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Are you uncomfortale with Jersey being a Mod?

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Post by _Sam Harris »

beastie wrote:How can you tell if your "in" a clique? Or does the fact that I have to ask mean I'm not?


I think the fact that you have to ask shows that you're not.

To me, a person starts behaving in a clique like fashion when they defend someone else's stupidity just because they're friends with that person. My friends know that when they're being asenine, I'll tell them...and they've known me since we were kids. You don't get away with things with me just because I love you, that's all the reason to tell you to button your fly. They do the same with me, to both of us, that's a sign of true friendship and respect for one another. There are folks on here who get defended in their behavior because they're friends with someone, they've chatted a bit on skype, and I feel that's wrong. Wrong doesn't become right just because you've had a few friendly conversations and exchanged a few secrets. If I or someone else who wasn't as close to the person doing the defending were to exhibit the same behavior, they'd be called on it. I don't like the double standard.

Beastie, you're one of the sparkly blue crayons in this proverbial box here.
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Post by _Moniker »

GIMR wrote:There are folks on here who get defended in their behavior because they're friends with someone, they've chatted a bit on skype, and I feel that's wrong. Wrong doesn't become right just because you've had a few friendly conversations and exchanged a few secrets. If I or someone else who wasn't as close to the person doing the defending were to exhibit the same behavior, they'd be called on it. I don't like the double standard.



Well, I've talked on skype plenty of times....... most of the men I've talked to on skype don't defend me. I get plenty of PMs off the board if they don't like what is happening on the board --they tell me they're thinking of me.. They send me a note, or something of the sort. I don't see them defending each other, either. They may however send each other sweet lil notes -- I'm not sure. ;)

I fuss with these same people on the board if I disagree with them. Who has been defended that talks on skype that should be called out for their behavior? I call Mercury out if he's railing too much on theists -- he knows I disagree with him. I fuss with Ren over ALLL sorts of stuff -- matter of fact we fuss like siblings behind closed doors at times! Bond is a great friend of mine and I have no problem disagreeing with him. Matter of fact I have the complete opposite reaction to the picture of DCP posted. Does asbestosman defend anyone? I've talked to PP on skype. Dart on skype. Keene on skype. Bryan Inks on skype. KA on skype. Always Thinking on skype. gramps on skype (probably more than anyone). We're not sheep -- but I AM friends with some of these people. I've talked to Liz on skype and she can make her own call over whether I've defended her in the past, and if it was appropriate -- it was because I cared for her....

Who precisely are you speaking about above?

I'm assuming it's not me, 'cause the ONLY time I can EVER recall being defended on this board by ANYONE I've talked to on skype happened this last week. Usually I'm left to fend on my own. Ren says he defended me 'cause he felt I was right. If I was wrong he would have told me, as he's done on prior occasions.

I've made friends on here. Beastie being one of them. I don't hide that I made friends, and I certainly am not going to apologize for it.
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Post by _Imwashingmypirate »

I am comfortable with Jersey Girl being mod. I cannot seem to vote, so add one vote for Jersey Girl being a great mod from me.
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Post by _Bond...James Bond »

GIMR wrote:
beastie wrote:How can you tell if your "in" a clique? Or does the fact that I have to ask mean I'm not?


I think the fact that you have to ask shows that you're not.

To me, a person starts behaving in a clique like fashion when they defend someone else's stupidity just because they're friends with that person. My friends know that when they're being asenine, I'll tell them...and they've known me since we were kids. You don't get away with things with me just because I love you, that's all the reason to tell you to button your fly. They do the same with me, to both of us, that's a sign of true friendship and respect for one another. There are folks on here who get defended in their behavior because they're friends with someone, they've chatted a bit on skype, and I feel that's wrong. Wrong doesn't become right just because you've had a few friendly conversations and exchanged a few secrets. If I or someone else who wasn't as close to the person doing the defending were to exhibit the same behavior, they'd be called on it. I don't like the double standard.

Beastie, you're one of the sparkly blue crayons in this proverbial box here.


What colour crayon am I? ;O)
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Post by _Sam Harris »

Moniker wrote:
GIMR wrote:There are folks on here who get defended in their behavior because they're friends with someone, they've chatted a bit on skype, and I feel that's wrong. Wrong doesn't become right just because you've had a few friendly conversations and exchanged a few secrets. If I or someone else who wasn't as close to the person doing the defending were to exhibit the same behavior, they'd be called on it. I don't like the double standard.



