Jersey Girl wrote:
An umemphathetic person doesn't devote 23 years to serving others.
Devoting 23 years to serving others does not preclude you from being unempathetic. You have not experienced what he has. Look at how you react to criticism on this board, with being unable to just accept it. I can just imagine how well you would have faired in a place like that which would use humilation and lack of privileges to improve your behaviors.
by the way, try to control your narcissism and refrain from making this all about you. You've been critical of me in this thread, I don't go on about it.
Having said that, the spiritual component is clearly stated on the website. So long as the issue is minor children, parents have a right to make decisions on behalf of their child. What you see as "forcing religion on to individuals" is a parental choice.
And what have I said before? The legal rights of under 18 year olds is poor. Is your point that the way it is, is the way it should be? Because if so, I disagree with you.
You have no evidence of a one program fits all treatment plan.
I've looked into the issue and other beh. mod schools use a one program fits all. The fact that they inform parents to not listen to their child's complaint leads me to believe, they use a punishment system to control. It's not an automatic that most youth should complain.
You have no evidence that independent professionals are not involved in the intake process.
From my readings on the net these places don't make it a requirement and why should they? Now if you know differently, that it is a legal requirement don't' hold us in suspense. If it is not a legal requirement then it stands to reason youth will be admitted without independent prof. assessment because it's in the financial interest of the institution.
Infact, had you examined the website, you'd see that you are wrong.
That place can not be responsible for assessing the youth they accept. They have a vested interest in accepting for financial reasons.
Most any troubled child is going to be resistant to being admitted/enrolled to a residential program. Thus the heads up to parents.
That's one way of looking at if you wish.
Eric has presented the ranch in terms of present abuse. If he or someone else has evidence of present abuse, it needs to be reported.
You've been saying that, but you've given him no indication of what sort of abuse they should report. What you keep doing is downplaying that the treatment Eric has mentioned is abusive. You are very much like a bureaucrat, in that you come across with a response of 'this is the way it is and this is the way it should be and this is the way it's going to be...because parents, and private treatment places can do as they please with youth, as long as its not currently legislated against'. That's real helpful J.G.
I understand why you'd like me to make good on my statement regarding lack of interest in the thread, however, so long as you present yourself as under-informed, I'll probably be back here.
I never thought for a moment you would actually leave the thread as you said.
What you are doing on this thread, marg, isn't helping Eric.
I've not offered advice to him. I don't presume to know more than lawyers, I don't necessarily accept everything he says without some skepticism. I have though looked into the issue and know that his experiences are consistent with other private behavior modification places.
I'm not interested in being a devil's advocate or trying to prepare him for some court case, or in trying to find fault.