A thread just for Mercury, but all others are welcome.

Post by **_charity** » Sat Feb 16, 2008 10:41 pm

I don't count someone forcing a message on me as requiring me to maintain that as a confidence. I didn't invitre it. And I think a person ought to be responsible enough for what they say to own up.

Post by **_Tori** » Sun Feb 17, 2008 1:10 am

Moniker wrote:Tori, you and Ric had things said about your personal life and how you raise your children by Wade. That didn't faze you? I'm thinking it fazed Ric since he replied to Wade repeatedly about the matter -- attempting to give Wade his reasonings behind your decisions and defending both of your choices. That's simplifying it -- yet, it occurred. Did your "blood boil" when you read a thread on here about drug abuse?

What people say here does sometimes sting. It just does. Perhaps it's because you don't participate often that you don't see the veiled insults, the hidden jabs, the petty swipes, and the more aggressive posters that absolutely do say heinous things that get under skin. I've had to thicken my skin considerably to stay on these boards.

I read newspaper articles and I can have an emotional response. I can read a history book and have an emotional response. I can read a novel and have an emotional response. Saying that this is not "real life" doesn't quite cut it for those of us that do read print (most days of our lives) and understand that speech is powerful and the effects of that speech does inflict great harm or good for those it persuades. Should people calm down? Yah. I'm attempting to do that. Yet, to be flippant about some of the emotions seen on this board really goes against most of our nature, I'm assuming. I'd bet that you've weeped at something in a novel or a movie that's not "real life", no?

Charity, it doesn't look as though Mercury gave you permission to post that PM.

I really didn't mean to come across as 'flippant' and I'm sorry if that was your perception. Maybe I should've said it different when I made the reference to 'real life'. Of course we are all real people and our emotions come out as we express our views and opinions about the LDS Church. The emotions really come out when someone attacks us personally, or makes assumptions and judgement about our personal life such as the way Wade did, about Rick and I. I had to remember that I didn't really know this guy and he certainly doesn't know me. What he posted was way off base and did kinda tick me off. I know that I have felt "my blood boil" at times and over the past few years I've probably posted (many times) on discussion boards some things that were better left un-said.

I just know how a person can get so involved and maybe a little, should I say....obsessed. I've done that before on RFM and the old Daily Herald forum in the past, where I let what people said to me....'get to me'. It would actually affect my day. It's easy to get mad and 'not like' a person on the other side of your moniter when you don't see them or hear their voice. I guess my point to Charity (and Merc) was you can let this place get to you, define who you are, or you can blow it off (things that are said) and realize that really....this is a cyber-forum, not your real, tangible life.

Post by **_Tori** » Sun Feb 17, 2008 1:48 am

charity wrote:Careful, Tori, calling this entertainment. I once did that and got back a lot of shocked respones that I wasn't taking this seriously.

And about how much time I spend here. Probably too much, but it looks like more than it is. I am at my computer probably 80% of my waking hours. I write an column for an on line magazine, I write novels, I have an enormous correspondence on an e-list, plus family and personal correspondence. So, what I do is pop in once in a while between other activities. Which is why it is so annoying that this message board software won't let you stay logged on, and keeps kicking me off.

I think you know where I am coming from better than most here.

Well....I still call this entertainment. I get on here when I'm a little bored, or I want to learn something or get in a heated discussion....or read a heated discussion. :-) Right now, I'm at Rick's house waiting for him to get home from work, so I logged on. I am on a computer all day at work, but never log on at that time. That's probably good for me because I can get obsessed. ;-)

You know, Charity....I don't really care how much time you spend here. Heaven knows I've spent my share of time on other boards in the past. It can be addicting especially when a person gets involved and participates. I've made friends with and met some people from some other boards and it can be fun. I try to keep it at a minimum now because I need to clean my house and when I start getting real involved on these, before I know it I've been on the computer for 6 hours straight and my laundery is still waiting!

Post by **_Dr. Shades** » Sun Feb 17, 2008 3:51 am

[MODERATOR NOTE: When someone receives a Private Message, the contents of that message become the property of the one who received it.

Although it's not necessarily ideal or ethical to post the contents of a PM that one receives, there are no rules against it and no one wil be punished for doing it.

EXCEPTIONS: Liz, Bond, GIMR, Jersey Girl, and Scottie, if someone PMs you about a moderatorial issue, DO NOT post the contents of that Private Message without getting the sender's permission first.]

Post by **_Jersey Girl** » Sun Feb 17, 2008 4:16 am

Aye aye, Captain.

*salutes*

Post by **_moksha** » Sun Feb 17, 2008 6:19 am

I try to keep it at a minimum now because I need to clean my house and when I start getting real involved on these, before I know it I've been on the computer for 6 hours straight and my laundery is still waiting!

Best to make an all purpose command center. Put your washer, dryer and computer in the kitchen and have a toilet installed instead of an office chair for the computer. That way you can really multitask.

Post by **_Pokatator** » Sun Feb 17, 2008 6:53 am

moksha wrote:
I try to keep it at a minimum now because I need to clean my house and when I start getting real involved on these, before I know it I've been on the computer for 6 hours straight and my laundery is still waiting!

Best to make an all purpose command center. Put your washer, dryer and computer in the kitchen and have a toilet installed instead of an office chair for the computer. That way you can really multitask.

I am not sure I would want to see the inside of your igloo or whatever it is you live in.

Post by **_moksha** » Sun Feb 17, 2008 6:59 am

Pokatator wrote:
moksha wrote:
I try to keep it at a minimum now because I need to clean my house and when I start getting real involved on these, before I know it I've been on the computer for 6 hours straight and my laundery is still waiting!

Best to make an all purpose command center. Put your washer, dryer and computer in the kitchen and have a toilet installed instead of an office chair for the computer. That way you can really multitask.

I am not sure I would want to see the inside of your igloo or whatever it is you live in.

Too bad, we would welcome your warmth in the huddle.