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Jersey Girl wrote:Buffalo

Yeah, that's pretty bad. I'd say as bad as Will, but not worse.


Really. Tell you what, Buffalo, do me the courtesy of searching on the word "pissflaps".

Your search results will lead you to Cam's original use of the phrase and also lead you to a thread created by Ray A with regards to sexual harassment on this board.

These kinds of threads such as the one we're posting on, are cyclical. In my view, after a steady diet of such behavior, a community uprising takes place. Rules and policies are instituted and then, over a period of time, it happens again.

As I stated previously in the thread, I would like to see the rules enforced. Many of the Universal Rules were decided upon by the community as a response to Ray A's harassment thread and a few other things that were stirring at the time.

The rules aren't being acted upon here. I see no reason for example, for these memegenerator links to be present on this board. I likewise see NO reason for Facebook links to be present on this board.

It is as if the board has become a never ending loop of "I'll find out who you are and embarrass the hell out of you with it" and what has that got to do with "discussion"?


Okay, "pissflaps" is worse than Will's remarks. But that wasn't the one I was responding to.

Cam, you should apologize sincerely and knock of that sort of BS.
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I think that heterosexual men who refer to the gendered aspects of women's bodies in a way that denigrates them are either:

(a) Sexually inexperienced

or

(b) Very ungrateful.
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Belmont,

If you have documentation and would like to post it, go ahead. Please provide links.



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beastie wrote:Are we to assume that most MDD posters knew about the Graham pictures but didn't bother to condemn them? I don't. I assume that they, like me, just didn't know what was going on. I think the vast majority of posters on either board would condemn both what was done to Juliann and Kevin.

I don't know if most were aware, but I do think more were aware than have conceded it. Only one bothered saying anything about it before MDD brought it up and did so on the thread discussing the memes (as I recall). I don't disagree that most would condemn what happened to Juliann and Kevin.

Yes, this board has more vulgarity than the more strictly moderated MDD, but certainly no more insults. Yes, this board tolerates some posters that MDD would ban, but that is Shades's libertarian vision (with which I don't entirely agree, by the way.) But I think assuming that the majority of posters on this board approved of what was done to Juliann is a different type of vulgarity.

I don't know that this is necessarily about the majority of posters. This is similar to other thoughts you had from Pahoran's thread. As Pahoran wishes that thread to no longer discuss Will, I will make my remarks here.

beastie wrote:
asbestosman wrote:Oh, you mean a group can be held responsible for the actions of one person? That's an interesting admission there. I wonder why it only seems to apply in that case. Perhaps I should read on.


No, that's not what I mean. If it were, that's what I would have said. I said, and I think pretty clearly, that Will's behavior would REFLECT poorly on the MI. That is far different than saying the MI should be held responsible for his actions.

This is just a reality of life. When a business organization hires a celebrity for advertisements, if that celebrity is caught doing something horrible, that celebrity will be dropped. Why? No one is saying that the business is "responsible" for the celebrity's actions. But what the business knows is that the actions of the celebrity has the potential of negatively affecting their business, anyway.

I apologize for misreading you. I think that's fair enough. Can I amend my statement to say that it reflects poorly on our board that have certain vulgar posters here? That doesn't mean each individual here bears responsibility, but such folks can reflect negatively on the nature of this board.

You mean like this board. I suppose that goes without saying. Of course, it's hard to think too highly of a board that doesn't have much of a vested interest in even the appearance of decency and morality--at least until the lights are turned on it.


Oh, please. How many times have board members protested the vulgar actions of others aside from Will? Quite a bit.

You are correct that many board members have protested actions of posters such as PP, Thews, and Dr. Cam. Many here also protested non-vulgar but undeserved actions such as Sockpuppet's words about Daniel Peterson and BDM. So you are right that many posters do in fact condemn bad behavior regardless of the source.

I think it's the board's (or more precisely Shades') libertarian vision, though, that fosters an environment where the most vile of things are found. In that sense, the board (not the board members, but the board as an environment) has no interest in the appearance of decency. If we put more limits in place, it lowers the incentive for certain kinds of nastiness. If Shades routinely deleted the most vile of comments, tempers might not flare quite as much. If no links were allowed to the nasty memes, it would be less likely to happen because the trolls who did it wouldn't receive much of a reaction. By removing links to it and banning discussion of it, the troublemakers wouldn't bother doing it--too boring.

