No big receptions if not married in the temple?

[_harmony]

No reception is ever held in the chapel. The reception is held in the cultural hall/gym. Hence the jokes about decorating the basketball hoops.

Instead of chapel, I suspect you mean church house/ward building.

[Guest]

SatanWasSetUp:

IS THE RECEPTION GOING TO BE HELD IN THE CHAPEL, OR ELSEWHERE?

PLEASE let us know! Thereupon hinges the entirety of the argument.

Yes. It will be at the church, so I suppose the bishop has a lot more control over the type of reception that will be put on. But still, I didn't know the bishop was the wedding planner.

[_SatanWasSetUp]

BC

Certainly all active believing LDS want a temple marriage for their kids and would prefer it. And the LDS leaders prefer it too. Nobody said otherwise. But when it does not happen a bishop that imposes himself like this one seems to be over stepping. He can still perform a wedding and there can be a wonderful reception for friends and family. It does not have to be some shameful event like it seems this bishop is pushing. Really it seems the be since they are doing something less than best they should hide it, be quiet about it, not celebrate at all and so on. Maybe the couple should just elope and not tell anyone at all......

Funny thing is, my niece did this. She went away for college, fell in love with a non-member and they eloped. She apparently eloped because she didn't think her parents would support her marriage to a non-member. It turns out she was right. Her parents were pissed. But they were mostly upset that she felt she had to do all this behind their back.

Just to be clear you do realize my elope comment was cynical in response to the uber dorky remarks by BC?

Oh, I knew you were being cynical. But with church culture expecting young people to be married in the temple, I can understand kids that fall short of that goal preferring to just elope. I suppose it's easier to deal with the fallout afterwards, then deal with the cultural pressures before the marriage.

[_Scottie]

Is the mother planning on throwing the reception in the church? If so, being private property, the bishop can require whatever he wants.

Is there anything more tacky than a LDS gym reception??

The lengths some people go through to save a couple hundred bucks.

[_Sethbag]

Is the mother planning on throwing the reception in the church? If so, being private property, the bishop can require whatever he wants.

Is there anything more tacky than a LDS gym reception??

The lengths some people go through to save a couple hundred bucks.

Yes, there is something more tacky than a LDS gym reception, but I find the two typically go hand in hand, so it may be a moot argument. I'm talking about people who have one small little fancy-pants "wedding cake", that nobody ever eats and it just sits on some table looking all pretty, while tiny squares of sheet cake are cut out and served to the guests instead.

To heck with the gay little sheet-cake squares! I guess I'm one of the lucky ones - at my wedding, our fancy-pants wedding cake was pretty huge, and everyone got nice, substantial slices of it to eat. That's the way it oughta be. ;-)

[_The Dude]

Yes, there is something more tacky than a LDS gym reception, but I find the two typically go hand in hand, so it may be a moot argument. I'm talking about people who have one small little fancy-pants "wedding cake", that nobody ever eats and it just sits on some table looking all pretty, while tiny squares of sheet cake are cut out and served to the guests instead.

But it is absolutely CRITICAL that this tacky LDS gym/sheet cake ritual be protected from the anti-Family homos in California who wish to defile it with gay pride.

[_harmony]

Yes, there is something more tacky than a LDS gym reception, but I find the two typically go hand in hand, so it may be a moot argument. I'm talking about people who have one small little fancy-pants "wedding cake", that nobody ever eats and it just sits on some table looking all pretty, while tiny squares of sheet cake are cut out and served to the guests instead.

But it is absolutely CRITICAL that this tacky LDS gym/sheet cake ritual be protected from the anti-Family homos in California who wish to defile it with gay pride.

Dang it all, I lose both ways. We served both sheet cakes and almost the whole freakin' wedding cake... and my gay office manager came to help us celebrate.

[_mentalgymnast]

Is the mother planning on throwing the reception in the church? If so, being private property, the bishop can require whatever he wants.

Is there anything more tacky than a LDS gym reception??

The lengths some people go through to save a couple hundred bucks.

This last summer our family went to Ventura and helped out with a wedding reception for my wife's sister's daughter and her new husband. The reception was in a LARGE cultural hall. It was not a typical cake and line gig. They went all out. So there are exceptions to the norm.

Regards,
MG

[Guest]

However, I think you're probably making it all up. lol

Guess what, BC?

I got another rise out of you? You are putty in my hands. lol

Did I ever tell you I'm a pretty good fisherman? I'm embarrassed to say it, but one of my best days fishing was on a Sunday. I caught over thirty native trout on spinners no less and still felt bad about it.

People REALLY do go through negative Church experiences based on poor stewardship. It's amazing to me that in all of your years as a member of the Church, you have never witnessed anything contrary. If that's the case, then that's great for you. You have happened upon areas which were always properly run.

But please don't do people who have experienced otherwise the disservice of discounting their experiences as being untrue, simply because you, yourself, have not witnessed such things.

That seems very narrow-minded.

You know it would seem so, but my experience with gatherings that attract a lot of antiMormons, especially of the exmo variety, tend to include a lot of "Paul H. Dunnishness". Add that to the fact that there is a whole lot of strawman arguments, lazy research, and other forms of yellow journalism and well, the credibility of these stories is close to zero if not less.

[_bcspace]

Is there anything more tacky than a LDS gym reception??

One that's held under the pavillion in the Church owned park adjacent.