortion?
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charity wrote:
harmony wrote:
charity wrote:Nice history on the publicaiton of the book. But it just shows, you don't understand the meaning of the different revisions. And the way in which LDS view the statements of men, even General Authorities, which are not scripture. You are more educated that most former Mormons. But you don't seem to understand this.


A couple of thoughts:

1. Kevin holds his status very close. No one knows if he's still a member, or if he's a former member. For you to assert anything about him, let alone the status of his membership, is out of line to the max.

2. For you to assert that Kevin (or any of us) doesn't understand anything about the LDS church, including the revisions to Mormon Doctrine, is the height of hubris. He understands it at least as well as you do, and likely moreso, judging by your comments here. Many of us have spent many many years in the church. Some of us are no longer in, but some of us still are. Your assumptions are ill-founded here.


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck it is usually a duck. I don't know if Kevin has resigned, been excommunicated or what. But from his posts here, and on other boards, he is not simply inactive. He presents himself like an apostate. He gives his history as LDS, then presents arguments directly opposing Church doctrine and leaders. That is what apostates do. If his name is still on the books, it is a technicality. Ask Kevin if you don't believe me.

Knowing and understanding are two different things. Once a person loses the spirit, or has never had the spirit, or refuses to be tutored by the spirit, they lose their ability to understand spiritual things.


My point, charity, which obviously went 'way over your head, is that on this board we don't tell people what they are, what they believe, what they know. On this board, we allow people to be who they are without us telling them.

And Kevin knows. As do I. As does Liz. As do many of us here who are not your standard run-of-the-mill member. We don't forget and we don't lose any ability to understand anything, least of all our ability to understand spiritual things. You, on the other hand, show a remarkable ability to know the hearts of strangers, even though we both know only God knows that. You're overstepping your abilities, charity. Not that I'd expect anything else from you, but still... one can hope for improvement.
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This post-reply . . . . is getting very unweildly. How about going to a short post about a specific issue. I will start. Watch for several short ones. Okay?

Zoidberg wrote:
charity wrote:There isn't anyone who is a member of the Church of the Lamb in this life. Not LDS, not anyone. It is a heavenly organization.


I would really expect better knowledge of the Book of Mormon from you, given all the time you've had to study it. What about this:

I beheld that the church of the Lamb, who were the saints of God, were also upon all the face of the earth (1 Nephi 14:12)?

I read this to be symbolic, in the way that wrath is poured out, and the devli wages a war. I don't see any big jar pouring out anything, and I don't see a war with battlelines and bombs, etc. Many times doctrinal truths are taught through symbolism.


So the best any of us can do is to be headed toward it. There are many people who are trying to live to the best of their knowledge. Got it now?


I think you are the one who doesn't get it given the scripture I cited above, but feel free to contradict your own religious texts.

I could be wrong. But that is the way I read it. A perfectly reasonable interpretation. I have said before, one of the characteristics of these types of arguments is rigidity. You think I have to read that passage exaclty as you do because you are right.

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Zoidberg wrote:
charity wrote:If I get one more "no, that isn't what you really thnk" type of comments, I will have a pretty good clue as to what is motivating your thought processes.


I've never doubted your sincerity. I have expressed amazement that you think what you say you think because it is so far out there compared to what the Book of Mormon actually says.

What you think the Book of Mormon actually says. There is a difference.

You are wrong. Our missionaries do not go out armed with lessons against Jehovah's Witnesses or Seventh Day Adventists or Catholics. Our missionaries teach what we believe.


Well, until fairly recently it was believed that non-LDS clergy were employed by Satan, which I'm sure you've had the opportunity to see many times, although it probably wasn't taught directly to investigators - yet another bit of hypocrisy.

You probably missed the part about symbolism there, too. I am beginning Old Testament see a pattern. But even then, no church was named. And we already knew that the professors of the creeds were corrupt.

We have no quarrel with any church teaching what they believe. We have quarrell with anyone who teaches AGAINST any other belief system.


