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_cinepro
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Someone actually wrote this...

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I'm getting married in two weeks. I've never had any "persecution" for being a member, until now. All of my extended family are refusing to come because they can't enter the temple. And it's not even like they're sad about it - they just don't seem to care. My grandma originally said she'd be thrilled to come, but she wrote me an email last night saying that she'd changed her mind because she can't see the ceremony.

I'm very hurt. I thought I was close with my extended family, but their actions speak otherwise. I tried posting my feelings to a wedding community I'm a part of, and everyone pretty much said "serves you right, I don't blame them," which just made me feel worse.


Huh?
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LOL. That's funny. It's like someone inviting you to their house party but making you sit out on their front lawn until the party is over. And she has no idea why her famiy is offended?
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Seem like there is a bit more to this story.

I'm sure that everyone was all gung ho, ready to come and then suddenly EVERYONE changed their minds. Uh huh. Real life works that way, huh?

I liked one of the suggestions. Do a ring ceremony.

I'm not sure why more LDS couples don't do this. Have a civil wedding, then get sealed later. Everyone wins.
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I'm not sure why more LDS couples don't do this. Have a civil wedding, then get sealed later. Everyone wins.


That places temple marriage in a secondary position which is contrary to what the Church is all about. However, what my daughter is doing this week is getting sealed in morning and walking down the isle (no bishop, no preacher, but repleat with all the attendants) later in the afternoon after the luncheon to exchange rings.
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bcspace wrote:
I'm not sure why more LDS couples don't do this. Have a civil wedding, then get sealed later. Everyone wins.


That places temple marriage in a secondary position which is contrary to what the Church is all about. However, what my daughter is doing this week is getting sealed in morning and walking down the isle (no bishop, no preacher, but repleat with all the attendants) later in the afternoon after the luncheon to exchange rings.


In other words, a totally meaningless ceremony simply to appease her conscious.
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In other words, a totally meaningless ceremony


I agree.

simply to appease her conscious.


Actually, it appeases the various temple ineligible members of the family on both sides. I don't think such appeasement is necessary and in fact serves to cover the need to give incentive for these people to become eligible. But I don't plan the weddings in my family, the women do. I have taught the correct principle and they are governing themselves.
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The single worst thing I have ever done in my lifetime was to get married in the temple.

The single best thing I have ever done was marrying my current bride at a public ceremony at a Bed & Breakfast in Pinehurst, North Carolina.


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Harmony,

In other words, a totally meaningless ceremony simply to appease her conscious.


I got this one: Conscience
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harmony wrote:
bcspace wrote:
That places temple marriage in a secondary position which is contrary to what the Church is all about. However, what my daughter is doing this week is getting sealed in morning and walking down the isle (no bishop, no preacher, but repleat with all the attendants) later in the afternoon after the luncheon to exchange rings.


In other words, a totally meaningless ceremony simply to appease her conscious.

And how is that different than every other wedding ceremony? ;)
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John Larsen wrote:
harmony wrote:In other words, a totally meaningless ceremony simply to appease her conscious.

And how is that different than every other wedding ceremony? ;)


I wouldn't know. I was married in the temple, without my parents or any other member of my family. Single stupidiest thing I've ever done, and I've a long list of stupid things.
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