The other part to be aware of is the tribalism that goes on. When we start pointing fingers of suspicion only at the other side, we're engaging in tribalism. When we refuse to reflect on how we could have acted better, we are in danger. Many of us here are not guilty and I'm quite sure Nemesis isn't literally referring to the whole board. As I mentioned, Nemesis is unlikely to blame Daniel Peterson, Nehor, or even EAllusion despite the fact that EAllusion is a critic. Chris Smith is also a likely candidate for being guiltless and many more individuals probably don't bear much if any guilt. Sadly, my guess is that those who should feel the most guilty (the actual culprits and secondarily supporter in the know if any) probably don't in the least. Such individuals routinely offer apologies when their behavior is discovered and they are called on the carpet for it. Yet they often betray that are not truly penitent. They're just sorry we won't agree with them.

This situation is bigger than just Will or the memes. It extends to the mockery thread and Doctor Scratch's delusions about Daniel Peterson as well. How much guilt does an individual bear for participating in that? It probably depends on the individual's participation and support in such things. Some here have condemned Scratch in the past, but most of us got tired of essentially talking to a brick wall on that issue. In fact, that may be part of the reason few here routinely condemn all bad actions. When a thread is dedicated to condemning bad actions (like memes or vulgarity), many people will jump on the thread to condemn the bad behavior. However, if it's merely part of another thread, then often times it's just some of the same old trash from the usual dispensers.
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Asbestosman,

I agree with your last post. And yes, that some posters here are very vulgar does reflect poorly on MD.

I wish I had an easy answer for how to run a board such as this. I liked the way ZLMB was run, back before a significant number of actively posting believers decided that they could not tolerate a board that had even-handed rules and moderation. It was moderated by a team of believers and nonbelievers, with explicit rules and attempts at blind justice. I say attempts because one can only be so blind due to human bias. But the reality is that type of moderation requires a significant number of moderators AND time and energy on their part. I know, I was one, and by the end of my time as a mod I was so burned out with moderating that I swore I'd never moderate another board again. So since I'm not willing to devote my time and energy to the type of moderating that a ZLMB-like board was run, I don't feel that I have the right to demand one.

There are times when I have been tempted to leave the board in disgust due to the frequent antics of a few. But for some reason I come back, or don't leave. I don't know why.
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Buffalo wrote:Cam, you should apologize sincerely and knock of that sort of BS.


Hello Mr. Buffalo,

I have & I have. I also retracted my apology to Ms. Girl because she's crazy. In my last back & forth with her, that she started (her M.O. is blow into town, start crap, and then sit back and get "laugh mileage" out of it) I was deliberate to insult her with non-gender terms.

So, I learned that lesson. No further apologies to her, though. Nopers. Bottom line she's on Ignore as is Mr. Simon so I can't & don't care to read what either of those two fools have to say.

I do find it interesting that she regularly teams up with the likes of Mr. Simon & Droopy to stir the pot...

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Simon Belmont wrote:
sock puppet wrote:Hey, Simon, let's see you prepare an OP about Cam along the lines of what MsJack prepared regarding Will Schryver's misogyny.


That would be a waste of time and effort. You can simply ask Jersey Girl.

Can you point us to two clear-cut examples of Cam's alleged misogyny?
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Simon Belmont wrote:
sock puppet wrote:Hey, Simon, let's see you prepare an OP about Cam along the lines of what MsJack prepared regarding Will Schryver's misogyny.


That would be a waste of time and effort. You can simply ask Jersey Girl.



sock puppet wrote:Can you point us to two clear-cut examples of Cam's alleged misogyny?


Higher up this page you will find references to two examples of disparaging expressions referring to the female sexual anatomy.
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Hello Mr. Sockpuppet,

This was from an old thread where a group of women were suggesting they were going to leave because they were being sexually harrassed:

I stated:

I seriously have no idea what's going on. This is why I have a "no PM" policy. I like to keep everything above the board. I rarely, if ever, will allow a PM to go beyond one message.

Whatever. I think Beastie has excellent posts, and incredible insight. I like Harmony because she's willing to scrutinize her church. I didn't like Jersey Girl because she's a b**** with nothing to contribute. Charity would be fine if she were a little more like Harmony. I have no idea who Moniker is beyond the thread she recently started. Liz is pretty cool; I like her easy-goin' style. Hrm... I can't really think of other females off the top of my head.

That aside, if someone is messin' with you put them on ignore for f***'s sake. It's too easy. Jesus.


For a misogynist I certainly like and respect a lot of women. That's kinda odd...

Anyway, the dynamic duo are just butthurt because of the Will thread. Tell you what Weirdo #1 and Weirdo #2, when I re-convert to Mormonism and start publishing LDS-related material you have my permission contact the Maxwell Institute. Until then I'm pleased to see I'm following my own advice... Cheers!

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Doctor CamNC4Me wrote:For a misogynist I certainly like and respect a lot of women. That's kinda odd...


Will Schryver said the same thing.

...butthurt...


Ah, an anti-Homosexual comment. Not surprising
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