BYU is a private school which is governed by the church. However, the LDS church President left a University "President" and other leaders in charge of governing the University the best way they see fit. Not all the rules and decisions made at BYU come directly from the LDS church President; however, the President of the church has been known to, at times, intervene and countermand decisions made by University leaders. Technically the "Prophet" is in charge of BYU since it is a private school owned by the church, and the "Prophet" is the leader of the church. Therefore, technically the prophet is also the leader of BYU. That does not mean that the Prophet decided what day and time people should take midterms or finals, or what the class schedules will be and in which rooms or who they should hire. It doesn't necessarily mean the prophet is the one who demanded no Caffeinated soda drinks be allowed to be sold on BYU Campus. He didn't directly tell students not to walk on the grass to avoid killing it. He didn't choose most of the policies and rules that exist there. He wasn't the one that demanded students attend their own ward at least 3 out of 4 times a month or possibly get kicked out of school. He didn't decide what kind of firewall to put on their network or how it should be run. He didn't decide which buildings would be married housing, or single male/female housing. He didn't decide which activities should be held next weekend or if they should have a chess club. He didn't decide which buildings should be designated for which majors.
There are countless things that the President of the church didn't decide to do personally, and yet he is technically in charge of the school and if he was utterly opposed to anything going on he has the authority to intervene and make changes. He also has the authority to, and occasionally does, make some decisions regarding what leaders of the school should do with a FEW THINGS. In General though, he lets them do their job the best way THEY SEE FIT and lead the school to the best of their knowledge, experience, etc.
So it must be with the Lord. He gives revelation and directs the church, but in general he allows Mormons/their leaders to direct it the best way they see fit having already given us the guidelines and correct principles. Just like what Joseph Smith once said:
God teaches us correct principles and lets the church body decide how best to govern themselves in regard to policies, practices, etc, through the Law of Common Consent as set forth by the Lord in the D&C, with an occasional intervention and of course inspiration to help guide guide us."I Teach Them Correct Principles and They Govern Themselves"
I believe this is the only realistic explanation for church history issues. Many of the policies and practices are simply created based on the leaders' judgment. Take the WOW for example. It even admits it's a temporal Law, and the D&C explicitly says God doesn't ever give temporal commandments. But Brigham Young later asked the members of the church to offer it up to God as a covenant that we would follow it of our own free will. Thus it has become an official practice and policy and is regarded equally as a commandment and referred to as such. Several other examples exist, banning women from praying in Sacrament meeting for over 11 years, baptizing for the sick, priesthood ban, and many others.
The whole "We cannot lead you astray" originated with Wilford Woodruff who was taking heat for banning polygamy, "THE" Law that even he said could never be removed. Such a statement cannot possibly be referring to prophetic infallibility, but the effect they can have on our salvation. God will not permit the actions of our leaders of the organization to do or say something that would jeopardize our salvation. This does not mean that all their thoughts, actions, policies, opinions, sayings all come from God, because clearly this is not the case.
Personally, I accept that our leaders have been left in charge of the ORGANIZATION of the church. An organization that the Lord says only exists because we can't seem to learn to live well without it:
D&C 22:3 For it is because of your dead works that I have caused...this church to be built up unto me, even as in days of old.
As one of my friends said:
For me it all comes down to Joseph's followers who held on too tightly to the practices of religion rather than the spirit of it. It is much the same as Christians who wont read other books than the Bible because they believe God doesn't reveal anything else. The principles of religion are there as a tool to teach us the true principles: faith in the Christ, repentance, and baptism of water and fire.
It happened then, and it happens still today. LDS seem to have a very particular way of holding on tightly to the precepts of their religion and forget that they are to learn the spirit or symbolism of the things we practice...LDS rightly refer to themselves as modern-day Israelites, but don't recognize that they (as well as Christianity as a whole) are lost like the children of Moses.
I read somewhere that Joseph Smith once said the only reason we received the Temple ordinances/endowment is because the Saints weren't prepared for the higher law/truth, and thus the temple was a preparatory Law (much like the Law of Moses) meant to prepare us for a Higher Law since members were not yet prepared to receive it. If anyone knows of this reference, I'd love to record it for future use.
I think the LDS leaders are here to lead the organization as a whole (an organization that doesn't have to be necessity), but I don't believe it is so magically authoritative on all spiritual matters, etc. I mean, one only needs check the Bible to see that Paul went to Agibus for revelation, or that there were other non-Israelite or non-organizational prophets who lived simultaneously with organizational leaders like Balaam, or Beor, etc, regardless of things they did later in life. Other similarities could be cited.
In short: LDS leaders are left (primarily on their own) to guide the church organization with policies, practices, etc to the best of their understanding and ability. God could potentially intervene if He deems it necessary, but mostly allows them to direct the church similarly to how the President directs BYU. The leaders' policies, and opinions don't actually HURT someone's salvation in the long run, and by this understanding they don't actually lead us "astray" as it does not lead us AWAY from salvation. I know of no other feasible interpretation that adequately addresses church history inconsistencies without requiring virtually complete rejection...
Thoughts? Comments? Insights? Questions? Disagreements?