I'm gonna grab you to be one of my plural wives in the CK

[Anonymous]

edited for TMI

[_Seven]

"Jersey Girl"
Just as an aside, I doubt some of us will be posting tonight.

LOL!!!!!!!

[_cinepro]

Y'all just need to get over to the horny christians forum and put yourselves out of your misery

[_Dr. Shades]

After 38 years of me responding to that question, don't you think it's about time he knows the answer???? I mean really... how many times do I have to say it? "Do this! Don't do that!" I mean... really? How many times? Is 10,000 enough?

Next time, write everything down with a magic marker, then tape it to your belly.

No, I'm not kidding.

[_harmony]

I can't find it now (maybe it was in Seven's post), but I think I'm suffering from sexuality underload. How can anyone feel sexy wearing what has to be the frumpiest underwear ever conceived? I don't mind the tops too much, but I detest the bottoms. I think that finding some way to wear some sexier underwear would help things from my end, although I'm pretty sure whatever I come up with is likely to cause major fussing from his end (this is the man who still fusses when my g's land on the floor when I'm getting ready to shower).

I keep several pairs of ulitarian white cotton panties in my car for emergency situations, but I'm contemplating buying some nice silky ones to wear in place of the bottoms (or under the bottoms if he's around when I get dressed). I need to buy news tops and bottoms anyway, because I've lost a bunch of weight and the ones I have just fall off. Then I'd have some pretties to wear, should I ever actually get in the mood again.

What do you think? A good idea? A bad idea?

[_Pokatator]

Harmony I totally respect you for your honesty on this thread. You inspire me to add my $.22, that's 2 cents and my pair of dimes. I hope my cramping fingers hold up long enough to type all this.

My first wife was really hung up sexually. She was very legalistic about obeying all the church stuff but her sexaul frustration overwhelmed her. We even had to get married yet had to live all the other little nuances of the church down to the letter.

We were married about 3 years when I discovered she had had a couple of indiscretions with a couple of other guys. I discovered that I was not getting her off. I asked about all the Oscar winning performances I witnessed face to face. She admitted to faking them. How was I to know? Also the other guys didn't get her off either. But it still had to be my fault. Of course, our church activity had become very limited out of her guilt.

So we talked and talked and bought a couple of books and experimented. We finally found that she could achieve the goal orally. Things got pretty good or at least much better. Church attendance picked up and we were doing fine. She always wanted to go the temple so we took a class and then we went for the interview and she told the Bish for whatever reason we did it orally. He beat her up verbally and we were blocked from the temple and we were back to doing it, if we did it at all, Missionary Style only. As an aside, how did it get that name?

She became very frustrated again. Years went by and she wanted to try the temple thing again. Again the individual Bishy interview and unknown to me again, bingo she tells him she masturbates. No temple again.

Of course, she is frustrated, she is filled with guilt for the acts and for blocking us both from the temple, twice. She is totally hell to live with. I couldn't understand why she couldn't keep her mouth shut. What happens in my bedroom is none of their business. Why would a Bish want to know this stuff anyway? Why inflict all this guilt on someone? There was absolutely nothing else in our lives that should have prevented us from going.

I had doubts as a kid, I had doubts about all of the church through all this process. Well more years went by, we had been married 17 years and we tried the temple stuff again with all the restrictions and frustrations. We passed.

Well the temple ceremony put me over the top with doubts and I educated my way out. I have written before on my point of view of the temple. My wife and her Bishes couldn't answer my questions. Her frustration over sex, church, guilt, temple, etc, actually everything changed and was centered on me. Long story short, the Bish literally hired a lawyer from the ward and we were divorced, pronto.

21 one years later, if you asked her..... I ruined her life and she still is a legalistic, sexually frustrated and pathetic specimen of a Mormon and a human being for that matter. The Bishes should be proud.

I went on to becoming very happy.

[_Jersey Girl]

I can't find it now (maybe it was in Seven's post), but I think I'm suffering from sexuality underload. How can anyone feel sexy wearing what has to be the frumpiest underwear ever conceived? I don't mind the tops too much, but I detest the bottoms. I think that finding some way to wear some sexier underwear would help things from my end, although I'm pretty sure whatever I come up with is likely to cause major fussing from his end (this is the man who still fusses when my g's land on the floor when I'm getting ready to shower).

I keep several pairs of ulitarian white cotton panties in my car for emergency situations, but I'm contemplating buying some nice silky ones to wear in place of the bottoms (or under the bottoms if he's around when I get dressed). I need to buy news tops and bottoms anyway, because I've lost a bunch of weight and the ones I have just fall off. Then I'd have some pretties to wear, should I ever actually get in the mood again.

What do you think? A good idea? A bad idea?

Have you ever visited a Maidenform shop, harm? I have a hunch the merchandize there would work into your plan quite nicely.

[_Jersey Girl]

"Jersey Girl"
Just as an aside, I doubt some of us will be posting tonight.

LOL!!!!!!!

I invite you to examine the time stamps of the current posts, Seven.

Was I lyin'?

[_truth dancer]

Hey Harmony...

GOOD IDEA!

I think that finding some way to wear some sexier underwear would help things from my end,

I know it sounds trite to some people but I truly believe this is a very important point.

I'm one of those who believe the "sex organ" is the brain! ;-)

It is nearly impossible to feel attractive, sexy, desirable, (or anything even remotely positive) when you are wearing something that makes you look ugly, frumpy, and seriously ridiculous.

I do wonder if the brethren keep women wearing garments as some sort of punishment or perhaps some sort of weird way to make women non-sexual, or something. I don't know, can't quite figure it out.

I wonder if some of the elderly gentlemen running the LDS church still believe sex is for procreation purposes only, or as Faust stated, marriage is only an institution for the raising of children. (sigh).

Regardless, I'm convinced garments hinder sexual relationships.

I'm thinking beautiful underwear is definitely a much needed item in your closet! :-) It is nearly Valentine's Day... treat yourself!

~td~

[_Yoda]

What do you think? A good idea? A bad idea?

A great idea, Harm!

Victoria Secret has some cute things. They can be expensive though, so wait for sales.

Target's lingerie section has some great silky options. They're usually well priced, too!