Well, on this board alone, Bond and I are hopelessly single, while every woman here has a somewhat cult-following of men who would marry them in a heartbeat if given the opportunity.
I can't even get a date, let alone a relationship.
The Nehor wrote:Find someone who takes great pleasure in making you happy. Then go and do thou likewise for them.
I've found that in life we have to choice to be generous and try to make other people happy. We don't have the choice of finding someone who takes great pleasure in making ourselves happy. In other words, we have the choice of how we treat other people. We do not have the power to choose how we are treated. That's partly why I hang on so tightly to my own religious notions.
Sure we have the choice of finding who we want. If you've never been with a woman you want to spoil and who wants to spoil you then I feel sorry for you. You missed out.
Perhaps I did. Not everybody finds that. It may work for some of you to blame the person who doesn't find it, but I don't really think "finding it" out there is an option for most people. I've had to find it within.
And when the confederates saw Jackson standing fearless as a stone wall the army of Northern Virginia took courage and drove the federal army off their land.
Moniker wrote:I must be a bad woman 'cause I can not stand alpha males. Despise them.
They gross me out.
Big time.
Yet, I still have educational and career goals, am super active with a lot of community volunteer work, and enjoy my life. I don't think a successful man correlates to an alpha male. And of course success is measured differently for different people.
Are you attracted to Bill Clinton?
And when the confederates saw Jackson standing fearless as a stone wall the army of Northern Virginia took courage and drove the federal army off their land.
Judging from the theories outlined in Robin Baker's Sperm Wars: The Science of Sex, the girl you're talking about is subconsciously grooming this man so that in the future she can extort the maximum amount of resources from him in order to ensure her offsprings' survival. She will, of course, collect the sperm of the alpha male if possible, but the biological demands of human childrearing are such that she needs to find a reliable (if alternate) provider for her & her offpring's basic needs. The more resources she can obtain, by whatever means necessary, the greater the chance of her offsprings' survival.
So no, she is not following the golden rule in this relationship. Evolution simply does not select for the observance of it. Evolution selected her for whatever behavior is necessary to ensure the successful transmission of her genes, and you're merely seeing it play out in real life.
"Finally, for your rather strange idea that miracles are somehow linked to the amount of gay sexual gratification that is taking place would require that primitive Christianity was launched by gay sex, would it not?"
Scottie wrote:Sometimes it seems impossible to be what a woman wants...
Be confidant, but not cocky. Be assertive, but not an alpha male.
It's amazing people ever get married at all.
Oh, and men don't put ridiculous demands on women? Give me a break. LOL
I think that one of the main reasons the Church focuses on marrying early is because we're all too horny and stupid to know what we're doing.
;)
Well, on this board alone, Bond and I are hopelessly single, while every woman here has a somewhat cult-following of men who would marry them in a heartbeat if given the opportunity.
I can't even get a date, let alone a relationship.
Soooo....you tell me....
<snip babble> :)
Maybe you have a cult following of women secretly in love with you and too shy to state it???
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I think your need for fairness is the underlying issue.
If needing fairness is a bad thing, than I suppose that's right.
Perhaps you could ponder why you are obsessed with fairness in the first place?
I have been for as long as I can remember. I guess fairness is how I resolve conflict, both internal and external. Do you have a better way to resolving conflict? From what I've seen, I don't consider myself odd in that I demand fairness. Perhaps I'm odd in that I demand fairness in a romantic relationship. Would you agree with that?
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And when the confederates saw Jackson standing fearless as a stone wall the army of Northern Virginia took courage and drove the federal army off their land.
I appreciate you sharing Moniker. You seem pretty cool to me. I'm committed to my wife though. Didn't want anyone on the board to get the wrong idea. I think I'm different than a lot of men in that respect as well. I'm very committed to marriage and probably almost Catholic in my views on divorce. I respect other opinions but I'm a deist and angels taking notes governs my life. I'm happy with that.
And when the confederates saw Jackson standing fearless as a stone wall the army of Northern Virginia took courage and drove the federal army off their land.
I appreciate you sharing Moniker. You seem pretty cool to me. I'm committed to my wife though. Didn't want anyone on the board to get the wrong idea. I think I'm different than a lot of men in that respect as well. I'm very committed to marriage and probably almost Catholic in my views on divorce. I respect other opinions but I'm a deist and angels taking notes governs my life. I'm happy with that.
I didn't assume you weren't committed to your wife? I wasn't even thinking about that. Well, glad you're happy.