Being LDS.

_Ray A · Post by **_Ray A** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 1:23 am

Blixa wrote:And at least you live in a place you can have access to healthcare without being married!

You can't have healthcare in the US (?) unless you're married?

Post by **_Blixa** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 1:48 am

Ray A wrote:
Blixa wrote:And at least you live in a place you can have access to healthcare without being married!

You can't have healthcare in the US (?) unless you're married?

Healthcare here, as you probably know, is usually tied to your workplace. In order for both to get coverage, a couple must be married (though this is slowly changing through the idea of "domestic partnership").

I was exaggerating a bit for humor, but that is why I am married. My boyfriend and I talked about the possibility of us getting married if one of us had a full time job and the other needed medical coverage. Around the time I got my first full time job teaching at a university, he had several medical problems develop. As much as I didn't relish the idea of marriage, I would not have denied him that. I would not have married otherwise.

One of the things that needed attention was a bad tooth; he ended up getting a root canal. Ten years later, after having more trouble with the tooth, he ended up having to have it pulled--a day shy of our anniversary. I made the dentist give me the tooth and I intend to bling it out and make it into a necklace---the damn tooth that made me renounce my priniciples!

Post by **_dooosh** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 1:58 am

The Nehor wrote:I think the reference to love is referring to the kind that makes you want to rip off the other's clothing.

Dude.

You poor sex starved man.

If you seriously do not masturbate, you really should start.

_Ray A · Post by **_Ray A** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 2:02 am

Blixa wrote:Healthcare here, as you probably know, is usually tied to your workplace. In order for both to get coverage, a couple must be married (though this is slowly changing through the idea of "domestic partnership").

And here I was thinking America was the only true country in the world. Oz has a medicare system and everyone is levied at about 1.5%, I think. Some Americans call it "communism" (insert smilie).

Post by **_dooosh** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 2:04 am

Ray A wrote:
Blixa wrote:Healthcare here, as you probably know, is usually tied to your workplace. In order for both to get coverage, a couple must be married (though this is slowly changing through the idea of "domestic partnership").

And here I was thinking America was the only true country in the world. Oz has a medicare system and everyone is levied at about 1.5%, I think. Some Americans call it "communism" (insert smilie).

It is your silly church who taught you that.

_Ray A · Post by **_Ray A** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 2:09 am

dooosh wrote:It is your silly church who taught you that.

Relax, doosh, it was tongue-in-cheek. Lighten up.

(Incidentally, I've had a high opinion of America since I was about 14, when I was Catholic.)

Post by **_beastie** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 2:52 am

They want you to marry young so you won't have pre-marital sex.

Post by **_Moniker** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 3:55 am

beastie wrote:They want you to marry young so you won't have pre-marital sex.

And that's why they are all too eager to go ahead and marry. You find someone you're gaga about and Nehor is right you want to tear into each other. So what do you do in the LDS culture so you can be intimate? You get married hastily so you can have nookie. Then after your passion and euphoria settles down you sure as hell better hope the person that you jumped into the marital bed with is someone you're compatible with that can become not just your lover, but also your friend.

I'd personally rather figure that out before I get married. But, it works great for some people.

Pirate, Blixa is right. You're young, don't fret about this stuff. Don't rush. :)

_Ray A · Post by **_Ray A** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 4:12 am

Here is a thought-provoking article indirectly related: http://au.todaytonight.yahoo.com/articl ... ges-better

Anthropologist and relationships expert Bella Ellwood-Clayton said Australians could learn a thing or two about love from such cultures.

"Love is very complex and the type of love Westerners go for doesn't last," she said.

"Arranged marriages only have a divorce rate of 4 per cent compared to Australia which is of course about 40 per cent."

Bella said success is due to the lack of expectations and no preconceptions.

"Traditionally marriage has been about economics and politics and joining families together for inheritance or property so marrying for love is a 20th century phenomena," she said.

Arranged marriages of all descriptions are a global concept.

"Traditionally marriage has been about economics and politics and joining families together for inheritance or property so marrying for love is a 20th century phenomena," she said.

Arranged marriages of all descriptions are a global concept.

South Africa, Canada and Australia have all had a history of practicing arranged marriages.

In India, 95 per cent of marriages are arranged.

I don't think this may apply to Mormon culture, since the US LDS divorce rate is about the same as the US average. Whatever works for these people, isn't working for Mormons either.

The age of marriage should be left to the individual. Marrying to quell passion isn't a good idea, but it could work in many cases. .

Post by **_The Nehor** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 4:21 am

dooosh wrote:
The Nehor wrote:I think the reference to love is referring to the kind that makes you want to rip off the other's clothing.
Dude.

You poor sex starved man.

If you seriously do not masturbate, you really should start.

No thanks, the whole idea is disgusting considering all the associations you've put with it