Moniker wrote:Explain why the teen years and early twenties are an ideal time to get married. The school issue is going off-topic.
It's when you're doing most of your developing of an identity. What better time to select a spouse so that the identity you develop will match theirs in many ways because you are together.
"Surely he knows that DCP, The Nehor, Lamanite, and other key apologists..." -Scratch clarifying my status in apologetics "I admit it; I'm a petty, petty man." -Some Schmo
Moniker wrote:Well, with an earlier reply you talked about the good of children. It's wise for children to come into a family that struggles with finances, career, school, etc.... ????????
Yep.
Explain why. :)
If you remember your parents being broke you won't expect the affluence they might have now when you first get married. :)
I was born when my parents were struggling and saw them struggle through much of my childhood. I think it was a great thing to learn. I kinda wish my younger siblings could have been around for some of it. Gave me a healthy sense of perspective.
"Surely he knows that DCP, The Nehor, Lamanite, and other key apologists..." -Scratch clarifying my status in apologetics "I admit it; I'm a petty, petty man." -Some Schmo
Moniker wrote:Explain why the teen years and early twenties are an ideal time to get married. The school issue is going off-topic.
It's when you're doing most of your developing of an identity. What better time to select a spouse so that the identity you develop will match theirs in many ways because you are together.
Interesting point. One does get set in one's ways as one gets older. Youth, if it means anything, means flexibility (don't take that too literally Moniker...)
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Moniker wrote:Explain why the teen years and early twenties are an ideal time to get married. The school issue is going off-topic.
It's when you're doing most of your developing of an identity. What better time to select a spouse so that the identity you develop will match theirs in many ways because you are together.
Interesting point. One does get set in one's ways as one gets older. Youth, if it means anything, means flexibility (don't take that too literally Moniker...)
I can put my foot behind my head. I've chosen to remain flexible. :)
"Surely he knows that DCP, The Nehor, Lamanite, and other key apologists..." -Scratch clarifying my status in apologetics "I admit it; I'm a petty, petty man." -Some Schmo
Moniker wrote:Explain why the teen years and early twenties are an ideal time to get married. The school issue is going off-topic.
It's when you're doing most of your developing of an identity. What better time to select a spouse so that the identity you develop will match theirs in many ways because you are together.
Precisely! You are developing an identity! You learn precisely who you are and you CHANGE. How can you commit yourself to someone and then watch them change from the person they were and you change from the person you were without it causing serious friction? You assume people being together means they will become meshed personality wise somehow. It is wiser to form an identity FIRST and then meet someone compatible with that formed identity.
Moniker wrote:Well, with an earlier reply you talked about the good of children. It's wise for children to come into a family that struggles with finances, career, school, etc.... ????????
Yep.
Explain why. :)
If you remember your parents being broke you won't expect the affluence they might have now when you first get married. :)
I was born when my parents were struggling and saw them struggle through much of my childhood. I think it was a great thing to learn. I kinda wish my younger siblings could have been around for some of it. Gave me a healthy sense of perspective.
So, it's wise for children to be born into poverty stricken homes where the parents have no successful career and no education. Wow. Ooookay! :)
Moniker wrote:Explain why the teen years and early twenties are an ideal time to get married. The school issue is going off-topic.
It's when you're doing most of your developing of an identity. What better time to select a spouse so that the identity you develop will match theirs in many ways because you are together.
Precisely! You are developing an identity! You learn precisely who you are and you CHANGE. How can you commit yourself to someone and then watch them change from the person they were and you change from the person you were without it causing serious friction? You assume people being together means they will become meshed personality wise somehow. It is wiser to form an identity FIRST and then meet someone compatible with that formed identity.
Because when you're together your identities change together.
"Surely he knows that DCP, The Nehor, Lamanite, and other key apologists..." -Scratch clarifying my status in apologetics "I admit it; I'm a petty, petty man." -Some Schmo
Moniker wrote:So, it's wise for children to be born into poverty stricken homes where the parents have no successful career and no education. Wow. Ooookay! :)
No, it's better when they're good people out to get an education and build a career. I watched my father go from living frugally on little to millionare. That's a good home to grow up in. I might be biased though. ;)
"Surely he knows that DCP, The Nehor, Lamanite, and other key apologists..." -Scratch clarifying my status in apologetics "I admit it; I'm a petty, petty man." -Some Schmo
Moniker wrote:Explain why the teen years and early twenties are an ideal time to get married. The school issue is going off-topic.
It's when you're doing most of your developing of an identity. What better time to select a spouse so that the identity you develop will match theirs in many ways because you are together.
Precisely! You are developing an identity! You learn precisely who you are and you CHANGE. How can you commit yourself to someone and then watch them change from the person they were and you change from the person you were without it causing serious friction? You assume people being together means they will become meshed personality wise somehow. It is wiser to form an identity FIRST and then meet someone compatible with that formed identity.
Because when you're together your identities change together.