Sexual Dysfunction in Mormon Marriages

[_Drifting]

A Mormon lay can help in the beginning. Chemistry is important. But best not to be surprised on the honeymoon.

You seem to be advocating sex before marriage, really?

[_Fiannan]

Poor guys think that porn is how sex should be in reality and end up a little dissatisfied when their bedroom is not a porn movie set.

That is true. Porn can have two people having dinner and discussing fun stuff, or a walk on the beach, that winds up in the bedroom or on the sand. They can enjoy a variety of sex acts that are not degrading in the least and only say positive things to each other after they are done.

If some Mormon dude is married to a woman who sees sex as some sort of duty or something disgusting, or insists that a picture of Thomas S. Monson hang above the bed then he might wind up feeling frustrated and cheated -- especially when his wife reminds him each time they have sex that he is too demanding since he gets it twice a month.

[_ludwigm]

Mark E Mark Peterson boasting he has never seen his wife naked.

I've never seen his wife naked, either.

I don't want to, either.


There are people who are living outside of their time.
For example my wife - essentially - is living in the time zone of the middle of Atlantic. She gets to bed at 02:00 and gets up at 09:00, 3-4 hours after me. Anyway, a few hours can be bridged. I can catch her when she is changing her clothes...

Leaders of THECHURCH are living in around 1920..1930. Or in the era of Queen Victoria. Or in middle ages.
And they are accountable for this dysfunctions.


by the way look at my comment at viewtopic.php?p=584528#p584528, about unholy practices...

[_why me]

That is true. Porn can have two people having dinner and discussing fun stuff, or a walk on the beach, that winds up in the bedroom or on the sand. They can enjoy a variety of sex acts that are not degrading in the least and only say positive things to each other after they are done.

In fact, the more soft hard core porn is more successful than the other types of porn. I was just talking with a porn dealer who said that the most successful movies are soft hard core. And of course, there may be a reason for this. This type of porn is quite popular with couples and with men who save them for their own personal porn library.

[_why me]

If some Mormon dude is married to a woman who sees sex as some sort of duty or something disgusting, or insists that a picture of Thomas S. Monson hang above the bed then he might wind up feeling frustrated and cheated -- especially when his wife reminds him each time they have sex that he is too demanding since he gets it twice a month.

This would be a poor guy but the truth is that as people get older, many see sex as a chore, something that needs to be tolerated. People develop all sorts of dysfunctions that have much to do with the body and age. Many couples are in such a condition as you mentioned as one spouse may want sex more than the other.

Generally, in the old days, catholics usually had the crucifix above the bedboard hanging on the wall. It was a catholic cultural norm.

[_Two of Three]

In fact, the more soft hard core porn is more successful than the other types of porn. I was just talking with a porn dealer who said that the most successful movies are soft hard core. And of course, there may be a reason for this. This type of porn is quite popular with couples and with men who save them for their own personal porn library.

The Holy Ghost told us that really gave him the willies.

[_Drifting]

That is true. Porn can have two people having dinner and discussing fun stuff, or a walk on the beach, that winds up in the bedroom or on the sand. They can enjoy a variety of sex acts that are not degrading in the least and only say positive things to each other after they are done.

In fact, the more soft hard core porn is more successful than the other types of porn. I was just talking with a porn dealer who said that the most successful movies are soft hard core. And of course, there may be a reason for this. This type of porn is quite popular with couples and with men who save them for their own personal porn library.

Is it porn if you don't get to see the naughty bits?

[_emilysmith]

Now in marriages that are not LDS...many couples live together and actually believe that they know each other. But then, they marry and the sex life falls like autumn leaves from a vibrant tree. The 'lust' feeling goes away because sex is now official. Studies have shown that couples that have lived together for years, usually end in divorce not long after the marriage. Something changes. My take: the certificate enters the bedroom and other parts of the relationship.

I disagree.

It all comes down to evolution. Love is like a drug, where dopamine and oxytocin are flying around in the brain. Eventually, you become desensitized. This lusting in the beginning of a relationship typically lasts long enough to bring an infant to the age where they can walk. After that, the neurochemical cocktail wears off, and it is time to settle into a new type of role in your relationship, or start a new relationship.

It has nothing to do with the certificate entering the bedroom as much as it does with just being human. Sex should be about sex and two people coming together. It isn't just about having babies.

[_Hades]

In fact, the more soft hard core porn is more successful than the other types of porn. I was just talking with a porn dealer who said that the most successful movies are soft hard core. And of course, there may be a reason for this. This type of porn is quite popular with couples and with men who save them for their own personal porn library.

You sure know a lot about porn and the porn industry. You are even connected, knowing porn dealers and all.

[_just me]

Best.Thread.EVAH!

The masturbation thread from the telestial kingdom was better. No sex thread will ever top that one.

I've changed my mind anyway. This is one of the creepiest threads ever. I can only think of a few that top it.