Hi TD. Polygamy/polyandry can be discussed and debated till the cows come home. Whatever happened, happened. We are out of touch with the players except through the written word. Joseph Smith himself is accountable to God for whatever he did. We know he was not a perfect man. The question is, was he a good man? Was he good enough to permit God to work through him as a prophet of the restoration?
Actually MG, I do not think this is the question at all.
I think the questions are:
Would God of the universe, pick a man like Joseph Smith to restore the one true church in preparation for the return of Jesus Christ? (Of course God can do whatever God wants, nevertheless, rational thought would suggest God would not chose a man whose behavior was questionable at best).
Is a man who engaged in some of the despicable things Joseph Smith did, in tune with holiness enough to feel the prompting of the HG or worthy enough to be visited with Jesus and angles? (I suppose God could work through anyone, nevertheless, it seems more likely that one who was in touch with holiness would be better able (worthy) to receive the messages from the divine.
Why would the God of the Universe, allow Joseph Smith to get a practice/doctrine so completely wrong, a practice that is REQUIRED for exaltation? (For a man who is receiving messages on the details of his friends lives, channeling the voice of Jesus, being visited by angels, even God himself, it seems odd that he would be so mistaken, and God would not step in).
If Joseph Smith's sexual manipulative behavior is common among other powerful cult and religious leaders, why does Joseph Smith get a free pass? (I find this so odd... that in the LDS church, the same men who would condemn others who engage in the same exact behavior as Joseph Smith, respect and excuse Joseph Smith. I seriously find this fascinating... the way the brain works to justify and rationalize away what it doesn't want to accept).
If men had a neighbor guy do to his wife and daughters what Joseph Smith did to girls and women, they would be outraged. Why is Joseph Smith's behavior fine and dandy? Why is it OK for Joseph Smith to manipulate and coerce girls and teenagers unless it is one's daughter?
(Again, I think it goes to the fascinating ability of our brains to not face reality if it is too difficult to accept).
I think that as the whole of the picture is observed from a distance that there is reason to believe so. To focus on one part of an aged canvas at a time without moving back and observing the whole view/perspective is myopic.
Everyone has good and not so good qualities. As you know, I have worked with hundreds of abusive men... they ALL have some goodness in them. But the not-so-good behavior makes them dangerous. They go to jail (or get counseling).
Joseph Smith's behavior (sexually and otherwise), in my opinion, like other cult and religious leaders who use their power to control, coerce, manipulate, or take advantage of women, disqualifies him as a "good man". Again, he may have had some good qualities, but a good man? Nope.
I guess we all have different standards.
~dancer~