I probably shouldn't comment.... but it would appear from all the marriages I've observed that no coupling is perfect, and that any person could get along well enough with any of a number of partners. Few people in their lifetime will probably ever come across the person who is best suited for them, and so should try to do their best with the person they best connect with.
Everybody sing along......
If you can't be with the one you love.......... love the one your with... love the one your with.
I probably shouldn't comment.... but it would appear from all the marriages I've observed that no coupling is perfect, and that any person could get along well enough with any of a number of partners. Few people in their lifetime will probably ever come across the person who is best suited for them, and so should try to do their best with the person they best connect with.
Everybody sing along......
If you can't be with the one you love.......... love the one your with... love the one your with.
(Does anyone else get the feeling that 65% of their posts are youtube links?)
"Whatever appears to be against the Book of Mormon is going to be overturned at some time in the future. So we can be pretty open minded."-charity 3/7/07
barrelomonkeys wrote:I need to stay out of this thread. It's actually a bummer for me. :(
Seems there always are the ups and downs, but when do you know when to really throw in the towel?
When you either aren't talking or when the only talking you do is via yelling. Or if there's physical abuse or mental abuse. (Of course then you have to separate teasing from mental and verbal abuse....hmm...Pandora's Box?)
(I just knew I would have plenty to say in this thread.....and yet I probably should butt out)
"Whatever appears to be against the Book of Mormon is going to be overturned at some time in the future. So we can be pretty open minded."-charity 3/7/07
(Does anyone else get the feeling that 65% of their posts are youtube links?)
Well if you count my signature 100% of my posts are. I'm feelin pretty. I assume everyone sings along with me when they read my posts. :)
Well you are....I feel pretty, oh so pretty, I feel pretty and witty and bright, and so pretty...
(Alright....does knowing all the words to the songs from West Side Story make me cultured or pathetic?)
"Whatever appears to be against the Book of Mormon is going to be overturned at some time in the future. So we can be pretty open minded."-charity 3/7/07
Okay, from a (temple marriage) divorcee of 6 years, but engaged to be married to a fellow exmo next June, my expectations in marriage are completely different than in my previous marriage. I believe Mormon marriages are generally quite codependent. In other words, there's a lot of "fixing" each other, as well as expectations and "shoulds/should nots."
I'm hoping in my next marriage to live independent lives shared together. I have no plans to change her one little bit! It seems that a successful marriage usually involves two people that communicate well, but that allow the other much freedom to be themself. If the other does something I don't like, there are two choices...I can ask her to change, or I can change myself to accept her as is. I'm planning on focusing on the latter in this next, and hopefully last, marriage!
barrelomonkeys wrote:I need to stay out of this thread. It's actually a bummer for me. :(
Seems there always are the ups and downs, but when do you know when to really throw in the towel?
When you either aren't talking or when the only talking you do is via yelling. Or if there's physical abuse or mental abuse. (Of course then you have to separate teasing from mental and verbal abuse....hmm...Pandora's Box?)
(I just knew I would have plenty to say in this thread.....and yet I probably should butt out)
I actually have considered lately whether my non-religious upbringing contributes to my inability to find happiness within a marriage? It's not that I take divorce lightly, I don't! I think the break up of a family has devastating consequences for children. Although it would appear with the statistics seen with divorce in the US today and the number of those that profess to have a religious faith that perhaps it's not related? I'm not certain what it is. Perhaps it's just that I have very poor choices in men?
barrelomonkeys wrote:I actually have considered lately whether my non-religious upbringing contributes to my inability to find happiness within a marriage? It's not that I take divorce lightly, I don't! I think the break up of a family has devastating consequences for children. Although it would appear with the statistics seen with divorce in the US today and the number of those that profess to have a religious faith that perhaps it's not related? I'm not certain what it is. Perhaps it's just that I have very poor choices in men?
Oh well.
Trust me....if everyone who said they were religious and "Christlike" and whatnot actually were, the world would be alot better than it actually is. Religion is just a mask that many people hide behind. Sure they may say they're religious and whatnot, but you can still tell who the assholes are in the world fairly quickly (and I've met quite a few assholes in churches).
Maybe your poor choice in men is because you were trying to see the best in them, which blinded you to the worst in them....silver lining my friend. Find the silver lining.
"Whatever appears to be against the Book of Mormon is going to be overturned at some time in the future. So we can be pretty open minded."-charity 3/7/07