You are teaching against the Episcopalian belief system and against most Friends' belief system when you lobby anti-gay legislation. And in many other matters, too.

This is a goofy argument. We don't send our missionaries out to teach against gay rights legislation and abortion rights, either.

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Zoidberg wrote:

I will leave your accusations against the prophets alone sinceit is obviously a blend of presentism, a Biblical double standard and a porjection of your own repressed sexual desires on others.


That is basic Freud. They teach that in high school. You don't need an advanced degree for that.


Oh, so I suppose that it's okay to make my assessment of your repressed sexuality publicly available, as well? Okay, here we go: I think that cheerleading for polygamy is easy for you because you are probably frigid. Happy now?

You think you can say anything you want about dead people who aren't here to defend themselves. I think you should get back some of what you are so willing to dish out. And before you make a psychological assessment you should know the psychology you are basing your assessment on. In this case, you don't, so your assessment has no basis in fact.


Repression is only a negative defense mechanism when it warps thinking.


Continuing with the paragraph above, I will return the favor and make an observation that I think that out of the two of us, your thinking needs to be unwarped, so to speak, much more than mine does.

I wouldn't expect anything different.

Andyou make all kinds of libidinous projections from that. I guess you didn't ever read where Mark Twain said he would personally give the husbands of plural wives a medal. He went to Utah and say them. They weren't exactly Cleopatras.


I think a lot of them were pretty attractive. Take Ann Eliza Webb, for instance. Generalizing like that is just silly and not very nice, either. I know there were some wives that Brigham probably stopped having sex with once they were past their prime; with others he probably never had sex, marrying them to have free labor force and a guarantee of larger eternal increase instead. But to think that the GAs didn't enjoy their sex lives with multiple women is rather naïve.

Lighten up. I thought you would find Mark Twain at least a little humerous. I hope all married people enjoy their sex lives. And your descriptions of anything Brigham Young tought or did are so far from correct. Harmony is saying on another post, how people on this board don't m ake judgements and assessments about people. You stop doing that about the prophets, and I won't hold your feet to the fire.


I suggest you try a little test of your idea here. Find a nice, attractive young woman, start hugging her, kissing her, complimenting her. Then tell your wife it was all non-sexual.


You see, it would really be impossible to perform the test you suggest because I don't have a wife. I have a husband. And I do hug, kiss and compliment nice, attractive young women. My sisters and friends. In a completely non-sexual way. Hugging and kissing is more acceptable for women in this culture than for men, which I think is sad. It's tougher for gay guys out there in this respect, no doubt.

Sorry for the gender confusion. I didn't think a woman would use a disrespectful representation of the female for an avatar. Okay. so you are female. And since you have a husband, ask him if he would like it if you were to hug, kiss, etc. attractive males, and then try to convince him it was non-sexual. If he would accept that, he must be very naïve.


The Church doesn't have anything against young single people who are attracted to each other hugging, kissing, and complimenting each other, as long as that's all they are doing, does it now? As long as they are straight, of course.

What kind of a question is that. The Church would have a lot to say if a young single person was hugging, kissing and complimenting a married person. Try to make your examples parallel.


For the record, I wonder why you decided I was a man. Yet more evidence of your making conclusions without any basis.

I explained that earlier. For the record.

No, I don't think the Church would approve of that behavior. And for your information, it isn't bigotry to disapprove of a behavior.


Holding on to unfounded prejudices is, though. And the Church has done that repeatedly over the years. If you think it hasn't, you are really in denial.

Of course, people have prejudices. It is part of our hard wiring. A way to protect our own group and genetic pool. We have to work really hard not to think in us vs them terms. But you will find very few churches or other groups who have taught as consistently against bias than we have. Joseph Smith urged religious tolerance. (And got back none in return.) And if you want to talk about racial bias, try looking at southern churches to this day. Segregated for the most part.


God isn't just God of people who happen to believe in Him. And when some of His laws are violated to the extent that this is, then it is the responsibility of the Church to try to prevent it.


