Church callings that control our lives

[_zeezrom]

Thanks all for replying. It is true that a stake calling only takes about 10 hours per week and the Relief Society calling only takes about 9.75 hours per week of your remaining free time. This is a mere 19.75 hours from the parents. Meh.

[_LDSToronto]

Thanks all for replying. It is true that a stake calling only takes about 10 hours per week and the Relief Society calling only takes about 9.75 hours per week of your remaining free time. This is a mere 19.75 hours from the parents. Meh.

My apologies, Zee - I didn't mean to say that callings were a small draw on one's time. What I meant to say was I'd never heard of someone quitting school so that they could take a ward or stake calling.

H.

[_Runtu]

My apologies, Zee - I didn't mean to say that callings were a small draw on one's time. What I meant to say was I'd never heard of someone quitting school so that they could take a ward or stake calling.

H.

I was glad that my bishop released me because I wouldn't have asked to be released. Eventually, I'd have finished my thesis, but it would have taken a lot longer.

[_zeezrom]

Thanks all for replying. It is true that a stake calling only takes about 10 hours per week and the Relief Society calling only takes about 9.75 hours per week of your remaining free time. This is a mere 19.75 hours from the parents. Meh.

My apologies, Zee - I didn't mean to say that callings were a small draw on one's time. What I meant to say was I'd never heard of someone quitting school so that they could take a ward or stake calling.

H.

Hey no worries, LDST!

I'm at a museum looking at photos of WASPs right now.

Check it:

I am purely evil;
Hear the thrum
of my evil engine;
Evilly I come.
The stars are thick as flowers
In the meadows of July;
A fine night for murder
Winging through the sky.

Ethel Mannin (1900-1985)

Cheers

[_zeezrom]

Zee, do you have the full story on your sister? I've known a few women who have dropped out of school, but never because of a calling that either she or her husband have held. Personally, I can name three women who dropped out of school because their husbands didn't want to shoulder more responsibility.

School is tough. My wife has been in grad school for almost 3 years, and I can tell you that as much as it's tough on the student, it's also tough on the family. There are financial and time sacrifices, and everyone else has to step up to take over tasks that the student once did. There have been times, I freely admit, where I wish that my wife had not pursued grad school because life could have been easier. But, overall, allowing her to pursue a dream outweighed any temporary stress.

Maybe your sister's family wasn't able to deal with the stress of having her in school and are using the culturally acceptable excuse of service in the LDS church when asked why she quit.

H.

I just read your post in full, LDST. You make great points. I am also interested in how Mormons (my old self included) will pile on callings despite their busy schedules and important tasks like getting a college degree.

[_Darth J]

We always counsel to put family and employment first no matter what the calling. If the work or decision doesn't get done til latter, so be it. So I highly doubt any calling interferes with work or family or school unless the person is not following the counsel.

Apparently bcspace is not aware of the Church's full-time missionary program.

[_why me]

The OP is a Red Herring. We always counsel to put family and employment first no matter what the calling. If the work or decision doesn't get done til latter, so be it. So I highly doubt any calling interferes with work or family or school unless the person is not following the counsel. If said person truly can't get the calling done, the Bishop will make the change no problem.

You are correct. I would think that if zees relative is putting church before family or work, she is not following good counsel. The priority list goes like this:

family

work

church

Never should church come before family or work.

[_why me]

I just read your post in full, LDST. You make great points. I am also interested in how Mormons (my old self included) will pile on callings despite their busy schedules and important tasks like getting a college degree.

They were not following good counsel. Family and work always come before callings or church. That is just the way it is. In fact, in sunday school we just had a discussion and a bishop said that he has young people very committed to school activities and family. And he advises his youth to put such things first. No problem with missing church youth activities if it has to do with family or work. And schooling is a preparation for work.

[_Drifting]

If I recall correctly the order of priority that the Church encourages is:
1. Family
2. Work
3. Education
4. Church

So if you are struggling to find the time to do 1, 2 & 3 then it is Church that needs to be the priority to take the back seat.

Sadly, the order that I see most TBM members adhering to is:
1. Church
2. Church
3. Church
4. Some other stuff if I get the time.

[_why me]

Apparently bcspace is not aware of the Church's full-time missionary program.

And this is optional too. If there is a family problem or work problem or a health problem no problem in not going on a mission. Going on a mission is a free choice decision.