Ludd wrote:Hard to say what will happen. It's like I said in my last post---it's like we're now living in two different worlds. She told me not long ago that she feels like it's an "Invasion of the Body Snatchers" kind of deal where she woke up one day and her real husband had been replaced with a replicant. How do you respond to something like that?
It's really hard for women to have an apostate husband. Since women have no real power of their own, without a faithful priesthood holder their home becomes vulnerable to evil spirits. Now everything that goes bad for your family will be blamed on your unworthiness. Many, many, many men have gone through what you're going through. It's a no win scenerio. If you try to be the loving apostate who supports your wife in her church activity, she will go to church and hear about the evils of apostasy, and she will envy all the women who brag about their righteous husbands further fueling her animosity toward you. If you try to convince her the church is not true, you are a tool of satan. It's almost impossible for a marriage tot survive that. My TBM wife and I just try to avoid it, but she thinks I'm going to outer darkness and she will be alone in the CK. I wish I could comfort her, but what can I say? "Don't worry honey, you will be assigned a husband for the eternities"? Somehow I don't think that will comfort her. There is nothing within Mormon doctrine that will comfort her. Sad that God's plan of happiness has no answer for this situation.
"We have taken up arms in defense of our liberty, our property, our wives, and our children; we are determined to preserve them, or die." - Captain Moroni - 'Address to the Inhabitants of Canada' 1775
Ludd wrote:Hard to say what will happen. It's like I said in my last post---it's like we're now living in two different worlds. She told me not long ago that she feels like it's an "Invasion of the Body Snatchers" kind of deal where she woke up one day and her real husband had been replaced with a replicant. How do you respond to something like that?
It's really hard for women to have an apostate husband. Since women have no real power of their own, without a faithful priesthood holder their home becomes vulnerable to evil spirits. Now everything that goes bad for your family will be blamed on your unworthiness. Many, many, many men have gone through what you're going through. It's a no win scenerio. If you try to be the loving apostate who supports your wife in her church activity, she will go to church and hear about the evils of apostasy, and she will envy all the women who brag about their righteous husbands further fueling her animosity toward you. If you try to convince her the church is not true, you are a tool of satan. It's almost impossible for a marriage tot survive that. My TBM wife and I just try to avoid it, but she thinks I'm going to outer darkness and she will be alone in the CK. I wish I could comfort her, but what can I say? "Don't worry honey, you will be assigned a husband for the eternities"? Somehow I don't think that will comfort her. There is nothing within Mormon doctrine that will comfort her. Sad that God's plan of happiness has no answer for this situation.
Women with apostate husbands become second class citizens deserving of the wards pitying looks and a few, behind closed doors, comments about she wasn't faithful enough to keep her man active...
“We look to not only the spiritual but also the temporal, and we believe that a person who is impoverished temporally cannot blossom spiritually.” Keith McMullin - Counsellor in Presiding Bishopric
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