Some of you know my story, which is pretty typical around these parts, so I won't repeat it. But anyhow, about 2 1/2 years after me 'leaving' the church, my wife is leaving also.
What did it? A few things, in my opinion. I never really talked about religion. I never looked to get into fights/arguments about the church. I even fully supported my wife over the last couple years. I went to sac. meeting. Let my son get baptized, etc. I never pushed any readings on her. But then what happened, is that she started telling friends, co-workers, etc. about me, and she soon realized that many people she knew, and thought were LDS, were just like me. And guess what? They were NORMAL! and fyi, we live in Utah County - the Mormon heartland.
Anyways, I guess curiosity finally got the best of her, and she researched online. She read bushman's RSR. She read palmer's 'insider's view'. She flipped through 'by his own hand upon papyrus'. She read FARMS.
It was like there was a barrier between her faith, and rational thinking. And one day, she peeked over the barrier, and by then, it was over.
She's still doing her calling for now. We're probably going to move in a few months, and that's when we'll make the official 'break'. But she has dropped the "Gs". Damn, it's like falling in love all over again - seeing my wife get in bed in nothing but panties and a tank top.
Thanks to everyone who's offered their words of wisdom over these last couple of years. You've truly helped me stay sane.
For those in similar situations as I was in, there's hope for you! My one big piece of advice: Back off, and let it play out.
