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_Gadianton
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I don't think it's impossible to find true, enduring love and all that, it just increases in unlikelyhood as the options and interests of the two parties expand. Not even the professor, Tom Leykis, thinks it's impossible. But his logic, which I have a tough time disagreeing with, is that if you knew there was a 50% chance that you'd be hit by a bus when you leave your house, are you going to open that door?

I don't know any ecstatically happy married people in or out of the church. Even those who I'd thought fit the profile and sort of put on the good veneer have turned out to have some very deep problems, including close relatives I'd never had guessed who have as many years into it as Charity. I honestly think the best chance is if you get married pretty young, before expectations and habits set in too deep, and happen to get lucky. I can think of one friend in that situation who's about top of the list for content; not bouncing off the walls happy, but content and stable and whatever the flaws, the fam is sort of an extension of him.
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Gadianton wrote:I don't think it's impossible to find true, enduring love and all that, it just increases in unlikelyhood as the options and interests of the two parties expand. Not even the professor, Tom Leykis, thinks it's impossible. But his logic, which I have a tough time disagreeing with, is that if you knew there was a 50% chance that you'd be hit by a bus when you leave your house, are you going to open that door?

I don't know any ecstatically happy married people in or out of the church. Even those who I'd thought fit the profile and sort of put on the good veneer have turned out to have some very deep problems, including close relatives I'd never had guessed who have as many years into it as Charity. I honestly think the best chance is if you get married pretty young, before expectations and habits set in too deep, and happen to get lucky. I can think of one friend in that situation who's about top of the list for content; not bouncing off the walls happy, but content and stable and whatever the flaws, the fam is sort of an extension of him.


But how can anyone be "ecstatically happy" in a marriage when people get sick, die, kids disappoint you, people lose jobs?
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Post by _Jersey Girl »

I mean seriously, the phone could ring in the next 5 minutes and my life could turn to at least temporary hell. I don't think "ecstatic" is realistic.
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Gadianton wrote:I don't think it's impossible to find true, enduring love and all that, it just increases in unlikelyhood as the options and interests of the two parties expand. Not even the professor, Tom Leykis, thinks it's impossible. But his logic, which I have a tough time disagreeing with, is that if you knew there was a 50% chance that you'd be hit by a bus when you leave your house, are you going to open that door?

I don't know any ecstatically happy married people in or out of the church. Even those who I'd thought fit the profile and sort of put on the good veneer have turned out to have some very deep problems, including close relatives I'd never had guessed who have as many years into it as Charity. I honestly think the best chance is if you get married pretty young, before expectations and habits set in too deep, and happen to get lucky. I can think of one friend in that situation who's about top of the list for content; not bouncing off the walls happy, but content and stable and whatever the flaws, the fam is sort of an extension of him.


So, what are you saying, Gad? That you advise against marriage? Or just go for it? Or, just stick it out to the end, because, well, it ain't gonna get better with another partner?

Do you think it's the marriage that does it, or any long term relationship?
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Post by _Scottie »

My 2 cents here...

[overgeneralization]

2 of the biggest problems I see in marriages are that men, for the most part, are idiots. We do LOTS of stupid things.

2nd, women have the most amazing memory when it comes to the stupid things that men do.

So, after about 6 or 7 years or so of harboring bad feelings about all the stupid things her husband has done, a woman will really start to resent him.

[/overgeneralization]
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Post by _Jersey Girl »

Scottie wrote:My 2 cents here...

[overgeneralization]

2 of the biggest problems I see in marriages are that men, for the most part, are idiots. We do LOTS of stupid things.

2nd, women have the most amazing memory when it comes to the stupid things that men do.

So, after about 6 or 7 years or so of harboring bad feelings about all the stupid things her husband has done, a woman will really start to resent him.

[/overgeneralization]


But only if she fails to harp on him on a daily basis. Please keep that in mind, k?
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Post by _Moniker »

Scottie wrote: men, for the most part, are idiots. We do LOTS of stupid things.

2nd, women have the most amazing memory when it comes to the stupid things that men do.



You nailed it! :)
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Post by _Mercury »

I think im going to start a thread:

Ray is from mars, everyone else is from earth.
And crawling on the planet's face
Some insects called the human race
Lost in time
And lost in space...and meaning
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Post by _Moniker »

Mercury wrote:I think I'm going to start a thread:

Ray is from mars, everyone else is from earth.


I'm going to start a thread:

Mercury makes me snort diet dr. pepper all over my new laptop all the freakin time!
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Moniker wrote:
Mercury wrote:I think I'm going to start a thread:

Ray is from mars, everyone else is from earth.


I'm going to start a thread:

Mercury makes me snort diet dr. pepper all over my new laptop all the freakin time!


I think Mercury is Mister Scratch. Sometimes. But compared to Mercury, who is devoid of all humanity, I see some in Mister Scratch. Maybe it's his "put on". Sam summed this pathetic "human being" up better than anyone I have read, and I think highly of Sam's intelligence. Mercury is not human, he's a bigot of the worst kind, but some are very slow to realise this.

Don't open any links Mercury places on the board, and delete any emails he sends you, because he's a felon who should be behind bars. He's the sort of person who wouldn't think twice about cheating on his wife, while presenting a facade of "love for her" on a board. Nor, for that matter, is Port, who is, at least, more honest.

But I guess this is the sort of "man" women fall for. Don't blame all men for that.
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