moksha wrote:TygerFang, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JZ0jRuASVEQ
Oh golly geez! How could I have ever doubted! [/sarcasm]
moksha wrote:TygerFang, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JZ0jRuASVEQ
However unless you have undeniable proof it's hard to see it as little more than speculation
ajax18 wrote:However unless you have undeniable proof it's hard to see it as little more than speculation
First of all, no scientific theory, even electricity, is beyond criticism, nor can you can you even say that we have absolute proof that an electron exists. Absolute truths and undeniable proof belong to the realm of philosophy. Second, you don't have to perform all scientific experiments in a lab. Personal observation in the real world can give us a lot of information as well. Third, a lot of scientific data in regards to race and gender is covered up because it may appear offensive to one group. This doesn't change whether it's true or not. It just changes whether it's socially acceptable to point out, when people are more comfortable believing otherwise. You can't even say in a pediatric development class that girls unlike boys usually don't naturally lock their wrists when throwing a ball without being labeled and shamed as a "sexist." This doesn't mean that it's not true. It just means someone didn't want to hear it and had enough power and influence to force everyone not to say it.
Lies, no matter how much better they may make us feel at first, always weaken us. The truth makes us stronger.
TD I was always taught that the first wife had to give permission for additional wives to come into the family. I'm not saying that there was no coercion involved, but theoretically speaking I can see polygamy as less disrespectful under certain rules such as this. It makes me think of the situation in the Bible where Sariah offers Abraham her handmaiden as a means of obtaining posterity. As I read the story, I understand this was a struggle for her, but she did give permission for it. I didn't see it as Abraham breaking her heart in doing this. I'm not saying this is necessarily what happened. I'm just trying to envision it under the best circumstances for the woman.
SENATOR PETTUS. Have there been in the past plural marriages without the consent of the first wife?
MR. SMITH. I do not know of any, unless it may have been Joseph Smith himself.
SENATOR PETTUS. Is the language that you have read construed to mean that she is bound to consent?
MR. SMITH. The condition is that if she does not consent the Lord will destroy her, but I do not know how He will do it.
SENATOR BAILEY. Is it not true that in the very next verse, if she refuses her consent her husband is exempt from the law which requires her consent?
MR. SMITH. Yes; he is exempt from the law which requires her consent.
SENATOR BAILEY. She is commanded to consent, but if she does not, then he is exempt from the requirement?
MR. SMITH. Then he is at liberty to proceed without her consent, under the law.
SENATOR BEVERIDGE. In other words, her consent amounts to nothing?
MR. SMITH. It amounts to nothing but her consent (Reed Smoot Case, vol. 1, p.201).
Surprisingly enough, I too am not waiting for the day to be blessed with many wives. I could envision a scenario in which my wife wanted to bring a second female into the relationship. But I don't think it would ever occur as a result of me demanding it and breaking her heart. And as it is now, I couldn't support the number of children that one woman could give me, let alone two or three.
I new a very good man in UT. His wife was tragically killed in a car accident. They had 11 children together. They were a wonderful missionary couple. She was probably one of the finest women I've ever met. As spiritual as he was, he was depressed and bitter about her death for a while. 3 years later he married her sister. Some of us even felt like his first wife was there at the temple, as if she had orchestrated the marriage from across the veil. I honestly don't believe the first wife was jealous or upset by this relationship, if indeed she saw it from across the veil. I think they'll probably be happy to all be together in the next life. But these people lived in a higher level of spirituality than most and therefore I wouldn't expect everyone to understand this. Sometimes a person remarrying after the death of a spouse says something good about the first spouse. Had the first spouse been a selfish and difficult person, perhaps the surviving spouse would have been turned off to marriage completely.
Does your sex drive make you chase boys? Do you buy stuff for them to win their affection? Do you have hard time not chasing other boys when you're committed to one? Who initiates sex more often, you or the boy? I'm not saying girls don't have a sex drive. Female animals seem to have a very strong sex drive at certain times. But a woman's sex drive is nowhere near as strong as a man's.
One interesting example I had was a friend of mine whose girlfriend cheated on him. She was sorry she did it and wanted him back. His reply was, "I understand him and what he wanted, but I don't understand you and what you wanted by doing this." Do you think women cheat just for sex? I personally don't. I think it has to do with getting attention or something else more than just sex. I've noticed that most relationships in which the woman cheats usually end. Relationships in which the man cheats often survive. Look at the Clintons for example. Bill loves Hillary and she's his wife and probably always will be, but this doesn't stop Bill from trying to nail everything that isn't nailed down. He's emotionally attached to Hillary. His affairs are just about sex. And yes I have more respect for what a polygamous man does than what Bill Clinton does. One of the worst parts for me about being cheated on is knowing that you've been lied to. At least polygamy in theory is not deceitful.
rcrocket wrote:For a sociological study that examined ratios and economics, contrary to your opening thread, I recommend Kathryn Daynes, "More Wives than One: Transformation of the Mormon Marriage System, 1940-1910 (Chicago: University of Illinois Press, 2001), chapters 5 - 7. The book concludes that there was a slight surplus of women in the territory but a significant surplus of worthy and endowed women to worthy and endowed men.
The census data does not distinguish between Mormons and non-Mormons.
Widstoe had no sociological data.
I would be interested in any non-anonymous critiques of Daynes' work.
Mosiah 2:26:
[26] And I, even I, whom ye call your king, am no better than ye yourselves are; for I am also of the dust. And ye behold that I am old, and am about to yield up this mortal frame to its mother earth.
Mosiah 27:4:
[4] That they should let no pride nor haughtiness disturb their peace; that every man should esteem his neighbor as himself, laboring with their own hands for their support.
ajax18 wrote:
First off, I didn't say that women have no sex drive. I just said that it was less than a mans.