Being LDS.

[_Imwashingmypirate]

I was just about to post this in the Old Testament forum, but decided it was somewhat on topic.

I called a friend today. It was ice to talk to her.

I find it funny that when I go back home, lots of people ask me if I met a nice guy yet. Even my collegues. By that I mean in a relationship. Everyone assumes that because I am at uni I must have met someone I might wish to marry. Even trying to probe me to date a dude at church that someone know about. Asking about "that nice guy" that just so happens to be a Mormon Physicist like me. I just don't get it. It is not really a good time to get married. I find it funny. I doubt he would like me that way. I think I annoy him to much. Besides I am too young for that sorta stuff just yet. It is just so funny. I was in Relief Society, it was my last week before uni and a non active person was in church, just sorta standing around in the corridoor. He is a YSA. We were talking, I knew him from church events, (I was in one of those wards where most of the people are related). He was shocked to discover my age. He thought I was 15 or 16. But he actually re-activated. How cool is that? I am glad to look younger than I am because it allows me freedom more.


Pirate.

[_GoodK]

I was just about to post this in the Old Testament forum, but decided it was somewhat on topic.

I called a friend today. It was ice to talk to her.

I find it funny that when I go back home, lots of people ask me if I met a nice guy yet. Even my collegues. By that I mean in a relationship. Everyone assumes that because I am at uni I must have met someone I might wish to marry. Even trying to probe me to date a dude at church that someone know about. Asking about "that nice guy" that just so happens to be a Mormon Physicist like me. I just don't get it. It is not really a good time to get married. I find it funny. I doubt he would like me that way. I think I annoy him to much. Besides I am too young for that sorta stuff just yet. It is just so funny. I was in Relief Society, it was my last week before uni and a non active person was in church, just sorta standing around in the corridoor. He is a YSA. We were talking, I knew him from church events, (I was in one of those wards where most of the people are related). He was shocked to discover my age. He thought I was 15 or 16. But he actually re-activated. How cool is that? I am glad to look younger than I am because it allows me freedom more.


Pirate.

No, you should have posted this in the off topic

[_Imwashingmypirate]

But I am asking why some Mormons are obsessed with dating and getting people married at a young age. To me that is On topic.

[_asbestosman]

But I am asking why some Mormons are obsessed with dating and getting people married at a young age.

I dunno why. My mom was on my case for a while even though I got married when I was 23. Hah, that's still fairly young.

Many members are used to large families. Many start young--even younger than I was. There are probably many reasons. I hear it's easier for women to go through pregnancy when they are younger. I also hear we should start early because the prophets have warned against delaying marriage for financial or educational persuits. Persaonlly I think not rushing marriage is a good idea because it's difficult thing. It's not that marriage is miserable, but it's something where you have to work at. You also have to realize that you will both change plenty through the years, and ideally that should not stop the marriage. I myself have changed many views over the past half-decade.

[_harmony]

But I am asking why some Mormons are obsessed with dating and getting people married at a young age. To me that is On topic.

Because our leaders have taught that getting married and having a family are the two prime responsibilities of all Saints. There is an accepted path to follow: graduate high school, go on a mission, get married as soon as possible as soon as the guy returns, start having children. Getting an education isn't as important as getting married. Being able to support a family isn't as important as starting a family right away.

My youngest just got married. He's 22. That's about average age for a guy to get married in my ward. Girls usually get married by 19-20. Some get married straight out of high school, and have 4 children by the time their 5 year class reunion rolls around. One of my sons was 24 before he got married; he was considered 'way old. My 30 year old single daughter is considered a lost cause, a maiden aunt, an old maid.

[_Gazelam]

The emphais is because there is no higher ordinance in the church than Temple marriage. To get married in the Temple you first have to receive your endowment. Both of these ordinances have blessing attached to them, which enhance your life and allow you to have a firm foundation to view the world from.

Marriage and parenthood are also the greatest classroom to learn about the nature of God, and to view the world from his perspective.

Marriage constitutes the most sacred relationship existing between man and woman. It is of heavenly origin and is founded upon eternal principles. As a part and portion of the great plan of salvation devised for Adam's race before this world was made, it is destined to continue not only while time shall last but throughout all eternity. Indeed it is an exigency upon which man's happiness, the perpetuity of his earthly existence, and his future dominion, glory and exaltation depend and which, in the wisdom of God, must of necessity continue as the seal of the natural, legitimate and inevitable domestic union of the sexes forever. - Joseph F. Smith, MS 36:312, May 19, 1874

And I would say, as no man can be perfect without the woman, so no woman can be perfect without a man to lead her, I tell you the truth as it is in the bosom of eternity; and I say so to every man uopn the face of the earth: if he wishes to be saved he cannot be saved without a woman by his side. - Brigham Young, TS 6:955, April 6, 1845

Sometime before you are 24, you should find a young man you can respect and be a best friend to, and you should take him to the Temple and seal yourself to him.

[_Blixa]

Sometime before you are 24, you should find a young man you can respect and be a best friend to, and you should take him to the Temple and seal yourself to him.

Good grief! Why must she find someone before 24? Who's to say that she (or anyone) is ready/mature/interested in marriage before then? I hate this one-size-fits all aspect of Mormon culture. People are ready for differnt things in life at different times.

And while respect and friendship are important, I kind of fine it odd that love isn't mentoned in your post. Also, what's this "seal yourself to him?" Isn't he getting sealed to her as well? I have to say the prospect of gluing oneself to some priestholder is not that tempting, Gaz.

Don't worry about stuff like this pirate. You're still young and have lots of time to figure the world out. And at least you live in a place you can have access to healthcare without being married!

[_Dr. Shades]

Good grief! Why must she find someone before 24?

I, too, am interested in the answer to that question, Gazelam. Why is 24 the magic number as opposed to, say, 25, 28, or some other number?

And while respect and friendship are important, I kind of fine it odd that love isn't mentoned in your post.

I, too, am interested in why you neglected to mention love, Gazelam. Is love not important to a marriage?

[_asbestosman]

And while respect and friendship are important, I kind of fine it odd that love isn't mentoned in your post.

I, too, am interested in why you neglected to mention love, Gazelam. Is love not important to a marriage?

I'm curious as to what you all think the difference is. between love and respect and friendship. Attraction, perhaps? Intensity? I can hardly imagine friendship without love. Maybe it's just a problem with English--love tends to be used for many situations and is ambiguous because of that.

[_The Nehor]

And while respect and friendship are important, I kind of fine it odd that love isn't mentoned in your post.

I, too, am interested in why you neglected to mention love, Gazelam. Is love not important to a marriage?

I'm curious as to what you all think the difference is. between love and respect and friendship. Attraction, perhaps? Intensity? I can hardly imagine friendship without love. Maybe it's just a problem with English--love tends to be used for many situations and is ambiguous because of that.

Friendship is a kind of love.

I think the reference to love is referring to the kind that makes you want to rip off the other's clothing.