"Are you on your period or something?" and other sexist remarks

[Res Ipsa]

That's a really good illustration of the defense mechanism at work. I didn't say or imply any of those things. But rather than address what I actually said, you flipped out and then became outraged over the conclusions you jumped to. I made a comment about a defense mechanism I've seen many times in action, and you went straight to men should just shut the “F” up. It's a straw man built to feed outrage. That's the mechanism.

And look how well it works! You get to tell at least two, maybe now three, people to “F” off and you never have to think about what they are saying.

This is absolute B.S., RI. I'm disappointed you're not being more discerning. You've bought into an arbitrary rule and now you can't see around it.

And please save the "you don't have to think about it" crap. It's just as easy for me to say you haven't listened to a word I've said either. You can cop out all you want and not listen to me because I disagree with your B.S. generalization, but it's as transparent as hell.

I’ve listened to your argument dozens of times in various places, considered the argument itself and the effect it has in conversations about sexism and racism. I’ve reached my own conclusions, which I’ve expressed. I’d be happy to respond in detail to your last two posts, but not in this thread. I’m not going to participate in a process that I believe perpetuates the problem.

[Moksha]

I’m not going to participate in a process that I believe perpetuates the problem.

This whole thread has been destructive. I've participated in the pro-feminist side of arguments in the past. Now I will steer as far clear from them as possible.

[Lem]

I’m not going to participate in a process that I believe perpetuates the problem.

This whole thread has been destructive. I've participated in the pro-feminist side of arguments in the past. Now I will steer as far clear from them as possible.

What an utterly inappropriate conclusion to come to. It's too bad, because I think you have misinterpreted where the problem lies, as well as the process to which the poster was referring.

[Lem]

It’s what men do in conversations about sexism. They make it about the men. They will endlessly dissect the remark in question to assure each other that it’s okay because the guy who made the remark didn’t mean to be sexist. And that’s how sexist language persists.

While I agree this may be generally true, there are exceptions, and to believe otherwise is to have your head up your ass. It's toxic, because it's a new kind of dogma.

Please correct your quotation. I did not say that.

[Jersey Girl]

I’m not going to participate in a process that I believe perpetuates the problem.

This whole thread has been destructive. I've participated in the pro-feminist side of arguments in the past. Now I will steer as far clear from them as possible.

How and to whom has this whole thread been destructive?

[honorentheos]

It would help the discussion if all parties recognize being an asshole may not always be a choice, but how one decides to respond when it's pointed out typically is a choice. The thread is a case study in asshole behavior justification.

[Jersey Girl]

It would help the discussion if all parties recognize being an asshole may not always be a choice, but how one decides to respond when it's pointed out typically is a choice. The thread is a case study in asshole behavior justification.

22 pages and you nail it in one sentence.

[Doctor CamNC4Me]

I’m not going to participate in a process that I believe perpetuates the problem.

This whole thread has been destructive. I've participated in the pro-feminist side of arguments in the past. Now I will steer as far clear from them as possible.

Good Lord, you’re still acting like the victim. Did you not get enough attention writing for the Trib? “F”. At least read the opening post you dill weed.

- Doc

[Moksha]

This whole thread has been destructive. I've participated in the pro-feminist side of arguments in the past. Now I will steer as far clear from them as possible.

Good Lord, you’re still acting like the victim. Did you not get enough attention writing for the Trib? “F”. At least read the opening post you dill weed.

- Doc

F off. I do not want any further insults from you.

[Chap]

Please, mother, make it stop!