Chap wrote:So if a member is 'troubled', because they no longer believe that the Book of Mormon is a genuine ancient text translated by Joseph Smith, or because they doubt whether Smith actually saw God, or that the Book of Abraham is anything other than fiction,or even that there is a God at all, they are surely not foolish for being so troubled. How can one make them untroubled? Perhaps by either:
1. Convincing them that the propositions that they doubt are in fact true. That seems to be the apologists' job, and I don't see how that job can be an easy one, or one conducive to low anxiety or aggression levels, given the obvious implausibility of the factual claims that have to be defended.
2. Convincing them that they can conscientiously remain as Mormons even if they disbelieve in the factual propositions referred to. The problem here seems to be that the resultant fact-free religion appears to be one that does not much resemble that proclaimed by historic or present day church leaders, or one that would be recognized by the average 'untroubled' church member if it was put before them explicitly.
So, while I can see why someone might want to keep doubting church members away from most LDS apologists who post on this and other boards, I cannot see how one can answer such a person without, in effect doing what apologists do, which is to attempt a defense of a group of factual propositions that are ultimately not likely to seem convincing to most people if the evidence is objectively examined.
Well, I don't think I have made myself sufficiently clear here. What I am saying is that, in a sense, I think John Dehlin has some things exactly right. One of those things is that you have to listen to people where they are, accept that their concerns are serious, and don't insist that they come to your point of view. This means, that, unlike the binary you present up there, my view is that you have to understand that above all you don't want people to leave feeling like the community is now their enemy. It isn't good for the person, and it isn't good for the community. There has to be room for an amicable divorce.
Such a thing already does occur, but there are enough people who are upset that I think it makes it worthwhile for the Church to explore the idea of some kind of pastoral effort to deal with troubled members. Those whose concerns can be addressed may be preserved, those who just can't stay will be able to leave without the same anger that causes them to become anti-Mormon.
As things stand, we have apologists who try to persuade people of the facts, and when they see it isn't working, they sometimes turn on the person. I recall hearing one of the apologists appear on Dehlin's show, who in that environment was saying, "hey, I know there are tough issues, but I still think it is worth staying." He wasn't throwing out judgmental, apocalyptic pronouncements about how you had to get with the program or be hewn down in the last day and so forth... I think we all know a couple of folks who prefer that stupid approach.
I thought to myself, "if only every apologist were able to be like that guy."
So, in other words, if you demand that the only worthwhile endeavor is to try to get them back and then dropkick them when they don't cooperate, no, it is not going to be worth it. But if you imagine the possibility that there may be other benefits to helping people transition more gently, to leave without thinking that the group they just left is awful, then I think you have something.
In a way, this is like the homosexuality issue. As things stand, it is difficult for the Church to do anything with the gay Mormon community except to tell them to be celibate and hang in there. At the same time, they try to acknowledge that even those gay people who leave have active family members, and there are those enlightened folk in the leadership who are beginning to see that they risk losing not just the gay person, but the entire family, if they are too unsympathetic. Even if they don't lose the family, it is bad to tear families apart and look like the kind of organization that does such things.
Now, I am not coming down of the LDS Church here, but I think that similar calculations could be made with the possible cost of having people leave ticked off. What happens to their friends and family? What kind of continued stress is it on the family unit to have a rancorous divide within the unit that is supposed to be the core of the Gospel? I would think that they might try to find ways to minimize the suffering of all and look at it as a real bonus for the Church when they succeed. Success can come in different forms:
1) The member went through a rough patch, but proper care, attention, and some explanations addressed their needs such that they stay fully believing and fully active. Family members are not at risk of leaving the Church.
2) The member transitions into a different kind of relationship with the LDS Church. Family harmony is generally preserved, although there are some trials in an adjustment period. In the end most of the family remains firmly within the community.
3) The member decides to leave, but is happy enough to have others in the family stay. Most of the rest of the family remains positive about the family member who has left, and no one is fulminating on a blog or discussion group about how stupid, awful, and cultish the Church is.
4) Obviously there will still be those who are angry and very vocal about it, but there will be fewer of them, and the Church will have a less vociferous ex-member community. It will be more post-Mormon than anti-Mormon.
Personally, I think this is worth a shot. I see it as entirely consistent with the missions of the Church, Christian principles, and the Church's institutional self-interest. I think it is a winner all around.
"Petition wasn’t meant to start a witch hunt as I’ve said 6000 times." ~ Hanna Seariac, LDS apologist