May I remain a member if I
- Pay 10% tithes on net-net?
- Drink beer?
- Drink coffee and tea?
- Wear garmies only during temple work?
- Opt out of temple work for the dead?
- Opt out of HT/VT?
- Think of Monson as only the president and not the prophet?
We are discussing three different things: Becoming a member, remaining a member, getting a TRI.
To become a member, (If I recall correctly), one must state that they believe in the LDS church (restoration, Joseph Smith, etc), pay tithing, obey the WoW, and be obedient to a few rules (morally clean, etc).
Once someone is a member they can do or believe anything that is not an excommunicable offence (have sex outside marriage, speak out against the church, be a child abuser, etc), and remain a member. (It does appear however that, for the most part, they only excommunicate active members).
To attend the temple one must have a TRI... this is more specific. One must properly answer the TRI questions. In other words, they must say that they do indeed wear the garment day and night, pay tithing, obey the WoW, attend their meetings, have a testimony the church is true, sustain the leaders, etc. etc. etc. etc.
To get a TR, one does not have to be a VT/HT, attend the temple, or anything else that is not specifically asked in the TRI.
Now, the actually questions in the TRI have some wiggle room. If I recall correctly there was a temple going woman on FAIR who stated she drank tea and the bishop had no problem with it. If you say that you pay tithing, then the bishop is supposed to take your word for it. If you say you believe in the church (but have your own interpretation of what this means), it doesn't much matter so long as you keep it to yourself. You can be nasty and cruel but if you don't think that makes you unworthy to go to the temple then you are good to go.
Basically, to be a TR holding member, you have to state that you obey and believe a few specific things. My observation is that members can interpret these things in various ways, and discuss or not discuss them with their bishop depending on their circumstance.
~dancer~