What do LDS men think of non-virginal women?

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What do LDS men think of non-virginal women?

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There's been quite a bit of talk on the board lately how women are shamed for their sexual nature or being "impure". I wonder how does this affect the men?

Guys what are your thoughts on women that have had multiple partners? Or a woman that has had intercourse outside of marriage?

If you've left the Church has your stance on this changed? Were you given any lessons on chastity as it related to women when you were in the Church?

If you're an active LDS what are your thoughts as it relates to this topic?
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If they want to marry me, depends on if they want to do it again.

I don't think I ever had a lesson on women's virginity. The most common one was to respect women.

I have female friends that are promiscuous and that's fine. I don't think I could ever date one.
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Re: What do LDS men think of non-virginal women?

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Moniker wrote:Guys what are your thoughts on women that have had multiple partners? Or a woman that has had intercourse outside of marriage?


I don't care one bit. Sex is like breathing; every higher member of the animal kingdom has to do it.

If you've left the Church has your stance on this changed? Were you given any lessons on chastity as it related to women when you were in the Church?


Although I heard about all the "licked cupcake" lessons, I never really bought into them.
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The Nehor wrote:If they want to marry me, depends on if they want to do it again.


I'm sorry, I don't understand what you're saying here, Nehor. You mean you would marry a woman if she's not a virgin?

I don't think I ever had a lesson on women's virginity. The most common one was to respect women.


I just wanna say you've always been respectful to me, and I appreciate it. :)
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Re: What do LDS men think of non-virginal women?

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Dr. Shades wrote:
Moniker wrote:Guys what are your thoughts on women that have had multiple partners? Or a woman that has had intercourse outside of marriage?


I don't care one bit. Sex is like breathing; every higher member of the animal kingdom has to do it.

If you've left the Church has your stance on this changed? Were you given any lessons on chastity as it related to women when you were in the Church?


Although I heard about all the "licked cupcake" lessons, I never really bought into them.


Shades, did you just hear about the lessons or were you taught something similar, as a male, in the Church?
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Call me crazy, but I like a woman with experience. I don't consider a woman promiscuous if she had multiple boyfriends in the past and had sex with them all. She would have to have multiple one night stands to get that reaction out of me, but I wouldn't think less of someone like that. To each their own.

The whole virginity thing is incredibly over rated. As Shades pointed out, there's not much more natural than sex. The premium on virginity is totally a form of synthetic morality, and has nothing to do with reality at all. The most it amounts to is a preference. Some guys like virgins. Some don't care. Whatever.

And no, I don't remember much about this topic from church as a kid.
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Moniker wrote:
The Nehor wrote:If they want to marry me, depends on if they want to do it again.


I'm sorry, I don't understand what you're saying here, Nehor. You mean you would marry a woman if she's not a virgin?

I don't think I ever had a lesson on women's virginity. The most common one was to respect women.


I just wanna say you've always been respectful to me, and I appreciate it. :)


I've been engaged twice. Once was with a woman who was not a virgin. This is not why we broke up.

On a side note, this is the funniest thing I've seen in a while. Can't stop laughing:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=swKY5tLY ... re=related

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The Nehor wrote:
Moniker wrote:
The Nehor wrote:If they want to marry me, depends on if they want to do it again.


I'm sorry, I don't understand what you're saying here, Nehor. You mean you would marry a woman if she's not a virgin?

I don't think I ever had a lesson on women's virginity. The most common one was to respect women.


I just wanna say you've always been respectful to me, and I appreciate it. :)


I've been engaged twice. Once was with a woman who was not a virgin. This is not why we broke up.

On a side note, this is the funniest thing I've seen in a while. Can't stop laughing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=swKY5tLY ... re=related



AHAHAA! OMG! I just got to 1:10 and had to pause this! Holy hell -- that's funny. I bet that's what bcspace thinks I look like? Wanna bet? :)
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Moniker wrote:AHAHAA! OMG! I just got to 1:10 and had to pause this! Holy hell -- that's funny. I bet that's what bcspace thinks I look like? Wanna bet? :)


I don't know, I never pictured you in a male bodysuit.
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Some Schmo wrote:Call me crazy, but I like a woman with experience.


You're crazy!

I don't consider a woman promiscuous if she had multiple boyfriends in the past and had sex with them all. She would have to have multiple one night stands to get that reaction out of me, but I wouldn't think less of someone like that. To each their own.

The whole virginity thing is incredibly over rated. As Shades pointed out, there's not much more natural than sex. The premium on virginity is totally a form of synthetic morality, and has nothing to do with reality at all. The most it amounts to is a preference. Some guys like virgins. Some don't care. Whatever.

And no, I don't remember much about this topic from church as a kid.


Ah, so there's no emphasis on it? Hmm... is this why you guys don't chime in on the threads about women? Or is it fear? ;)
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