Signs of an abusive partner/spouse/church

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Re: Signs of an abusive partner/spouse/church

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Buffalo wrote:Go ahead, I'm listening.

I think stem is trying to say that "the church" should not be held accountable for the actions of the people of the church when they are acting outside of the authority of the church.... which the MMM saints were.

Of course, arguments can (and have) been made that there is fairly heavy circumstantial evidence that BY ordered the massacre, but that is a whole other topic.
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Characterizing the church's behavior as abusive is insulting to all those who live in actual abusive situations.

Anyone can leave the church anytime they want. That is not the case in many if not most abusive situations.
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Scottie wrote:
Buffalo wrote:Go ahead, I'm listening.

I think stem is trying to say that "the church" should not be held accountable for the actions of the people of the church when they are acting outside of the authority of the church.... which the MMM saints were.

Of course, arguments can (and have) been made that there is fairly heavy circumstantial evidence that BY ordered the massacre, but that is a whole other topic.


I'm not sure that was the case. Any organization must take responsibility for the decisions of its leadership. And given the small size of the church at that time, If I recall correctly the leadership of the church directly involved in MMM were accountable for a sizable proportion of the church itself.
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Re: Signs of an abusive partner/spouse/church

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harmony wrote:Characterizing the church's behavior as abusive is insulting to all those who live in actual abusive situations.

Anyone can leave the church anytime they want. That is not the case in many if not most abusive situations.


That's the point I was going for. Thanks Harmony.
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harmony wrote:Anyone can leave the church anytime they want. That is not the case in many if not most abusive situations.

Bull.

By this logic I could just as easily say that anybody can leave an abusive relationship any time they want.

I don't believe that, and I don't believe that adherants of religion can simply leave any time they want. There are much more powerful factors at play.
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harmony wrote:Characterizing the church's behavior as abusive is insulting to all those who live in actual abusive situations.

Anyone can leave the church anytime they want. That is not the case in many if not most abusive situations.


That's the case now, I concede. Not necessarily in Brigham Young's church. But yes, you can leave now. Of course, an abused woman can leave a bad relationship too. But there will be consequences.
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Re: Signs of an abusive partner/spouse/church

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Buffalo wrote:I'm not sure that was the case. Any organization must take responsibility for the decisions of its leadership. And given the small size of the church at that time, If I recall correctly the leadership of the church directly involved in MMM were accountable for a sizable proportion of the church itself.


What was the proportion? I'm not sure you're making a good case on this, but I'd like to know the proportion anyway.

On top of that, your initial argument was that the Church, currently, is abusive. Not that 150 plus years ago something happened that can be characterized as the Church being abusive. Everyone here seems to agree--the Church has changed to some extent.
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Re: Signs of an abusive partner/spouse/church

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Harmony, I should have clarified: the topic of this thread is emotional abuse, not physical abuse.
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Buffalo wrote: Any organization must take responsibility for the decisions of its leadership.


Someone should probably tell the government that.
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Re: Signs of an abusive partner/spouse/church

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People who leave the church aren't beat to within an inch of their life (or beyond). The worst they suffer is divorce, and maybe loss of employment or if at BYU, time for education.
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