So much for letting people have their own beliefs and respecting free agency,huh.

Agency yes. Consequences of those choices, no. Do you complain that the existence of the 10 commandments violates people's beliefs? Gosh, don't steal. Now, isn't that limiting all those people who want to take your property? And how about the commandment not to committ adultery. What a put down for all those people who want to cheat on their spouses. I don't see a difference. Jesus spoke against homosexuality Himself. Take it up with Him.

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You just can't get out of the juvenile mode of insulting people, can you? Old maids. What a way to degrade a person. And you think only attractive people deserve mates? This is really a laugh.


What really is a laugh is how my words become so twisted in your mind you get a completely different message than the one I intended. What was I supposed to say? Single women over 50 who have never been married? That's what an old maid means, doesn't it? I would equally apply the term "old bachelor", as well. That was not meant to be degrading. I'm not really into PC. Which part is offensive - the "old" or the "maid"? Is the mention of a woman's age offensive, according to outdated manners, or the fact that she's never had a sexual partner? I thought it was something to be proud of. I'm all for mature people getting married, and I don't think it's ever to late to find a partner. If you thought my position was different, you're in for a disappointment. Also, please tell me why you've decided that I think only attractive people deserve mates. What, stating the obvious facts that attractive people have an advantage when it comes to finding mates is offensive now, too?

It is part of the disrespect package. I know when we are shooting off posts back and forth, maybe it is easy not to take the time to see what the words are doing. I didn't see why you found it necessary to bring that up. And why I decided you were placing an emphasis on attractiveness? From what you said about what was wrong with a mentally functioning, attractive person having a homosexual relationship. And unattractive people are somehow different? I think you have biases about attractiveness from what you are saying. Or else you would have not even brought attractiveness into the circumstance.



So, you are basically saying that if the only way you can gratify some desire is by breaking a commandment it is okay to do that? Does your spouse know that? You would fit really well with the crowd that believes that adults who can only be gratified sexually with children should have that right. It is called NAMBLA.


Oh yeah, cuz I don't give a crap about this little thing called "consent". I think some desires shouldn't be gratified, but there is an obvious double standard for gay and straight people in the Church, and I'm sorry your vision is too clouded for you to be able to see that.

Homosexual behavior is a sin. There is no double standard.

My master's degree was from Portland State University. Gay people there? Sure. And since my tuition didn't even pay the cost of my own education, and was subsidized by taxes of Oregon citizens, how did my attendance there advance the gay cause? I really want to hear you wiggle your way out of this one.


I don't think I have to wiggle my way out of anything. You paid tuition to them, so you contributed to their funds. As do people who donate to PFLAG. Are you now saying that there is a break-off point in the amount of money that has to be paid to an organization in order to qualify for fighting against Christ? What is it, pray tell? I fail to see how one member paying dues to the NEA (if there are any) would advance the gay cause, but you wouldn't hesitate to assert they are fighting against Christ, would you?

Give me a break! When I paid my tuition, I bought teacher and staff time, building rental, etc. I did not pay for the Gay Pride parade, pamphlets espousing the gay agenda. I don't know what you are thinking. What is the purpose of Portland State University? Educating students. What is the purpose of PFLAG? To support homosexuality. A portion of the dues, even if small, which go to the NEA supports the gav rights caucus. You really can't see the difference?


And the light of Christ being identified as being the conscience isn't only based on Mormon Doctrine. But I really don't want to take time to search out references for you, when you don't have an open mind and won't accept it anyway. I get tired Old Testament his kind of thing.


I don't have a problem with accepting it, and I've already made it clear that I allow for that possibility, which you have obviously missed. However, I don't see how it helps you unless you and I have different definition of conscience. In fact, I think it hurts your position because there are few anti-social people and I think it's too far out to consider them fully responsible for having this disorder.

If a person is not mentally capable of making a choice, they are let off the hook. But God knows how much they are responsible for. We don't.


Go out and study Kohlberg's and Gilligan's work on moral development, and then come back and see if you think "moral code" has to belong to any one group.


