sethpayne wrote:My wife is very much a private person and would not appreciate me posting her picture on a message board so Dr. Cam, GTFO.
With absolutely respect,
Seth
Yes, my wife is pretty; in fact, she is stunningly beautiful. The fact that she is a strong, independent, kind, and compassionate woman who loves and supports me makes her more beautiful to me as time goes by. She's also smokin' hot! :)
That's not to say she isn't innocent; in many ways she is -- just as we all are.
Heaven knows why she finds me handsome. I figure it must be due to something other than my physical appearance because come on ... anyone on here who is friends with me on Facebook can attest to the fact I'm not exactly a looker. Of course, my hope is that she finds me handsome for the same reason I find her beautiful: love.
Now, to be a bit less sappy. Do I find my wife physically attractive? Of course. We were friends for 13 year before she finally agreed to marry me ... and I've always found her "pretty." In reality, my attraction to her has increased over the years because of who she is.
There are plenty of women who, at first glance, are very pretty. Then you take them on a date and they are rude, insulting, inconsiderate etc.... That kills the pretty factor very quickly. The opposite is true as well. In particular I remember a girl at BYU, I don't even remember her name, who when I first saw her, her physical appearance didn't overwhelm me but then I heard her sing and all of a sudden I could see how pretty she was. She was also an incredibly kind and well-rounded person.
Personally I find the article insulting to men as it implies that all we care about is physical appearance and, dare I say submissive, women. This simply isn't true. All the men I respect and admire don't look for "innocence" and an opportunity to "protect" women -- they look for women of strong character. That's not to say men don't want to protect their wives, we do. We went to see Rob Zombie and Slayer earlier this year and were down in "the pit." If any of you have seen a Slayer concert you know how insane the pit can become. I held my wife close and kept an eye out for what was an ever increasing mosh pit. There is a part of the song "Chemical Warfare" when the music becomes incredibly fast and intense and, as I heard that this part of the song was coming up I made sure to pull back a bit so that we were out of harm's way. Having seen Slayer before I knew what was coming. I have no doubt my wife could fend for herself but I also know that I'm bigger and heavier than my wife and have a better chance of knocking back a stoned 6 foot 5, 270 lb mosher. We both had a hell of a time and for me, getting bruised up a bit is part of the fun.
Now, there are times when my wife will go all out by doing her makeup in a special way or by wearing a special dress/skirt/outfit. She does this as an expression of love and appreciation for me when we go to a romantic dinner or cocktail party. She does it every time we go to our favorite cigar lounge here in the city. I try to do the same thing for her because I know she likes the way I look in a suit with a nice haircut and shave. We both want to look our best for each other but she will always know that I find her beautiful regardless of what she's wearing or how she's done her hair or makeup. I suppose it makes those times when she does "doll herself up" even more special. Not only because I love the way she looks but also because I know she went to the effort, not to please me, but because it is one way she expresses her love.
V/R
Dr. Cameron