Jersey Girl wrote:
How is the wearing of garments different?
marg wrote:That's a good question. I think it's the cult like behavior involved. I've read that people even after they leave the Church feel guilty when they stop wearing them. It appears to be a big event to stop wearing them.
I think "cult like" is a convenient description and doesn't quite convey the depth of what emotions and thoughts are associated with a members decision to cease wearing garments. (Keep in mind, I'm a "never" so I'm trying to identify with the common ground that I find.)
Part of it is certainly an indoctrination process.
Now, let me try to relate to that piece. All my life I was told that the Bible was a holy book. I was to physically treat it with respect, not let it be on the floor, get dirty, turn the pages carefully because it is a sacred book. If I were to somehow lose my faith in the teachings of Christianity, decided there is no God and all of that, the very last thing on my list of things to discard in a tangible way, would be my Bible. It would be a concrete symbol of my discarded faith. Considering the hundreds of lessons I've been taught from childhood forward about and from the Bible, that'd be heck...nearly impossible for me to do and the truth is that I probably wouldn't do it even under those circumstances.
I don't see it as much as "cult like" as I do simple human nature.
Children are indoctrinated in all sorts of ways by their parents, not just religiously. Throughout childhood, they're given messages about what is important, what's significant, what's appropriate (sometimes the messages aren't healthy) and what people should "never do". When a child (even as an adult) chooses to go against what they've been taught to do (or not to do) by their parents, it's a huge deal.
I think when a member decides to stop wearing their garments, they're conscious of the fact that they're breaking away not only from their parents but also away from
the culture(or tribe as Craig calls it) that raised them. That has GOT to be difficult.
Even Harmony on here said she didn't want to wear them, but felt she had to in bed because her husband will fuss. Well he'll fuss not because he likes them but because he knows it's a a requirement by the church to wear them.
That seems true enough. Likely scenario: He wants his family to follow the doctrines of the church because he wants his family to be together in the afterlife. Harmony wants to be with her husband in THIS life at least and sometimes she bends to accomodate him (or the church) and other times not. Harmony, I think after reading her for so long, places more emphasis on spiritual things and less importance on "outward" things. She'd rather focus on the condition of her heart and how her heart manifests itself in relation to others than on what she's wearing. They disagree sometimes. They wouldn't be individuals if they didn't disagree sometimes.
It's a combination of being odd behavior, (and it's very odd) in the culture surrounding them, as well as the obedience and then fear in not obeying that makes the issue of wearing them different to lots of other obligations people perform. And it's not an individual manipulating others, such as a loved one, like a mother, it's an organization, one which exhibits other cultish behaviors.
I agree with the above to the extent that the belief system is "coming down" from the church however it is facilitated by the members. Parents teaching their children the doctrines, modeling them, transmitting what is felt to be important generationally.
Letting down the church is letting down the family and the culture. It IS a big deal.
Oops. I think I just went full circle!
(Just so you know I'm going out for the evening.)
Why can't I go too?