Thinking it's time to resign

[_moksha]

For some reason, Bob's dossier on me has had me thinking about a lot of things all weekend. One of them is the idea that I have one foot in and one foot out of the church. Maybe it is time to get out, once and for all. What has kept me in has been the very real threat of divorce. We've been as far as my having all my belongings packed in the car, but we didn't go through with it. Who knows what will happen? But I'm tired of walking this particular line. Maybe it's time.

Lose you family over something that Crockett wrote? Gadzooks! That would be monumentally unwise. People throughout history have put up with annoyances for some greater good. If the masses of humanity could persevere and live their nasty, short, brutish lives why should you be different? I speak in this tough love way, because I care for you. Sometimes people might speak up for some greater good and make an ultimate sacrifice, but that only seems justified when the action would change things. Just losing your family and making yourself feel miserable for a few moments of "it felt nice at the time" decision making, is an unreasonable bargain.

[_Zoidberg]

Honest, it wasn't Bob. He just got me thinking about things, and that's where I ended up yesterday, ready to resign, damn the consequences. I'm thinking a little clearer today.

I don't know what else to add, except that I hope that whatever decision you make, it'll make your happy.

[_Runtu]

Lose you family over something that Crockett wrote? Gadzooks! That would be monumentally unwise. People throughout history have put up with annoyances for some greater good. If the masses of humanity could persevere and live their nasty, short, brutish lives why should you be different? I speak in this tough love way, because I care for you. Sometimes people might speak up for some greater good and make an ultimate sacrifice, but that only seems justified when the action would change things. Just losing your family and making yourself feel miserable for a few moments of "it felt nice at the time" decision making, is an unreasonable bargain.

I had a bad weekend depression-wise, and Bob was just sort of the icing on the cake. I'm doing better now and thinking more clearly. Your post is right on the money.

[_Mercury]

If you have children, they should come first in any decision you make. Except for cases of abuse, children are never better off when their parents split up.

I'm not planning on divorce, charity. I sure don't want to leave my wife, whom I love deeply.

I was just in one of those moods yesterday. It passed.

Is it not interesting that Charity associated resignation with divorce?

[_The Nehor]

If you have children, they should come first in any decision you make. Except for cases of abuse, children are never better off when their parents split up.

I'm not planning on divorce, charity. I sure don't want to leave my wife, whom I love deeply.

I was just in one of those moods yesterday. It passed.

Is it not interesting that Charity associated resignation with divorce?

Yes fascinating....you could read tons into that....if you're a moron and didn't realize that it was already established that the person involved who has the facts already made the association completely clear and said that it was a possible factor.

[_Who Knows]

If you have children, they should come first in any decision you make. Except for cases of abuse, children are never better off when their parents split up.

How about in any decision his wife makes (ie., if she decides to divorce because runtu resigns from the church)?

Do you think it reasonable for his wife to divorce if runtu resigned?

[_The Nehor]

If you have children, they should come first in any decision you make. Except for cases of abuse, children are never better off when their parents split up.

How about in any decision his wife makes (ie., if she decides to divorce because runtu resigns from the church)?

Do you think it reasonable for his wife to divorce if runtu resigned?

I have no idea and I don't think anyone on this messageboard does outside of Runtu and he only gets half a vote. Good luck Runtu.

[_asbestosman]

If you have children, they should come first in any decision you make. Except for cases of abuse, children are never better off when their parents split up.

How about in any decision his wife makes (ie., if she decides to divorce because runtu resigns from the church)?

Do you think it reasonable for his wife to divorce if runtu resigned?

I have no idea and I don't think anyone on this messageboard does outside of Runtu and he only gets half a vote. Good luck Runtu.

I hear that when it comes to custody, men only get half a vote in theory. In practice, the wife gets full custody and then man gets stuck with alimony, child support, and visitations every other weekend. So basically, the man's only vote is whether or not he will do what his wife wants. It sucks to be a man.

[_LifeOnaPlate]

If you have children, they should come first in any decision you make. Except for cases of abuse, children are never better off when their parents split up.

I'm not planning on divorce, charity. I sure don't want to leave my wife, whom I love deeply.

I was just in one of those moods yesterday. It passed.

Is it not interesting that Charity associated resignation with divorce?

Boy, you really know Runtu like the back of your hand, aye?

[_Yoda]

I hear that when it comes to custody, men only get half a vote in theory. In practice, the wife gets full custody and then man gets stuck with alimony, child support, and visitations every other weekend. So basically, the man's only vote is whether or not he will do what his wife wants. It sucks to be a man.

Quit your whining.

Women are still, on average paid less than men for similar work.

Also, as far as the custody issue goes, I work with indigent women on a daily basis in the work-study teaching program I organized at the college. You would not believe some of the gymnastics these deadbeat fathers go through to avoid paying child support.

If you play, you better be prepared to pay, gentlemen.

It sucks to be a man?

When you have birthed a child, lived through a period, lived through menopause, and the myriad of other things women go through, come talk to me.