What makes you think I haven't studied their work? Stop assuming I'm some backwoods ignoramus already, please.

I didn't see any of your argument showing an understanding of the basis of theory on moral development. If you do know the theory and just aren't mentioning anything to do with it, I am sorry for making a wrong assumption. You are familiar with Kohlberg and Gilligan?


It seems that many religious believers are stuck in the pre-conventional stage as defined by Kohlberg because they think that external motivation is necessary in order to not rape and pillage left and right.

Very simplistic view of moral development. Was that the wiki version?

I should probably note that I think there are significant problems with both Kohlberg's and Gilligan's theories because of overreliance on assuming humans to be rational and reinforcing gender stereotypes. I might be using the word ironic incorrectly here, for those concerned, but I find it rather ironic that Gilligan, being a woman, decided to put women in a forced category instead of suggesting approaching different people's morals and their circumstances individually, which is precisely what she argued women do when it comes to moral reasoning.

Remember when Gilligan was doing her studies. And how far that came from the traditional theories of moral development at the time.


Also, you are the one who suggested that absolute libertines have no idea how to live by a moral code, so I'm not the one here who thinks that there are groups of people who are not in possession of any moral code. Do you even remember what you yourself have said?

I didn't say that. I said who was more likley to subscribe to a moral code.
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The Church has denounced war wherever it occurs.


Really? And what's this: "It is clear from these and other writings that there are times and circumstances when nations are justified, in fact have an obligation, to fight for family, for liberty, and against tyranny, threat, and oppression." - GBH talking about the Iraq war here

I stand corrected. I should have said unrighteous wars are condemned. I think you will agree that sometimes that is the
only way an oppessed people can be free. I think the American Revolution is an example of that. But maybe you don't.


(I don't think abortions are a good idea, but I suspect that if there was less social stigma rooted in religious beliefs, less women would be having abortions).

What? This explanation has got to be good. Bring it on!


I've already made it clear that it's just a hunch which may or may not be true, but I'll share it with you if you so insist. I think that the reason for having an abortion might often be the stigma attached to being an unwed mother or giving your child up for adoption. For the record, I think it's commendable that the Church has adoption services. But I think it's sad that they lament the fact that unwed mothers are now less socially stigmatized than in the past. I'm sure I've seen some GA quotes on this, but LDS.org is down right now. I'll look later, if you want me to. When you have an abortion, no one has to know about it, thus no gossip and loss of reputation for either getting knocked up or being an irresponsible mother.

I see what you mean now. But I certainly don't think it is a correct view. How many celebrities are unmarried with children, and you don't see it harming their popularity at all. Today, according to one source on the web, about 1/4 of all white infants are born to unmarried females, and about 70% of black infants are born to unmarried females. Can't be too much of a social stigma. But I won't deny that maybe some women are still ashamed of being prenant and unmarried.


Of course, I think abortion is a pretty crappy form of birth control and that other, non-invasive forms are much more preferrable. I don't think I could ever have an abortion even though I don't want children at the moment, at least. But that's just me. I respect other people's attitudes about that. After all, a fetus cannot be an independent entity in the initial stage of pregnancy, so it is a part of the mother's body which she is sovereign of, isn't she? I suppose they'll be able to solve this problem once we develop an artificial womb.

I appreciate your feelings about abortion. We don't have the sovereign right over another life, no matter when it occurs. In my opinion. What is different from a woman ending a pregnancy and deciding she is tired of raising a toddler and offing it?


On a sidenote, I'll point out an inconsistency to you in the Church's stance on abortion. They are not against in vitro, for which multiple embryos are created but not all used. The discarded embryos are sold to pretty much anyone who wants them and used to test hair spray and such. Yet the Church has not spoken out against it. I wonder why. How is this different from having an abortion?


I don't know if there is an officila position or not, but I know of LDS couples who have had in vitro, and the unused embryos were preserved into the future. They were not destroyed and not sold as you described. And I know LDS women who refused selective reduction and carried multiple infants to term.
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