Well, I've talked on skype plenty of times....... most of the men I've talked to on skype don't defend me. I get plenty of PMs off the board if they don't like what is happening on the board --they tell me they're thinking of me.. They send me a note, or something of the sort. I don't see them defending each other, either. They may however send each other sweet lil notes -- I'm not sure. ;)

I fuss with these same people on the board if I disagree with them. Who has been defended that talks on skype that should be called out for their behavior? I call Mercury out if he's railing too much on theists -- he knows I disagree with him. I fuss with Ren over ALLL sorts of stuff -- matter of fact we fuss like siblings behind closed doors at times! Bond is a great friend of mine and I have no problem disagreeing with him. Matter of fact I have the complete opposite reaction to the picture of DCP posted. Does asbestosman defend anyone? I've talked to PP on skype. Dart on skype. Keene on skype. Bryan Inks on skype. KA on skype. Always Thinking on skype. gramps on skype (probably more than anyone). We're not sheep -- but I AM friends with some of these people. I've talked to Liz on skype and she can make her own call over whether I've defended her in the past, and if it was appropriate -- it was because I cared for her....

Who precisely are you speaking about above?

I'm assuming it's not me, 'cause the ONLY time I can EVER recall being defended on this board by ANYONE I've talked to on skype happened this last week. Usually I'm left to fend on my own. Ren says he defended me 'cause he felt I was right. If I was wrong he would have told me, as he's done on prior occasions.

I've made friends on here. Beastie being one of them. I don't hide that I made friends, and I certainly am not going to apologize for it.


I'm not asking you to apologize for making friends, and forgive me for using skype as an example. I'm sorry, but I graduated from Degrassi about 14 years ago. It's below me to name names publicly.

I've seen few folks on here defend you, though they should. As far as me, I've seen folks comment about my character who haven't even exchanged PMs with me, let alone any sort of conversation. But you get used to that. I'm comfortable with the fact that there are a handful of folks on this board who would be there for me in times of trouble, and the rest have their view of who they think GIMR is. I don't have the energy to be trying to prove myself to be intelligent or titled enough anymore. This forum isn't being graded and put towards my degree, so I just don't care...besides, some of the same people who will send you nice PMs and go out on a limb for you would (well, one) would probably watch me die because I believe in God. I really hate such bigotry. Maybe I'm just tired of it.

I'm tired of seeing folks play amateur hagbutters to LDS folks who have done nothing to them because they grew up within the institution, and had a terrible time. Using their logic, I should start harassing black folks, because my childhood was just as sh*tty (culminating in my stroke, no less), and it was black folks who were my abusers. Insert folks who will tell me that that logic is off, yet defend those who think it's ok to use this board as cheap therapy for their anti-LDS bull.

I'm tired of the uber-Mormons or even those TBMs who don't take the time to read, who have the nerve to say they're not comfortable with me, yet I'm defending them. That's annoying too.

I realize that for the most part I'm on the fringe of this board. I didn't have the time invested in the church that 90% of the people here did, and I don't really feel the need to dwell on what I went through when I was LDS. I don't see the point. I don't even feel the need to dwell on my childhood. It's in the past. So I don't have anything to contribute towards Mormon scholarship. My views on God are seen as rediculous here, so I don't bother bringing them forth. That's what professors are for.

As far as skype, when you have a bedtime that's 7 pm, so that you can manage to get to work half the days out of the month, you can't afford that luxury. Not that I think anyone would really want to talk to me, given the barbs I've had thrown my way since I came on here. There are nice people here, but there are also snobs here. There are also uber-intellects here. There are a**holes here (Jercury and Piss Pitiful). But this is a free board. So I feel free to speak my mind like everyone else.

Bond....you're a smooth tuxedo black crayon. :-) Or maybe silver.
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Post by _Yoda »

For the record, GIMR, you're part of my clique.

;)
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Post by _Sam Harris »

liz3564 wrote:For the record, GIMR, you're part of my clique.

;)


You mean I get to belong somewhere? Ya know I loves you, Liz. You're my LDS cousin 4 times removed. And a mauve crayon. :P
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Post by _Yoda »

GIMR wrote:
liz3564 wrote:For the record, GIMR, you're part of my clique.

;)


You mean I get to belong somewhere? Ya know I loves you, Liz. You're my LDS cousin 4 times removed. And a mauve crayon. :P


I thought we were twins separated at birth! LOL (Actually, come to think of it, we're triplets with Harmony) ;)
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Post by _Sam Harris »

liz3564 wrote:
GIMR wrote:
liz3564 wrote:For the record, GIMR, you're part of my clique.

;)


You mean I get to belong somewhere? Ya know I loves you, Liz. You're my LDS cousin 4 times removed. And a mauve crayon. :P


I thought we were twins separated at birth! LOL (Actually, come to think of it, we're triplets with Harmony) ;)


LOL, who are the parents, poor things.

I'm a bit wary of my significant other. He has twin daughters and twins run on both sides of my family. I think I'd beat him if he were to impregnate me with twins...I'd kill him if he were to impregnate me with triplets. The man seriously has super sperm...it's scary.
Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances. -Ghandi
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Post by _Yoda »

GIMR wrote:LOL, who are the parents, poor things.

I'm a bit wary of my significant other. He has twin daughters and twins run on both sides of my family. I think I'd beat him if he were to impregnate me with twins...I'd kill him if he were to impregnate me with triplets. The man seriously has super sperm...it's scary.


Yikes! Better be careful! ;)

However, if anyone could handle twins, you could! ;)
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