If you have no problem with homosexuality or anal sex, then it was odd that your very first response dwelt on how disgusting homosexual anal sex is. You have a habit of making obviously negative statements about something (or some group) and then refusing to be held accountable for that same statement.
I said:
by the way, Kevin, we're all dying to hear how your kids reacted when you told them they are the product of your semen coming out of your pee-pee hole and into your wife's vagina. Deeeesgusting.
Kevin’s response:
Don't play dumb beastie. You don't look good with the dunce cap on. It doesn't fit you.
You know damn well there is a huge difference and that explaining one is much easier to explain as it is for the kid to understand.
Your kids aren’t old enough for you to have had “the talk” with yet, are they? I say this because none of it is “easy to explain” or “easy for kids to understand”. When kids first hear about how heterosexual intercourse works, they DO hear “the man puts the place where he pees from in the place where the woman pees from”.
But aside from that, since when do we base our decisions about how to raise children on what is easy to explain and understand?
Now, let’s get to what you claim is your only objection – that gay people should not adopt children due to the fact that it would be “psychological torture”.
Kevin
The only beef I have is when they want to start adopting children. I mean that is taking it beyond the privacy arena. In private quarters I don't care if you want to screw doughnuts and sheep. Two people can do whatever they want with each other sexually, as long as they both consent to it. But what's the purpose of wanting to expose little children to that kind of lifestyle? I cannot imagine growing up with two Fathers and then expecting them to explain the birds and the bees to me. Don't most kids want to grow up and be like their parents? And what if people are born "that way" and an adopted child wasn't born that way? What kind of psychological torture would he or she be going through trying to adapt to a romantic relationship they have never seen in their home?
First, unless the gay couple with the adopted child are living on an island without any access to a larger culture, even with having gay parents, the children are still going to be exposed to mainly heterosexual pair bonding. Our entire culture reflects this. The mass media reflects this. Thinking that the child of gay parents won’t know how to “adapt to a romantic relationships they have never seen in their home” is bizarre, given the facts about our larger culture, to say nothing of the fact that your reasoning should also prohibit single people (divorced or never married) from raising children.
So you can’t imagine having two fathers explaining the birds and the bees. Can you imagine celibate, non-mated people explaining it? Can you imagine frigid people with innumerable sexual hang-ups explaining it? Or is it only gay people you can’t imagine explaining it? Help us out and list all the people you think shouldn’t raise kids because you can’t imagine how they would explain the birds and the bees.
Will children with two daddies or two mommies likely be teased about it sometime? Probably. Children are going to be teased about any difference. Contrary to the fuzzy picture some people have of childhood, some idyllic, care-free period of life, childhood isn’t particularly easy and children are often brutal to one another about ANY difference. Will a child with a parent in a wheelchair be teased about that? Probably. Will a child with a foreign parent be teased about that? Probably. Will a Mormon child in a predominantly EV area be teased about that? Probably.
The hard fact of life is that there are many children who currently are in the care of the state, and will be in the care of the state their entire childhoods. We should applaud any time any decent, caring people are willing to adopt these children, because even a household which is a little different and may lead to teasing or situations that are hard to explain is far, far, far better than state custody.
Besides, gay couples who adopt children have already proven the most important factor in being a good parent, in my opinion: they’ve proven they really, really want a child and have planned for that child. I don’t know the statistics on this, but I’d guess that probably half the children born in this world were not planned, were surprises. Now maybe they’re still wanted, but sometimes not. Maybe their families can still adequately care for them, but sometimes not. I teach children, and being raised in a chaotic family where children are not planned and are not adequately cared for, should be society’s worst nightmare, NOT a gay couple who have carefully planned for and desperately want a child.
