EAllusion wrote:I don't know. Parents have a duty to be just in the rules they lay out. No one expects them to be perfect in that role, but if it goes too far, I think a teenager is perfectly justified in breaking the rules. Parents aren't dictators or property owners. They are guardians.
Secondarily, I think it is important that as a teenager gets older, they get gradually more and more autonomy in their decision making. It's not the only path, but it probably is the best one to fostering a smooth transition to responsible adulthood.
Gaz's views are pretty monstrous, but in this format he's getting an odd pride out of it. I'm not sure it is productive to even engage the matter.
Actually, parents ARE property owners. No, we don't
own our children, but we do own our homes, and we have a right to deem what type of activity we feel is appropriate to occur in our homes.
Also, sometimes, as a parent, you ARE a dictator. It's not an easy role....and normally your kids hate it...but...let's face it....When I tell my kid she has to have her homework done before going out on a school night, she has to have her homework done before going out on a school night. That is not up for debate.
I do agree that as a child gets older, he/she should gain more autonomy in his/her decision-making. However, this autonomy, or trust, is something that is earned.