harmony wrote: So the #1 reason for a couple staying together is because they have money? So the "us vs the world" or "we'll tackle this together" mentality isn't present? And wives stay with husbands mainly because they're a paycheck? That says something about the strength of today's marriages.
I think that he was saying that financial pressure can lead to stress inside a marriage that can cause a divorce. And it does happen quite often: debt, mortage problems, loss of job....all lead to a possible divorce in a marriage. But I would say that in the LDS families the stress may be of a different matter and not financial.
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3sheets2thewind wrote:get everything in writing and don't agree to anything. and get a lawyer. ask for primary custody.
What about joint custody?
and to address the other question Why would I suggestion primary custody.
Most states have child support, the primary custodial parent is usually the one with the children more and has authority over the children regarding most major decision concerning the child until the child is 18. So from a financial standpoint, not paying child support is a something to go for, hence primary custody. From a life decisions standpoint regarding children being to make those decisions seems better than having someone else makes those descisions. lastly all too often the father is raked over the coals in a divorce or separation issue. ---------------------- Speaking of that, get the children back with you. Or atleast establish a very regular if not 3 -4 times a week visitation with you children.