Birds and the bees

[_Jersey Girl]

"Have you noticed that your penis changes? "(yes)

"That's called an erection, I have them too. "

See????

Forgive me, Jersey Girl, but I don't think it's necessary for Gaz to prove it by showing his own erection.

Dear Mr. Self-appointed Grammar Wizard and Spell Checker Supreme...

Please look at the quotes that wrap Gaz's part in the conversation.

Now look at the question "See????"

Is that Gaz's speaking part or mine?

Oh? What was that sound? Why, it's the sound of Dr. Shades falling off his high horse! Now, do you have anything to say about the content of my posts to Gaz in terms of whether or not you think it's good advice are are ya just gonna sit there and look up at your horse?

:-P

[_marg]

"Have you noticed that your penis changes? "(yes)

"That's called an erection, I have them too. "

See????

Forgive me, Jersey Girl, but I don't think it's necessary for Gaz to prove it by showing his own erection.

LOL...You got to admit J.G. that's very funny. I thought the same thing when I read that part you wrote. It's about the funniest line I've read on this board ever.

[_Dr. Shades]

Dear Mr. Self-appointed Grammar Wizard and Spell Checker Supreme...

Please look at the quotes that wrap Gaz's part in the conversation.

Now look at the question "See????"

Is that Gaz's speaking part or mine?

Oh? What was that sound? Why, it's the sound of Dr. Shades falling off his high horse!

When it comes to proper grammar vs. an extremely good joke, well, the joke takes priority. marg gets it.

Now, do you have anything to say about the content of my posts to Gaz in terms of whether or not you think it's good advice are are ya just gonna sit there and look up at your horse?

Neither. Like marg, I'm going to continue to laugh at how well you set the joke up.

[_Jersey Girl]

LOL...You got to admit J.G. that's very funny. I thought the same thing when I read that part you wrote. It's about the funniest line I've read on this board ever.

That's fine, marg. If there's a erection in it, you can count on Shades to be right on top of it.

[_Seven]

Great comments everyone. I'm interested about how to approach this topic with my oldest as well. She's in 3rd grade, the same age I found out from my friends. One of my 3rd grade friends told me her parents demonstrated it! (they were hippies)
My parents never had the talk with us.
In 5th grade we had the embarrassing sex ed video.

All she knows at this point is that I have eggs in my tummy that make babies. I've told her that "Daddy helps fertilize the eggs" and waited for questions but kept it simple. I'm concerned if I tell her any anatomical details, it will become something she will get silly about and blab to her younger siblings.

I don't think she's mature enough to deal with it but I don't want her learning it from friends at school either.

[_Dr. Shades]

If there's a erection in it, you can count on Shades to be right on top of it.

You must have me confused with someone else. I have never been, am not, and will never be a bone smuggler.

[_marg]

LOL...You got to admit J.G. that's very funny. I thought the same thing when I read that part you wrote. It's about the funniest line I've read on this board ever.

That's fine, marg. If there's a erection in it, you can count on Shades to be right on top of it.

Ok if we are being serious here, and the topic is sex education, it's better to be open and honest about it than uptight. And it's normal to be interested than to not be interested. There should be no shame in being interested, showing a healthy interest, and joking about sex. So if Shades shows interest, good for him, he's normal

I don't remember exactly what I said to my kids. The basics they learn from their friends. It's the stuff people don't talk about which in my opinion is probably more important for them, but that's for when they are teens. And perhaps knowing about STD's is extremely important as well.

I believe I was about 7 years old when a friend explained intercourse to me. Although I thought it sounded rather strange and I was a skeptic then, I believed them and never questioned the procedure from that time forward. It seemed to make sense, I mean how else could babies come about. My mom's way of talking about it was to leave a booklet about menstruation in my bedroom. And I never faulted her for not talking with me. If it made her uncomfortable so be it. The sort of information I could have used and my husband as well, was not taught in school and not even discussed with friends. And that was more about lovemaking techniques.

So I have no advice on what a parent should tell their kids. They learn from other kids, from school and the parents input is dependent on how much they know, how comfortable they are in discussing and just how far and detailed they are willing to explain..plus how confortable the kid is with it or wants to listen.

[_Jersey Girl]

If there's a erection in it, you can count on Shades to be right on top of it.

You must have me confused with someone else. I have never been, am not, and will never be a bone smuggler.

I want to apologize to you for that remark, Shades. It was in very poor taste and wrong of me.

Jersey Girl

[_moksha]

My wife went down to the school to preview the film they want to show to the kids, and she said no way in hell is he going to see that.

They show an animated penis getting an erection and ejaculating. Does that seem appropriate to show to 5th graders? We wont be signing the permission slip.

Don't worry, he can get it from his school chums, along with some interesting misunderstandings arising from a 5th graders faulty perception processing.

I would go with the books that got Cinepro's endorsement.

[_Yoda]

Let him identify with you as the older male guide.

Jersey Girl brings out a really good point here. I think that this is crucial. One thing that made things easy talking with the girls about puberty, sex, etc. for me, was simply utilizing the fact that we are the same gender. (For example, I have periods....this is what I go through....these are tampons......this is a bra....etc.)

With my son, my husband has started, and will continue to take a more active role in answering questions about his body, and the changes that happen.

Men tend to have a more difficult time talking about this kind of thing, but, really, to be a good parent....I think you guys need to get over it.