Beastie, did you see Sethbag's reply to this thread? His mother warned him about the convert? She may not be a virgin? Is this just an ingrained suspicion?
Yes, I did read it and was not surprised. This may go off topic just a tad, but I guess it's still relevant to the topic since it is much more likely for an adult convert to NOT be a virgin at the altar. (face it, even in religions that teach sexual chastity before marriage, unless they have a potentially "public" way of punishing offenders, people still tend to have sex before marriage - in my opinion - LDS are more successful at keeping their unmarrieds virgins due to the regular "worthiness" interview and the potential for a public exposure via disfellowshipment or excommunication)
Remember Mormonism definitely has a strong strain of "specialness" and "chosenness" underlying its entire theology. In the pre-existence, HF's spirit children were faithful and obedient to varying degrees, and that variation explained some differences in this life. Of course, the old, extreme, and now rejected example is the former teaching that some spirits are born black and hence, not able to have the priesthood because they were "fence sitters" in the pre-existence. But aside from that now rejected teaching, it is still widely believed that people are "chosen" to be LDS due to their valiance in the pre-existence. This was very culturally popular when I was LDS, and I think of it as the "saturday's warrior" effect. I think watching that play (which was filmed at BYU, too, but I'm not sure how you could see it unless you have the BYU channel on TV) would help you understand the LDS culture more.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saturday's_Warrior
Anyway, when I joined the LDS church I felt "special" and "chosen" in that I had received a STRONG testimony of the Book of Mormon during prayer and KNEW the church was true. It seemed to me that many "lifers" took it for granted, often hadn't sought out their own unique testimony, etc. I certainly didn't feel "better" than them, because, after all, HF set THEM aside to be born in the one true church, which was an extra super duper big ole' cherry on top blessing, but I did think I was less prone to take it for granted because I had to FIND the "truth".
I didn't realize till I went to BYU and then, most especially, on my mission when I was more intensively around lifer Mormons, that many Mormons actually do feel that lifers are actually superior, in some ways, to converts - superior in their commitment to the church, superior in that they were chosen to be born under the covenant. Of course they think that brings more responsibility, kind of like a rich person with noblesse oblige. And there is an element of truth and fact in the idea that lifers will tend to stay in the church more than converts, who do tend to "fall away" at a higher rate (less familial pressure to remain, for one reason, and not being fully aware of exactly what being LDS means due to the missionary pressure to baptize fast).
The most shocking exposure I had to the potential lifer prejudice against converts was on my mission. For some reason, we (my district of four elders and two sisters) were discussing having your calling and election made sure. I asserted that if one had their calling and election made sure, then one could commit any sin, with the exception of blaspheming against the HG, and one's exaltation was STILL ensured, although you'd have to pay for the sin yourself. (this is straight from the D&C). The Utah, lifer Mormon elders insisted that I was full of baloney, that wasn't true. I pulled out the D&C to SHOW them, and one elder's response was "what would you know, anyway? You're just a GIRL and a CONVERT." I was stunned.