GoodK wrote:
What other purpose? I don't see any other reason to date someone besides trying to hook up with them. But you are absolutely right, and I should have disclaimed this from the very beginning. Leykis 101 is about getting sex, not finding a soul mate.
I was thinking that Leykis's suggestions were more about seeking a committed relationship than a one night stand. Of course if all one is interested in is sex, then toss out the dates which after a 3rd date had none and it doesn't look like there will be any any time soon. If sex is the goal, then you want to come across either a horny female who may or may not be very discriminating, or someone who frequently has sex with just about anyone, or someone who is discriminating and does find you appealing and may be aggressively seeking you not vice versa. So if you keep not wasting time with those who don't willingly want sex within first 3 dates you are bound to come across those who do, that's a no brainer.
As far as serious relationships I agree for example of not spending much on first few dates, it's better to find out if someone is interested in you rather than on what is spent on them. And someone who is really interested doesn't care about how much is spent. I agree with not being overly nice, overly accommodating, that doesn't mean one should be disrespectful.
As far as sex with women on first few dates, gameplaying is not going to make much difference. For a discriminating female, I think she generally seeks good genes (subconsciously) so in many cases it's either a function of you have them or you don't for whatever it is she finds appealing. And in some cases it can take more than a few dates to be fully appreciated. I agree sex is important in committed relationships. Talking from personal experience, it is horrible being in a marriage with the main problem being the sexual drives are lop-sided, one high and the other low. The result is lots of anger and frustration/stress. So if you have a high drive you should seek someone with a high drive as well, and in that case Leykis' advice might work by eliminating from the dating pool, those who at the beginning show little interest.