A tithing/temple hypothetical

[_krose]

Good question. I don't know, but it seems like when I was a SAHM with no income, the expectation was the household was a full tithe payer, as opposed to just the one who was the wage earner. It might have just been my ward, or even just my own expectation.

That's the very question I'm curious about. Might there be some expectation of payment on some portion of the household income? Because in this case there would be zero tithing paid.

Wouldn't your siblings or parents know you were lying?

No, not likely. The sticky part would be in the unlikely case that any of them actually asked if I really believed it all again. Lying to them would be more difficult, and I doubt that I would. But this is really a hypothetical exercise after all. I'm just curious.

[_Yoda]

I think you would be fine. If you are not earning any money, you cannot be expected to pay anything. You would be considered a full tithe payer.

[_quaker]

Do you siblings know why you don't attend meetings?

Do they still want you at their sealings even though you think the event is a farce and you had to lie to get there?

[_Yoda]

Do you siblings know why you don't attend meetings?

Do they still want you at their sealings even though you think the event is a farce and you had to lie to get there?

Why wouldn't they? It's a matter of wanting family at a wedding.

[_collegeterrace]

Do you siblings know why you don't attend meetings?

Do they still want you at their sealings even though you think the event is a farce and you had to lie to get there?

So what, krose lies to get into the Mormon house of lies. Big whoop.

Have you ever lied? Like to get a kid fare for a slightly older child????

Whats the diff?

Personally, I tell the family members to kiss off, that you know too much about the origins of the so-called sacred ceremony. Besides that, Mormon temple weddings are bland, boring, and cookie cutter as you can get.

[_krose]

Do you siblings know why you don't attend meetings?

Do they still want you at their sealings even though you think the event is a farce and you had to lie to get there?

I'm completely open about my departure from faith -- if anyone asks I'll tell them all about it, but few ask. If I ever did choose to get re-baptized and jump through all of the necessary hoops, I'm sure my return to the fold would be hailed by my dear family members as the miracle they have been praying for all these years. My sweet elderly mother could shed some of the guilt feelings I'm sure she has, and be a bit more at peace in her final days.

You know, it's a very difficult line to walk, between being true to oneself and avoiding causing pain to loved ones. I chose the first option, knowing full well how the family would feel. But I certainly understand those disbelievers who choose to remain in the closet. It's not pleasant to disappoint people who love you, even if it's the right thing for yourself.

I know that people blame themselves when they 'lose' one of their own to the dark side. My parents were always so proud that every one of their baker's dozen grew up and stayed faithful, an accomplishment that the ward members often praised them for. That perfect record is certainly tarnished now. It's sad, but it's the reality of Mormon life.